Author Topic: Losing my Perspective? (Read 1682 times)

Gypsy · « **on:** 08 August 2016, 07:55:51 pm »

I've been in this job now for nine months and every month have I've managed without going into my savings. Now I have another income but I seem to be worrying I'll be worse off than before when logically that won't be the case. My other income is the result of an investment of sorts, so maybe I'm worrying because I don't have as much money behind me as I did before.

I've also started a new relationship, but ever since that began I seem to have wanted to work more.
I am a self confessed control freak so maybe that has something to do with it. This job is my independence so can anyone else relate?

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #1 on:** 08 August 2016, 09:44:23 pm »

I used to be save save save and earn earn earn. But am more laid back about the whole thing now.

It does give independence but I think we can still have our independence regardless of the type of job as self employed or a employee. It's how we view it. .

Why fear what doesn't exist? . It only brings it into reality. As thoughts attract. Having a bf takes up time some bookings most likly will be missed. But there is always tomorrow.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #2 on:** 09 August 2016, 08:00:36 am »

Quote from: Gypsy on 08 August 2016, 07:55:51 pm

My other income is the result of an investment of sorts, so maybe I'm worrying because I don't have as much money behind me as I did before.

I think that's a possibility. It's nice having a cushion of savings behind you to fall back on. Can you start putting some back in your savings every month now? Or do you need to keep putting more money into your investment?

As regards the new relationship - is it maybe that you're using clients as a distraction technique to stop you getting emotionally involved, or are you proving to yourself "It doesn't matter if things don't work out, plenty of men still want me"?

Gypsy · « **Reply #3 on:** 09 August 2016, 08:39:26 am »

Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 09 August 2016, 08:00:36 am

I think that's a possibility. It's nice having a cushion of savings behind you to fall back on. Can you start putting some back in your savings every month now? Or do you need to keep putting more money into your investment?

As regards the new relationship - is it maybe that you're using clients as a distraction technique to stop you getting emotionally involved, or are you proving to yourself "It doesn't matter if things don't work out, plenty of men still want me"?

Yes, I think you might be right regarding my investment. I can put money back into my savings, that's no problem as I don't need to put any more money into it for now.

As for the boyfriend - he wants to spend loads of time with me, like every single spare moment. I'm panicking that if I spend loads of time with him then I will miss out on work. And then when I am available to work no one wants a booking. It's so frustrating!

Lady_Lust_XXX · « **Reply #4 on:** 09 August 2016, 11:23:04 am »

Quote from: Gypsy on 09 August 2016, 08:39:26 am

Yes, I think you might be right regarding my investment. I can put money back into my savings, that's no problem as I don't need to put any more money into it for now.

As for the boyfriend - he wants to spend loads of time with me, like every single spare moment. I'm panicking that if I spend loads of time with him then I will miss out on work. And then when I am available to work no one wants a booking. It's so frustrating!

Does BF know what you work as? could he be wanting to spend time with you to stop you from working. He sounds like a bit of a control freak IMO. If he doesn't know then I would be making up a job that can account for you working long hours. We've got to live and earn so he really is being unreasonable.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #5 on:** 09 August 2016, 11:27:41 am »

Ugh, I would find that really suffocating. Maybe time to put some firm boundaries in place?

Gypsy · « **Reply #6 on:** 09 August 2016, 01:17:30 pm »

Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 09 August 2016, 11:23:04 am

Does BF know what you work as? could he be wanting to spend time with you to stop you from working. He sounds like a bit of a control freak IMO. If he doesn't know then I would be making up a job that can account for you working long hours. We've got to live and earn so he really is being unreasonable.

No, he doesn't know what I do and he doesn't have a job due to disability. I think that's the problem - because he doesn't work he wants to spend all this time with me. I'm used to being independent so this is a big change. I'm thinking of touring near the end of the year, so maybe I'll have to say I'm changing jobs to explain my absense. He should be at college then so hopefully it won't be that bad.

Mirror · « **Reply #7 on:** 09 August 2016, 01:27:19 pm »

Quote from: Gypsy on 09 August 2016, 08:39:26 am

Yes, I think you might be right regarding my investment. I can put money back into my savings, that's no problem as I don't need to put any more money into it for now.

As for the boyfriend - he wants to spend loads of time with me, like every single spare moment. I'm panicking that if I spend loads of time with him then I will miss out on work. And then when I am available to work no one wants a booking. It's so frustrating!

My boyfriends have always known, however that didn't stop me from feeling the same about work. At the end of the day all work, no personal life is not (in my opinion) healthy, even if it's just time when you are not 'on call'. Regards the actual relationship, I'm wondering how do you feel about getting close to someone?Are you trying to keep yourself at a distance. Resentment ain't good.

Finances, it can be really easy to forget how little people live off, and the gratitude for being financially sound can easily get out of perspective. My advice is clear all debt, pay off credit cards and household bills, and have enough to last up to six months in case of illness.

Gypsy · « **Reply #8 on:** 09 August 2016, 02:54:33 pm »

Quote from: Mirror on 09 August 2016, 01:27:19 pm

My boyfriends have always known, however that didn't stop me from feeling the same about work. At the end of the day all work, no personal life is not (in my opinion) healthy, even if it's just time when you are not 'on call'. Regards the actual relationship, I'm wondering how do you feel about getting close to someone?Are you trying to keep yourself at a distance. Resentment ain't good.

Finances, it can be really easy to forget how little people live off, and the gratitude for being financially sound can easily get out of perspective. My advice is clear all debt, pay off credit cards and household bills, and have enough to last up to six months in case of illness.

That's excellent advice Mirror. I know I will be all right as my other income covers my bills and I'm one of the fortunate ones who doesn't need that much to live off. I guess it's my issues with the relationship here that's the problem and the fact that I don't have as much savings as I used to. However, should anything happen, I reckon I've still got enough to live on for a year or so.

I think my perspective is so narrow at the moment, I'm having problems seeing the bigger picture.

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