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tina

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Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« on: 06 April 2009, 08:42:24 pm »
I am in a very difficult situation and I don't know what to do...
Two months ago I had extreme pain in the anus area, I couldn't sit, lay down in bed, walk so I thought maybe I had piles. I went to the chemist and bought all the medicines but 3 days later and with no signs of improvement, I suddenly couldn't breathe! I was all alone in my flat - I live alone - and I could not even call a taxi, because I could not sit on the back, so I made my way on foot to the hospital, holding every wall/ parked car to support myself, as I could hardly move. I was in agony. At the hospital, in the emergency room,I was in tears when they told me to sit and wait ''I can't sit, I can't breathe! please check me quick'' and I collapsed on the floor. They picked me up and carry me to a room where the doctor could not examine me as he could not touch or feel the area - now I was in hysterics screaming and crying from the pain - they send me straight to the surgery for op. Thank God for the injection, I was fast asleep. I woke up to see the doctor beside me telling me they examined me and found a serious infection and a huge abscess inside the colon possibly from an in growth hair! They cut me through my anus and dug deep inside to drain it. They said I 'll stay at the hospital till the wound heals. I thought ok, soon I'll be on my feet. Wrong. 15 min later the pain came back, I am screaming so loud, the nurses gave me so many pill painkillers - the strongest they had. Nothing. They decided to prescribe me a course of morphine. I was relaxed in seconds, but half an hour later the pain came again. More morphine. The doctors decided they will wait one day to see if I'll get better. I didn't. Back to the surgery to open me up and go in deeper. More morphine. The pain still there. Two days later, one more surgery. Now I was wearing big nappies and yellow pass was filling them , every half hour I had to change. I was wearing catheter as I could not squeeze to pee or do my toilet. I went to the toilet, high as a fly from the drugs, with a hand mirror to check what was happening on my behind: now my ass hole was four times the size, it was scary, you could fit a coca cola bottle with no resistance! ok, bad example, but you have to imagine what I've seen.. So after 3 surgeries in 6 days time, and 10 days in morphine, I started getting better. they kept me another ten days in until the wound start closing and until I can do my toilet. I left the hospital 2 sizes smaller (that was the best) and exhausted. There was no way I could work for another month as I was starting to walk again, sitting but I could not open my legs and spread the chicks - the skin was very fragile, and I had to wear the damn nappies for another 2 weeks as I had discharge. So I missed one month from work and my bills and rent had to be paid. The agencies had dropped me as I disappeared for a month, and a couple of regulars I had they were nowhere to be seen...
My situation now is that I am officially broke, maxed my credit card (500 limit) and my overdrawn (500) living another 3 weeks after coming out of the hospital. I am physically ready to start work, but to sent my photos to the agencies and until they put me on their websites it'll take 3 weeks. I don't have time for that. My food (tuna, pasta, beans) is going to end this week. I do not have any more money, and nobody to ask for a loan! I am afraid to street walk, I've never done it before...I am a very good looking girl of 300 p/h which had the bad luck to get sick, and now i am stuck in a situation and don't know what to do. At least if I had 300 pounds I'll create asap an independent escort's website (150) and put it on London escort guide (150) so at least I can wait for a call and get a 1st job...
I am writing to ask you girls if you know any parlor/ agency/ club/whatever to get a job asap until I make the money. I don't care if I have to drop prices, I have no choice - but I don't want to go in the street. I can not afford even a bus ride - and my phone credit is gonna go soon, as for my electricity too - it is a meter one. Maybe a girl could send me a client? and can keep a cut of the fee? of maybe a girl can suggest to go in a parlor for a few days? I am in despair...please help!
I am writing to ask advice if you know     

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #1 on: 07 April 2009, 12:17:13 am »
Adultwork is good for getting bookings quickly. People get notified of new profiles so you'll have instant attention, and you can also use the reverse booking system to find people who want an incall in London tomorrow. If you put competitive bids on all the relevant ones you should get a few bookings.

