Hi guys,
Could anybody please offer advice or wisdom on how to get through an hour of role play?
I have spoken at length to the guy and after firstly thinking, no way, it's actually not too bad now we have rules in place and I am over the whole, 'do people really wish to do this?' mentality.
I am slightly struggling to get my head in the place it needs to be though. I fear I might laugh or end up snapping, 'Oh enough already.' As it's just all rather silly to me I'm afraid.
I will admit that if things were not so slow, I would not be doing this at all, but as it's nothing nasty he requires, I'll partake.

Also, I don't know if I'll get any help on this one.
When meeting new people I am by nature a quiet person. When I started this, that was actually my main concern. Not what I would be doing with them during the course of the meeting but rather my tendency to be quiet when meeting a new person.
To help me out a bit here, to change my habit of a lifetime which is to listen to other people and watch them for a while before I join in which makes me appear a horrible person and rather snobbish I know, but I am not  I am just a bit shy with new people.
Topics of conversation would be great. What can I talk about to ease the fist 5/10 mins? I mean, by the time he arrives, we are clear on what is and what is not going to happen so that leaves that awkward moment of what do you say once the money is exchanged and you have offered a drink? I can't bang on about the weather, I mean really, how dull is that exactly? The first 10 minutes of a booking is not a fair and accurate representation of myself due to this mental thing I have got to hold back and speak quietly.
Ideally, I would like to just open the door, take the cash and get right down to business, however, that's a bit, well, some guys might like it but others might not!
I am fine with the acts themselves, no problem, I can happily become forward then, it's just that first conversation face to face. I have always been this way, so any help will be great.
Thank you all
Jo
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With a role play senario both of you have to be able to throw yourselves into it with gusto otherwise it wont really work, belive me ive tried ..lol
i do role play with one client and one client only and he goes into what he wants out of the booking (just like your client has done) dont be afraid to say no if something isnt quite working for you , i had to say no to him on a couple of occassions once when he managed to soak my hair while spraying me with a shower ( i hate my hair being mucked up)
anyway..does he think you are a seasond pro with roleplay?
does the roleplay involve money exhanging hands? of so you can then go into it with gusto and not have the arkwardness of getting the money and then 'switching on'  if not the exchange money asap so you can both relax
role play can be rather complex and is a lot more than just dressing up in a nurse's outfit , ive turned down many a booking due to clients asking for the outfit and roleplay then not knowing what they want out of the booking
but at least by what you have said he knows what he wants
what is it he is after ?
we could give you some ideas  
xx

Ha! Yes, Anika, you see, that is my thought exactly, kind of like,
....I can't be bothered, this guy is twitching right in front of me and I don't know what the heck to say other than, shame it's raining again and can I just kiss you now?
I am very happy to realise I am not the only person that wonders what the heck to talk about in those first few minutes though.
Role play guy:
I offered to begin the role play right from the opening of the door. The fee is going to be the lodgings and I am going to count it to make sure he is paying in full this week. I thought it best to start right from the start otherwise, it's all messed up.
He is yet to get back to me with a firm booking anyhow as I objected to being called a whore. Call me anything else you wish, slut, filthy bitch, I don't care, I have always detested the word whore and it will grate on me.
I don't like being the 'victim' I would rather be bossing him about. I will take to that much better than being bossed about so it's his call now I guess, it's up to him. I can't be the weak person, I can't even act that one out, I would fail miserably at it and possibly come away from the experience feeling very shitty about it all.
Not sure he'll be for it though as he liked the idea of being the lodger than had something to blackmail me about, so, we'll see what he says later on tonight.
Jo

Thanks Louise.
I shall take that as a compliment 

The only reason I even gave thought to his way of doing it was because things are so darn slow going here.
However, I have come to realise that I might be falling into a bit of a trap, that being do what I am not comfortable doing for the sake of some money. Now, whereas things are tight going around here at the moment, they are not impossible. So, the question was, do I need to do this? No was the answer.
Do I need to do this to boost my profile? No. I don't. I don't want to attract guys like this. Not really. I don't mind at all being the person that is doing the bossing around, I shall take to that like a duck to water, ask my family! I don't mind at all, all the dressing up stuff, I really don't and I thought I might mind but it turns out it's fine with me. (How did I not know this for all my life thus far?)
I am very uncomfortable being belittled in a role play situation. I know I will feel bad afterwards and it's not worth it. 150.00 is not worth it. It's not nearly enough money to pay me for making me feel terrible afterwards.

I have always known my own mind. I can be a stubborn little s**t about it as well. I am feeling rather stubborn about this. I only want to do what I want to do and at some point there will come clients that are looking for my services and will not mind that I do not wish to be pushed around in play.
It's the same for me where A levels are concerned, I'm sorry, but, you know what, no. I won't. I can't because I can not stomach the thought of it.
We are all different and I can't do either of those two things.

I accept that things are slow going because I am being fussy some might say. But I need to be fussy as I am all the children have got. I need to make sure I am okay for them.
I know that money is tight for everybody as well right now and it's a bad time to start any business, this sort or another sort like a fab little cake baking enterprise (ah, my mother would love that!) so I will be patient and wait and continue on with my site and profile and eventually I am sure I will get to where you established ladies are right now.
But I will get there on my terms.
Jo

Go with your instincts on bookings - always

If it don't feel right, don't do it.

I will be honest here and say I have in the early days done some things I was not entirely happy with and once, only once fortunately, I remember coming home from an outcall and feeling really really dirty..... It has only happened once as I went into something that was not really my cup of tea.  Funny as it started off OK but ultimately it was not what I enjoyed and afterwards thought NEVER AGAIN.  But I have moved on and can live with it.

So my advice, in particular to newbies, is don't drop your standards just because times are slow.  Don't do something if it is niggling you and you got a bad vibe about it.  Just don't go there. 

So Joanna you are doing the right thing totally.

I used to offer anal at one stage. Why?  Because every client appeared to be asking for it and every girl I knew appeared to be offering it.  NOW I know this is not the case, and at the time I was desperate and was driven by the money.

Now I don't offer it anymore.  I don't enjoy it so why offer it.  I never did enjoy it.

Also, had a client whom I specifically told when he asked me about rimming - I said I wont rim him.  Well, when we were getting down and dirty he tried to get me to do it and it really pissed me off as it ruined the whole booking for me.  We managed to carry on but after that I refused to see him again as I found his whole persona devious and too demanding.  He would have been a regular but he made me feel so uncomfortable even just talking over the phone that I would not see him anymore.

To be truthful he also expected more than a gfe booking - he wanted the full gfe - phoning me at weekends etc etc and I made it clear I was not happy with that and as such felt we could not continue seeing each other.

It was a case of me actually dreading seeing him as I hated the time we spent together - so I have learnt from these experiences that if I dont feel right or comfortable then I wont oblige.  If I feel someone is going to be controlling or demanding in a way that is condescending then again i wont go there.

I hope this helps.

It is quiet at present - and this flipping credit crunch is not helping matters - i believe that most guys just dont have the cash they used to, but hopefully the few bookings that are coming through will keep us all in the money.

Love to all
Alexandra xx

Role play - aggghhh.

Today I had to be auntie on an easter visit to my favorite nephew - im 40 and he was 55 if a day!  I have another booking coming up where I have to be the jockey in full riding kit and he is going to be the horse.  Got to love them!