Hi Tara,
It is very tough going when you can't tell your friends things about your life. Not even the funny things like, I slipped off the bed and ended up on my arse on the floor! God damned silk sheets!
I know something like that would have my 'regular' friends laughing their heads off - but couldn't tell them.
Fortunately, through this site I have met a couple of really lovely friends and it works nicely having 2 sets of friends.
I am finding as time goes on though, I am having less in common with my regular mates, I don't think it's amusing or funny when they claim, as the single girl in the group, I need to find a man and night's out, the conversation is almost dedicated to that. If they only knew, the last thing I want on a night out is to hook up with a man.
I have a booking tonight and just got a text from a friend telling me there is a party in the pub - I can't go as I made this booking on Friday - no way would I cancel it for a party, it's just the lies - I have lied and the only thing I could think of to say was I had a date lined up. There would be no other reason I would not be at the party tonight. I am not ill and they know it. I have a babysitter and they know that as well. It's not easy sometimes. I will have to make up a load of tosh about some date when I see them next - I don't feel like going would only get me nagged and my phone would be going all evening so I would have to switch it off and then they would be asking why it was off and what is the matter - so a date seemed like the only thing I could come up with.
You would think Mondays would be safe on the friends party scene, it seems not!
Jo