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Fabulassie

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How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« on: 26 November 2014, 01:09:39 pm »
I have to say that I don't really like it. Sometimes it doesn't bother me... I've definitely called clients "dirty little sluts" or "naughty fuckers" during bookings if they've hinted that they want it. If the guy is overall cool and it comes up during a hot part of the booking he can say "you dirty slut" and it might not bother me. But if all I've done is gone down on him and he's looking at me with a  smirk and starts saying "You dirty fucking slut" it really bothers me.

I suppose I am a dirty fucking slut. I mean, I do "dirty" things (anal, CIM); I am fucking them; and I suppose the definition of "slut" is someone who has sex with a lot of people. But when a client is saying those things I sometimes get the feeling that he's expressing contempt for women via me (or maybe just contempt for me) and I don't like it.

I generally don't say anything because I don't want to come across as a huffy, up-her-own-arse wannabe "courtesan" but I have sometimes stopped what I'm doing, looked at them a bit puzzled, and ask, "Why did you say that? Have I upset you?"
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #1 on: 26 November 2014, 01:10:32 pm »
Quote from: Fabulassie on 26 November 2014, 01:09:39 pm
I have to say that I don't really like it. Sometimes it doesn't bother me... I've definitely called clients "dirty little sluts" or "naughty fuckers" during bookings if they've hinted that they want it. If the guy is overall cool and it comes up during a hot part of the booking he can say "you dirty slut" and it might not bother me. But if all I've done is gone down on him and he's looking at me with a  smirk and starts saying "You dirty fucking slut" or "you bitch" it really bothers me. "Bitch" bothers me more than slut.

I suppose I am a dirty fucking slut. I mean, I do "dirty" things (anal, CIM); I am fucking them; and I suppose the definition of "slut" is someone who has sex with a lot of people. But when a client is saying those things I sometimes get the feeling that he's expressing contempt for women via me (or maybe just contempt for me) and I don't like it.

I generally don't say anything because I don't want to come across as a huffy, up-her-own-arse wannabe "courtesan" but I have sometimes stopped what I'm doing, looked at them a bit puzzled, and ask, "Why did you say that? Have I upset you?"
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #2 on: 26 November 2014, 01:18:09 pm »
I like it when my boyfriend says these things, haven't minded with some clients it depends on them and how the booking is going, it can be quite a horny thing.

Of course clients see stuff on porn and want to act it out, but if you don't like it then just make it clear you don't like it, it's maybe not said with contempt but we sell ourselves as a fantasy to men and for some that's part of the fantasy x
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #3 on: 26 November 2014, 01:29:44 pm »
Yes, I think it depends on context and tone etc. If it's in the heat of passion, the sex is good, and you feel comfortable with the client, it's fine with me. But if it's when you've barely started and you can tell he's getting off on being abusive because he's paid you then it's a bit unpleasant; I just ignore it in these situations.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #4 on: 26 November 2014, 01:37:52 pm »
Honestly I use them myself, I just pay no notice if a client calls me it.  As long as they dont call me babe or baby they are fine, i do not see them outside of an appointment so it does not affect me.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #5 on: 26 November 2014, 01:41:47 pm »
I'd rather be called a dirty little fuck pig than hun
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #6 on: 26 November 2014, 01:54:23 pm »
I've honestly never experienced anyone trying to call me names on the job. Is that common? O_o
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #8 on: 26 November 2014, 02:08:16 pm »
Quote from: Kendallx on 26 November 2014, 01:41:47 pm
I'd rather be called a dirty little fuck pig than hun

You took the words right out of my mouth ..... What I get called is of no consequence to me, they are only names and I couldn't give two flyings f**ks what they call me.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #9 on: 26 November 2014, 06:55:31 pm »
No, can't say I'd like to be called any of them.. Suppose it does depend what context it's in, but still, I think slut, whore
bitch etc., are pretty condescending words..
If it was in roleplay or something, fine, but if someone called me a slut or a whore out of the blue I think I'd whack him
across the head with the nearest hard object lol  ;)
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #10 on: 26 November 2014, 07:15:26 pm »
I don't like it. Each to their own, and I might even be fine with it in my personal life, but I'm still in that stage where I am terrified of every booking. I am also a very vanilla "GFE" escort so that type of thing doesn't really fit in with my style. I am very shy and dare I say self-conscious, so name-calling could really only feel degrading in the context of the type of service I offer. I'm not a great actress and I couldn't even pretend to be into it, I'd struggle to hide my disapproval!
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #11 on: 26 November 2014, 08:51:13 pm »
Quote from: Siorse on 26 November 2014, 06:55:31 pm
No, can't say I'd like to be called any of them.. Suppose it does depend what context it's in, but still, I think slut, whore
bitch etc., are pretty condescending words..
If it was in roleplay or something, fine, but if someone called me a slut or a whore out of the blue I think I'd whack him
across the head with the nearest hard object lol  ;)

Me too.  I would not appreciate it at all and as I only offer a GFE not a PSE it wouldn't be said as part of the fun so I would probably smack them one and happily tell them what I thought of their so called sexual prowess.  Prossie, prostitute etc is fine as that is what I am but calling me anything other than that would not go down well especially if said in the way some would mean it as some men are quite derogatory about us as they resent having to pay so think it ok to be downright rude.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #12 on: 26 November 2014, 09:56:53 pm »
I can't say I like it much.Normally the ones that use such terms at you are quite rough and pushy in bookings i.e forcing your head down during oral etc.They seem to think they are some sort of stud in a film and at best sound pathetic.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #13 on: 26 November 2014, 10:15:50 pm »
I know this might sound disjointed from the title, but it's not, not in my mind anyway.

I don't mind being called these names because they were just in my work place and at the end of the day I turned the key and walked away back into granny/mother mode and forgot everything that had happened.

I might have felt different if I had worked from my own personal space, but I never did, so I can't pass comment on that.
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Re: How do you feel about being called names (bitch, slut, whore, etc) in bookings?
« Reply #14 on: 26 November 2014, 11:33:36 pm »
Quote from: Fabulassie on 26 November 2014, 01:09:39 pm
I have to say that I don't really like it. Sometimes it doesn't bother me... I've definitely called clients "dirty little sluts" or "naughty fuckers" during bookings if they've hinted that they want it. If the guy is overall cool and it comes up during a hot part of the booking he can say "you dirty slut" and it might not bother me. But if all I've done is gone down on him and he's looking at me with a  smirk and starts saying "You dirty fucking slut" it really bothers me.

I suppose I am a dirty fucking slut. I mean, I do "dirty" things (anal, CIM); I am fucking them; and I suppose the definition of "slut" is someone who has sex with a lot of people. But when a client is saying those things I sometimes get the feeling that he's expressing contempt for women via me (or maybe just contempt for me) and I don't like it.

I generally don't say anything because I don't want to come across as a huffy, up-her-own-arse wannabe "courtesan" but I have sometimes stopped what I'm doing, looked at them a bit puzzled, and ask, "Why did you say that? Have I upset you?"

If you don't like clients calling back these types then wouldn't say those things. If no one can take but can dish it will never work. As the come back will be similar or worse.

When clients say things, it is a slutty prozzy service in the clients eyes there is no at home girlfriend type thing about escorting. Some times this can/will happen and there is no stopping it unless you say before the booking. Which might put others off as not all are like that in kind.

Clients say things for various reasons we will never know it to be a fact. But over thinking why clients do during bookings can side track.

I don't mind when they speak to me like this as it is a service thing. Try not to take what clients say personally.
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