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #2 on: 07 April 2009, 12:49:47 am »
What about making a claim for income support and getting a crisis loan to tide you over?

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #3 on: 07 April 2009, 01:56:24 am »
even income support takes a few weeks to recieve the first check. She says she's not sure if she can get anymore loans.

Im with Ani, I'd be aggressively advertising on the main sites. Thats takes no more than a week if you're new.

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #4 on: 07 April 2009, 09:35:24 am »
What an ordeal! Sorry to hear that.

Advertise on viastreet, it has brought me lots of work and its free.
I used http://www.escortmarketer.co.uk/ for my website, there is no initial payment and if you dont like what they do you stop paying.
I would also recomend adult work :)

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #5 on: 07 April 2009, 11:02:36 am »
Not a crisis loan, that should come through immediately.
Go and ask for benefits until you can work again, don't starve yourself.
There is a system there that is meant to help people, okay, they don't pay you much money per week but it will ensure you eat and your rent is paid.
You have a very strong case for getting a crisis loan, you have been in surgery. Don't hesitate, go do it today. The cash should go right into your account without delay, the clue is in the 'crisis' bit!
I would do it today Tina as Easter holidays are from this Friday and no cash is paid into any account from any benefit over Easter, that includes next Monday as well.
If you have to sit in that job centre all bloody day today, I would go sit there.
I have had a crisis loan before, no interest is charged and you can decide what you pay them back per week. Gosh, when we needed one a few years ago, we paid 2.00 a week back to them!
They will not pay your debts for you so watch that overdraft does not eat up the loan - I would explain this to the person at the JC just to make sure you have enough to cover yourself.
You will soon be right Tina.
Get your health right first and the rest will come about.
Get the to JC TODAY.
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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #6 on: 07 April 2009, 11:50:36 am »
Remember everyone, this sort of thing can happen to any of us and we don't get sick pay. If escorting is your main job you need to save money. As soon as you're making more than you need to survive, start saving enough to live on for three months at least.

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #7 on: 07 April 2009, 11:58:02 am »
even income support takes a few weeks to recieve the first check. She says she's not sure if she can get anymore loans.


Ah you amercians dont have the benefit of a welfare state like ours. :)  As Joanna explained, a crisis loan is from the state and paid to people making a claim who have a crisis and again as joanna says, the facts as given make it looks like Tina has a good case. 

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #8 on: 07 April 2009, 03:44:36 pm »
God this sounds awful. I don't know anything about the process of getting a crisis loans, but seeing as this is an emergency, as Joanna said just sit tight there all day until you get it sorted if this is what it takes. And the adultwork idea is a good one too- instant advertising so you can start to get work asap.

I really wish you the best of luck.

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #9 on: 07 April 2009, 04:50:39 pm »
Hello girls, thank you for your advice...

It is hard to get internet to reply as I depend on the signal - My flat does not have connection.
As Joanna suggested a crisis loan, I have tried 5 years ago when I first came to England but because I was not registered to have NINO and didn't pay taxes and with no proof of working, they refused me... it was an awful situation as then I didn't even have a roof over my head and had to stay with the Afghan removal guy who suggested I stay with him and bring my stuff over as long as I could get a job...I had no option and had to do a lot of nasty things to get my meal...So now I can not explain why my rent is 1500 pm and I was never officially employed or declared income, living 10 years in the UK...How can I say that I couldn't work after the hospital, when there's no proof I even worked at all? This is my mistake I now learned - and please don't start throwing stones at me, I now I was wrong not to register but now I'll do it, I learned the hard way, and anyone who feels like preaching at me has to think that I went through enough already...

I will try all the websites who suggested to send my photos asap. Although I have a feeling I will not avoid doing street walking... to get some coins in my pocket if I need to make an emergency call or something or a bus fare. Where am I supposed to go? Kings cross or Hyde Park? and how much are the prices? any girl knows?

