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Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« on: 27 August 2018, 03:47:30 pm »
Hi so I used to escort started at 18 quit at 22 and had two children. Im now 27 and feeling like i could be comfortable going back to escorting however i have a dilemma- my figure is not what it was then :( Its not massively different, im maybe a size bigger (I used to be a 10, im a 12 now) which isnt the problem BUT i have a mum pouch/stretchmarks on my pouch and my stomach is not as flat as it was. Im concerned this would put any potential clients off. What could I do about it? I have recent pics but you cant see the stretchmarks on them (they arnt that obvious unless im lying on my back and then it looks urrghh WRINKLY!). The stretch marks are white and faded so not horrific (my youngest just turned 2)

I dont want to get bad reviews and im also very self conscious about it, i cant afford a tuck unless i escort. Has any other girls here got this problem? I was a young hot thing when i last escorted and now im older and my figure isnt perfect anymore im not sure clients will want me. My face is decent so maybe it wouldnt be too bad? Even that looks tired compared to before kids though.

Any girls here with none perfect bodies, or stretchmarks from kids?

Help please as its very upsetting this, lol. Thanks for reading.



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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #1 on: 27 August 2018, 04:08:18 pm »
Everyone has a non-perfect body, even the younger you.

Fortunately, the vast majority of clients couldn't give a shit about stretch marks, and most couldn't find cellulite with a map.

Until you become convinced of that, consider arranging the lighting / your clothing so that the bits you are worried about are less obvious (to you - see above!)
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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #2 on: 27 August 2018, 04:17:03 pm »
I definitely agree with Ian, unless they are very shallow no client is going to be put off by you having a realistic figure for your age and parental status!

I do empathise because I was very self conscious about various wobbly bits when I started but I soon realised the vast majority of men couldn't give a flying fuck as long as you're giving a good service. And body confidence is really sexy!

For now, why not look for a deep suspender belt set? They're very good at hiding stretchmarks and wobbly bits in that area.

I would also suggest changing your marketing angle and branding yourself as a MILF. Most guys realise that mums don't have perfectly toned abs because, duh, you grew another human inside you!

BTW I am a size 14-16, I have loose skin on my belly, my thighs are enormous and I have bingo wings. Today I'd seen 5 clients by 1.30pm :D
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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #3 on: 27 August 2018, 06:14:13 pm »
Thanks for the advice I do call myself a milf once in my profile description but thought I'm not old enough to be considered a milf and guys looking for milfs arnt looking for 20odd years olds but 30s, 40s? I suppose I'm not far off 30 :D seems a good way of letting them know hey I've got kids and you might be able to tell when I'm naked 😂

I've already had a few message off past clients and they say they love my new pics but omg my self confidence took such a knock after having kids especially the second as my body didnt change much first time.

It makes me feel better you saying you not being a young size 8/10 hasn't put clients off :)

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #4 on: 27 August 2018, 06:23:30 pm »
Everyone has a non-perfect body, even the younger you.

Fortunately, the vast majority of clients couldn't give a shit about stretch marks, and most couldn't find cellulite with a map.

Until you become convinced of that, consider arranging the lighting / your clothing so that the bits you are worried about are less obvious (to you - see above!)

Yes true I used to be critical of myself even before kids I look back on my old pics n think what was I thinking 😂 but yes no one's body is perfect really, I need to work on feeling better about myself.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #5 on: 27 August 2018, 07:06:02 pm »
They really don't care. I'm constantly turning down work. I have stretch marks, self-harm marks, wobbly bits, size 12/14 and the tits of a mum of 4 over 40 who breastfed. Guys love it. A lot of them love to have something to grab onto.  My profile and pictures represent this, I occasionally get the idiot photographer message me saying they could fix the stretch marks, I tell them to jog on, I earned my marks.

And let's be honest here, none of them are in perfect shape either. Yes some do want the skinny size 10 max but this isn't for everyone. There's also some bbw who make a fortune from hooking.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #6 on: 27 August 2018, 07:31:58 pm »
I am not far off 50, have a mum tummy, faded stretch marks on my thighs, also a big bust but I do ok a lot of men feel intimidated by women who are "perfect" especially if they have body image issues themselves.

I am with VC get a deep suspender belt it hides a multitude of things and as long as you greet clients with a smile, give a good service and make them feel special for the time you are together I am sure you will do fine.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #7 on: 27 August 2018, 09:34:59 pm »
I would not even worry about it. Unless you are charging 1000 an hour where punters will expect supermodel figures and perfection then for what most pay they cannot expect perfection in my mind and anyone who has a problem with it might not come back but who cares do you really want those types especially where most customers are unattractive with plenty of imperfections.

But if you are bothered by it there is a cover up called vichy derma bland that can cover these.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #8 on: 28 August 2018, 12:06:30 am »
I would not even worry about it. Unless you are charging 1000 an hour where punters will expect supermodel figures and perfection then for what most pay they cannot expect perfection in my mind and anyone who has a problem with it might not come back but who cares do you really want those types especially where most customers are unattractive with plenty of imperfections.

But if you are bothered by it there is a cover up called vichy derma bland that can cover these.

I use the foundation of that do they cover stretch marks? Going to derma roller them soon anyway lol.

Thanks for reassuring me abywsy, hopefully get back in the saddle soon :D

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #9 on: 28 August 2018, 12:35:02 am »
I am not far off 50, have a mum tummy, faded stretch marks on my thighs, also a big bust but I do ok a lot of men feel intimidated by women who are "perfect" especially if they have body image issues themselves.

I am with VC get a deep suspender belt it hides a multitude of things and as long as you greet clients with a smile, give a good service and make them feel special for the time you are together I am sure you will do fine.
Totally agree with this. We all get a belly sometimes in our life. You would not be normal if you didn't.
Wear nice lingerie, smile sweetly, give a great service and the nice ones will be back for more.

One thing you can think of, is having a nice detoxing massage that will relax you and make you feel better plus a little bit of self tan - every little helps.......

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #10 on: 28 August 2018, 09:27:04 pm »
I have stretch marks, clients don't notice, and if they do, they don't say (or stare). On days I feel particularly self conscious or bloated, I wear a waspie.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #11 on: 29 August 2018, 06:10:54 pm »
I have stretch marks from gaining weight and losing weight.
I wouldn't worry about it, it is about the service that you provide at the end of the day. You can't change your stretch marks, they make you unique and beautiful and make you who you are.
At the end of the day, if a client doesn't like it or complains about it, do you really want them as a client? I wouldn't!

I have had a few people be really nasty towards me in the forums about my marks, but I don't care as I just wouldn't see them again and I offer a good service.

You know if you are offering a good service and you can't change it so don't worry


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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #12 on: 29 August 2018, 06:38:19 pm »
I use the foundation of that do they cover stretch marks? Going to derma roller them soon anyway lol.

Thanks for reassuring me abywsy, hopefully get back in the saddle soon :D

It can cover stretch marks but the problem is the colour is not exactly skin colour so you end up sometimes having to do a larger area for it to look normal.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #13 on: 30 August 2018, 04:18:50 pm »
I don' t have any stretch marks maybe because of genes or because I train hard since I was in my teens.  One girl told me that she was never fully naked in front of guys, either wearing a waspie or hold ups/suspenders etc as she was too conscious of her stretch marks.  She did not even want to show them to me.  I never understood what is the problem - no one is perfect.

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Re: Self conscious about stretch marks [was: Hi...]
« Reply #14 on: 30 August 2018, 04:29:24 pm »
Thanks everyone what's a waspie?