Hi everyone! Please be gentle!

Some context. I'm in my late 20s, live in London and have a full-time job. I come from an ethnic/religious minority background but my family are more 'traditional' than 'strict'.

My flatmate recently announced that she's leaving. She was great, but it's made me realise how much I'd love to have the flat for myself (no more sharing a kitchen, waiting for the shower to become free etc.) With my current salary I'd have to find a new flatmate soon. If I was earning a little more...

I'm disillusioned with dating (to put it mildly). I don't want the emotional involvement of a fling/affair, but for the first time in my life I'm just craving sex (frankly).

The more I think about it the more I like the idea. I just want to make a little extra money and have some sex and a bit of an adventure. Is it possible to find these things through escorting or am I just being naive?

I'm not planning on working in a parlour. Perhaps I'd set up an account on a site and meet random guys as and when.

I'm not expecting (or wanting) to meet especially 'sexy' or even attractive guys. I just feel like meeting some random (nice) guys and being a bit crazy.

If I go through with it, will I regret it? Is anyone on this site in a similar position? i.e. escorting for fun and a little excitement, or is this a hopeless fantasy?

Thanks. You're right, I guess I won't know until I've tried. I think I'm just excited by the (obviously very secret) fantasy of anonymous sex and wanting other opinions.

Do you find escorting sexually fulfilling?

'Suck it and see'. I guess you're right and I'm just procrastinating, enjoying the fantasy but scared of jumping in..

My flat's discreet to the point where one male visitor every few days wouldn't attract attention (though a stream of them would).

I did think of renting a hotel room for a day, even though it would mean having to see a few guys in order to make a profit. My fear is that I'd have a horrible experience first time and straight away have to see someone else. Again, I like the idea but going through with it is a scary prospect!

Thanks for the replies!

Everyone is different and we all do it for different reasons. My circumstances are different to yours but I can see some parallels.

I have a full time day job too, so escorting for me is just a sideline. I get to pick and choose who I see, and just as importantly if I see them a second time. Only doing a couple or three meets a week, often with repeat clients that I like, means I can relax and enjoy myself. I can see if I was doing this full time I would soon burn out.

I think at the beginning it could be seen as an adventure then the money gets in the way! Leave yourself other options which it seems like you will, being a hobby whore sounds like heaven to me but unfortunately I put all my eggs in one basket years ago x

You don't really need the money, so you can be as fussy as you like in terms of clients. This probably doesn't mean picking them on the usual casual sex criteria like looks - one of the things they're paying for is not to be judged on stuff like that and one of the things you'll learn is that attitude matters far more - but with the right marketing you can be ruthless about ignoring / turning down anyone whose attitude does not appeal.

In this case, the right marketing means talking about what you've said here: it's an adventure for you, you're looking for some good casual liaisons, talking up aspects of your background etc etc.

Thanks again everyone. I got something from everyone who replied so thank you.

I reread my first message this morning and felt a little embarrassed by the line about 'craving sex', which is kind of true, but not the whole story.

I get that I'm probably not going to fancy every guy I see, and will have to do sex stuff with them anyway. As you all seemed to pick up on, adventure and a little extra cash are just as exciting a prospect for me. Some nice fun sex would be nice, but hey, we'll see...

I guess some people get over not feeling turned on by what they're doing by playing a role and becoming a fantasy figure. I want to be myself, and as a short awkward tomboy with uncontrollable hair I'm never going to fit the mould of some sex goddess.

chloinnyc, Nia and bi guy. I have a decent job that pays okay and that I like (mostly). I don't want to replace my job with this. I want this to be a fun, lucrative(?) hobby. A hobby that I can give up if and when I need to. But I totally get how the money could become addictive.

Just Jess, I really get where you're coming from. I want this to be as much fun as possible, my real worry is not so much feeling bad about myself but being turned off men.

So I think I'm going to post an ad/profile and dip my toe into being a 'hobby whore' Thanks everyone for all your support!

'Suck it and see'. I guess you're right and I'm just procrastinating, enjoying the fantasy but scared of jumping in..

My flat's discreet to the point where one male visitor every few days wouldn't attract attention (though a stream of them would).

I did think of renting a hotel room for a day, even though it would mean having to see a few guys in order to make a profit. My fear is that I'd have a horrible experience first time and straight away have to see someone else. Again, I like the idea but going through with it is a scary prospect!

Thanks for the replies!

I currently only see a few men regularly who I trust. I could never be in a room alone with a man I had never met. You don't have to do it this way. There are less scary ways to do this. You can get to know somebody a little first, you can suss them out... x