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #10 on: 07 April 2009, 05:03:03 pm »
why don't you sign up with another agency?

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #11 on: 07 April 2009, 05:35:43 pm »
Hello girls, thank you for your advice...

It is hard to get internet to reply as I depend on the signal - My flat does not have connection.
As Joanna suggested a crisis loan, I have tried 5 years ago when I first came to England but because I was not registered to have NINO and didn't pay taxes and with no proof of working, they refused me... it was an awful situation as then I didn't even have a roof over my head and had to stay with the Afghan removal guy who suggested I stay with him and bring my stuff over as long as I could get a job...I had no option and had to do a lot of nasty things to get my meal...So now I can not explain why my rent is 1500 pm and I was never officially employed or declared income, living 10 years in the UK...How can I say that I couldn't work after the hospital, when there's no proof I even worked at all? This is my mistake I now learned - and please don't start throwing stones at me, I now I was wrong not to register but now I'll do it, I learned the hard way, and anyone who feels like preaching at me has to think that I went through enough already...

I will try all the websites who suggested to send my photos asap. Although I have a feeling I will not avoid doing street walking... to get some coins in my pocket if I need to make an emergency call or something or a bus fare. Where am I supposed to go? Kings cross or Hyde Park? and how much are the prices? any girl knows?

I think you need to talk to one of the outreach projects so someone can sit down and talk through all your issues and help get you on the right path.

You could try the Praed Street Project in Paddington who seem to mainly deal with sexual health issues but they do give general help and advise to sex workers and would definitely be able to put you in the right drection for further support. They will help people who dont even have a visa to work here so dont be afraid to tell them the entire story. At the very least they will give you free condoms.

http://www.imperial.nhs.uk/thejefferisswing/sexualhealth/ourclinics/praedstreetproject/index.htm

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« Reply #12 on: 07 April 2009, 07:06:52 pm »
Remember everyone, this sort of thing can happen to any of us and we don't get sick pay. If escorting is your main job you need to save money. As soon as you're making more than you need to survive, start saving enough to live on for three months at least.

Im telling you, it just couldnt come soon enough

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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #13 on: 08 April 2009, 09:02:45 am »
Hi again Tina,
I suggest you go to CAB they will advise you brilliantly.
I have no idea how it all works given the info you provided now, but, the citizens advice people will know.
It's their job to know and advise you. Again, I would get there fast, it's Easter and things will shut down from Friday.

I have to strongly echo Anika's words you know.... Stuff some cash into your bag of frozen peas for a rainy day (or quiet few weeks!) You never know when something will come along and, oh, well, I was going to say bite you on the bum, however, not really appropriate for this thread!
I hope your feeling better health wise soon Tina and get working again and pop some cash away so this never occurs again - there is after all, only so much tuna pasta bake a girl can take!
Good luck to you.
Jo
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Re: Help! girl in despair...and hungry...
« Reply #14 on: 08 April 2009, 09:46:42 pm »
I will try all the websites who suggested to send my photos asap. Although I have a feeling I will not avoid doing street walking... to get some coins in my pocket if I need to make an emergency call or something or a bus fare. Where am I supposed to go? Kings cross or Hyde Park? and how much are the prices? any girl knows?

Please, please go to the Praed Street Project, Cititzen's Advice Bureau, and anywhere else suggested by those above before you try street walking. I'm obviously no expert on it but I would really, really hate to see anyone have to do such a dangerous thing.

I'm quite knowledgable (though not proud of it) about what happens when you throw yourself at the mercy of Britain's 'systems' (health care, mental health, citizen's advice, etc etc) though and I'm really confident that you will find help. It's never easy or fun, obviously, it's horrible and really hard work. But it's safe. They won't arrest you or anything. You don't have to reveal information that you don't want to. You can just ask for help and people will really try and do their best.

I also second the idea of registering on Adultwork. You'll get lots of attention for being a new girl on there. :) But again... don't do anything too risky because of desperation. You will get through this, and you can do it safely.
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