Hi all-

I've just had my first serious email on AW from a guy and I'm not sure about it.

Here is the message  "Hello there , *my name* - Want to do something a little different today ?

What about meeting for a walk and hold ing hands etc and kissing - touching your boobs and if we get carried away - sex - at **** ***** park - Its on the A3 - just 5 mins from **** and its such a lovely day too !!

If you prefer we caould go for a drink in ****1st - then onto park etc etc - So over to you Im about from 10am - 3pm today xxx


He sounds ok, and I know the park well, it's quiet big with a lot of wilderness, but it's also popular. Not sure if I should go with it and have husband/driver wait in the car park or something?

My instincts aren't screaming no way, but I do want to make sure I don't end up...harmed.

Any thoughts?

I really hate to be a joy kill but it seems like a bit of a well worded time waster. since this is your first serious email can i assume your new or just new to adultwork? he might be trying his luck. to me this dosnt sound safe and id be worried knowing you were going outside to meet him. i dont do outdoor meets at all so im not sure if this is something that you offer but my thoughts are just to be very wary if you do meet up with him, as something bad could happen and your driver wont know where you are if its a big park :s

Chances are he isn't a psycho, but he certainly isn't very thoughtful!

of course, there is the case that I am an idiot. Hotels don't do day rates, I offer day time outcalls.  This just gets harder by the second! argh!

There's a reason why incalls are about 10x more popular than outcalls, and you've pretty much covered it.

When we've told you that you need to be patient and careful, we really weren't joking, I'm afraid. These days, a new indie can expect it to take weeks to get her first booking - and possibly longer if she's outcall-only.

Have you considered a parlour? They can be a safe and less lucrative (you may have to pay up to 40% commission on rates that are low to start with) but much easier way to start in this business, especially if you don't want to work from home. Or an "agency" that provides a flat for incalls (AKA a parlour, but under a "classier" guise)? If you put "agency" or "parlour" into the search form, you'll find literally tons of information about how to find them, how to contact them, what to expect, everything. If you have any further questions after that, please do let us know!

Hotels don't do day rates

They may not advertise them widely, but if they have the spare rooms and its a choice between getting your money and not, plenty of places will decide that, actually, they'd quite like the money.

The closer to somewhere like an airport or business centre they are, the more likely this is.

hee hee I agree with you kim. Hopefully he'll change his mind now that I've told him about the id/passport thing. His second email asked if he'd have to pay me for our time at the bar or "just when we get to the park". As if!  I felt like telling him not only does he have to pay for time at the bar, I'll also charge him double for the voyeuristic crap.

For hotel day rooms try here. You'll probably not have much if you're miles out in the sticks, but I've been surprised how many places are on there (the airport ones are normally the cheapest as they have people coming and going at all hours). You don't have to say anything about why you want it - provided you pay for your room and don't make a nuisance of yourself, why you have booked it is none of their business

If you weren't new I might think the park enquiry could be serious (if misguided), but it's classic newbie-hunting - a lady I know got a similar email on AW almost immediately after signing up from some knob wanting her to meet him in his car. They think you won't be aware of the security issues and too green to think of things like where you're going to put your money, tell your security buddy where you are at all times, or what you'll do if he has half a dozen mates waiting for you in this 'wilderness'. For the record, I wouldn't even do it with a client I had known for years.

At best, the chances are he wants to watch while you turn up and wander about looking for him so that he can look at/laugh at/photograph you.

Thank you for the heads up about the hotel day rates as well- that's excellent!

Well if nothing else and you don't have as much luck as you'd like with the outcalls, you can always try a couple of well-advertised hotel incall days (you could just book a couple of nights in the normal way, but if you can find somewhere convenient on here it means you can get in the room early and take advantage of the popular lunchtime slots). I've used it a couple of times on tours if I've had lots of enquiries and decided to stay a few hours longer rather than check out at 12 .