So I've got a potential be client who wants to meet up to talk but my time/transport isn't free. I want regular clients as my area is dead. Have you got any advice or experience of meeting up with people who want to discuss ideas first?


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Hi Lili and welcome

In my experience these are the tyrekickers hoping to get a look at or hang about with a prossie for free, and I doubt he's expecting to pay much if at all (he probably thinks you'll be falling over yourself with gratitude if he offers to cough up for a midrange lunch somewhere ) somyou'll need to be clear from the outset.

I would get a deposit for any costs which you won't be able to get back, like travel and this also ought to tell you more as I suspect you won't hear from him again once you've asked. As to the booking, if he's expecting to see you in a public place then some people would charge a lower rate but not all - as you said, your time is money so if you want your full rate, get it.

Wanting regular clients doesn't mean you have to drop your boundaries and entertain every chancing twat who contacts you. Genuine punters don't need to 'discuss ideas' in a separate encounter because they have other things to do - they just book, turn up and pay without any of the messing about and that's what you want in a regular .

I would not do this with an unknown man but two reg clients have asked if they can "pay your full fee but just talk" and I said yes of course. They were going through some bad personal times and felt they could unload their woes on me.  Not the most enjoyable bookings but they kept to their word and only talked, not even a touch or kiss.  If a man I knew asked could he talk only and pay less I would say sorry no, my fee is my fee no matter what happens in the time.

AW offer directchat for this kind of thing, tell him to call you on that and you get paid while you speak to him. If he is genuine he won't mind that at all.

Anything else, fuck no, full rates or nothing pal.

My advice would be to say you can discuss his requirements in his first booking

That’s a good one!
Will use that phrase to cut off any bullshit in future with some people and their odd requests.

 

I would try to get the sense of the guy if I had first hand contact whether it is his email, message or phone call.


Anyway, ABSOLUTELY NO!!!! for free meet up. NEVER EVER.

You could tell him to book a session and then do whatever, like talking (as we all want to advertise it that way) but most likely he isn't willing to pay that full rate just for talk. If he was, he would have already went on with booking.

Some ladies do offer 'platonic' sessions and usually that's about 30~60 % of the hourly rate.

I would quote him about 50% of my hourly charge for talk session if I am not busy. And if he doesn't respond to this then he's just a timewaster.

This is quite common.

Just people wanting to get a look at you for free..

Or potentially sit there in a cafe with his mates and have a good laugh at you or even take pictures.Be very wary about clients you have never met before wanting to meet up in public to 'talk'.If he is suggesting a coffee or drink somewhere.Otherwise if he is wanting to come to you to me it is a normal incall whether he chats or fucks.He is still paying for your time.