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Lucy Chambers

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To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« on: 09 July 2010, 12:48:19 am »
I have received a couple of pretty hardcore enquires lately, one requiring weight play and one auto asphyxiation. I am not a Domme, I can do a little tie and tease, mild bdsm, and, well that's it really. But my callers are leaps and bounds ahead of me , it seems. I am not trained to offer or perform many bdsm services. How many of you have had the same thing? It may be that i offer a slight bondage look, but in light of recent events and deaths I just wondered if anyone else has noticed the same?

(I should clarify re the aa, the client wanted to tie a bag over his own face and for me to remove it when he gave a signal. This is not a unusual request.)
« Last Edit: 09 July 2010, 12:52:59 am by Lucy Chambers »

xxFallen Angelxx

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2010, 05:07:58 am »
So he wants to tie a bag over his head and for you to remove it at the appropriate signal. Hmmm, I just have this vision of you staring at this blue corpse waiting for the word to take it off  ;D

Probably just a fantasist but I might be persuaded to enlarge my patio if it goes horribly wrong for a price  ;) :D

Seriously though the guy sounds like an idiot. Just move on to the next client who hopefully will be a bit more up your street.

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2010, 08:13:23 am »
I get requests like this from time to time and i always decline. I dont mind a bit of mild domme etc but stuff that extreme is outside of what i would be happy doing.  Anything as fallen angel says that might possibly result in injury (or worse) to a client is just not worth getting involved in.

I would query how genuine these guys are anyhow. I mean speaking for myself if i was looking for services like that i would go to a proper domme who advertises that she specialises in them. I mean you wouldnt go to a plumber if you wanted your house rendering would you?

Or maybye they just prefer the way you look to the dommes in their area and are trying to push their luck? but all i would say is if you aint happy with it then dont do it.

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2010, 08:49:50 am »
I love Domination, but I have been trained by a lady who is a lifestyle Domme. If you're interested, I would recommend asking someone that may need an apprentice.
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UrbaneAspects

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2010, 09:50:49 am »
Auto Asy...wha?

If that involves tying a bag over someone's head, then perhaps that person needs to join a sadism group, not hire a professional lady/escort.

I have gotten to the point that whenever comes to me with a stupid inqurie, I recommend them to the proper place. For example, although I offer massage as part of my appointments, I dont put up with idiots. Someone called me the other day saying that his back was in lots of pain. I told him to go see a doctor...

Lucy Chambers

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2010, 10:57:28 am »
So he wants to tie a bag over his head and for you to remove it at the appropriate signal. Hmmm, I just have this vision of you staring at this blue corpse waiting for the word to take it off  ;D

Probably just a fantasist but I might be persuaded to enlarge my patio if it goes horribly wrong for a price  ;) :D

Seriously though the guy sounds like an idiot. Just move on to the next client who hopefully will be a bit more up your street.

That was my thought. I wasn't freaked by it, as I had no intention of doing it. I was just wondering if anyone would...

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2010, 02:57:06 pm »
For me it comes down to can I provide the service to a level that will give the client a good time. If I am unsure if I can then I will advise they speak to someone else. I have done a bit of dom before and it can be a bit empowering but I would never be able to take it to the extream as I just worry too much!

Violette

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2010, 04:28:59 pm »
Lucy, just curious, are you getting these requests in the UK or in Ireland? If you are getting them in Ireland, please contact me as there are a few TW who are around the Dublin area, who always call up the new girls and ask for the most extreme things. One in particular wants you to tie a plastic bag over his head. A complete a total utter waste of space and time.

But on another note, serious Dom clients will not contact a novice in the scene for extreme services. They know better, and usually will want a professional experienced lady who knows what she is doing. Usually what you get is some poor fool who has seen a few you-porn videos and are turned on by the idea of a certain services, and decides this is the life for him, only to discover that being tied up, gagged and hung upside down like a side of beef and whipped to within an inch of his life is both traumatizing and painful. This happens ALOT in Ireland.

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #8 on: 09 July 2010, 05:39:04 pm »
But on another note, serious Dom clients will not contact a novice in the scene for extreme services. They know better, and usually will want a professional experienced lady who knows what she is doing. Usually what you get is some poor fool who has seen a few you-porn videos and are turned on by the idea of a certain services, and decides this is the life for him, only to discover that being tied up, gagged and hung upside down like a side of beef and whipped to within an inch of his life is both traumatizing and painful. This happens ALOT in Ireland.

You're right about that Violette, but the newbies are the most fun. They come to escorts just in case it's more than they can handle and get the option to switch up when they don't like it. I know you have had clients that wanted to try strapons because he liked the thoughtof being anally penetrated, but backed out because it felt weird.

And asphyxiation doesn't have to involve bags over the head. I have a client that was interested, so I put his head in a leg or arm grip while he jacked off and he would tap me when it got intense. Now it's a regular part of our appointments. He said he couldn't get anyone to do until he found me either. And real Dommes don't have sex. I have the choice to push a little when I see that they have submissive tendencies. We do something different every time, just enough to come back to see what we're going to do next. That's what make this good for me, helping men explore their fantasies and mine at the same time.
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Lucy Chambers

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #9 on: 09 July 2010, 07:21:19 pm »
Lucy, just curious, are you getting these requests in the UK or in Ireland? If you are getting them in Ireland, please contact me as there are a few TW who are around the Dublin area, who always call up the new girls and ask for the most extreme things. One in particular wants you to tie a plastic bag over his head. A complete a total utter waste of space and time.

But on another note, serious Dom clients will not contact a novice in the scene for extreme services. They know better, and usually will want a professional experienced lady who knows what she is doing. Usually what you get is some poor fool who has seen a few you-porn videos and are turned on by the idea of a certain services, and decides this is the life for him, only to discover that being tied up, gagged and hung upside down like a side of beef and whipped to within an inch of his life is both traumatizing and painful. This happens ALOT in Ireland.

Hi Violette

Well, the one for weight play was for my Heathrow tour, and the bag was Belfast, only he did come in, equipped with cable ties, oversize freezer bags, needles?? I didn't see anymore as I told him quite quickly that he and I had a different view point when it came to mild dom. On the Irish note though, I found Dublin bloody hard work... Lots of strange calls and timewasters, mainly from people intent on getting my address it seemed. I ended up cancelling Cork and going back to Belfast..felt safer amongst the sectarian rioting.

I have just read some twits feedback comment including the phrase..she knows her stuff when it comes to bdsm. (i pinched his balls the silly sod) That probably explains it, I would be a lot cheaper than a dood dom.

I compiled a little list of irish tw numbers, as I will back there  in august I will PM to compare notes if thats ok...

luce x


Violette

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #10 on: 09 July 2010, 07:47:59 pm »
Oh lord don't get me started about the Irish client base! Entitled mama's boys the whole bloody lot of them, with a great tendency towards ablutophobia. But yes, a comparison of numbers is a great idea. I read E-I and saw that you took Quaterpoundher to task for being a pedantic twat, good on you.

Lucy Chambers

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #11 on: 09 July 2010, 08:00:18 pm »
Oh lord don't get me started about the Irish client base! Entitled mama's boys the whole bloody lot of them, with a great tendency towards ablutophobia. But yes, a comparison of numbers is a great idea. I read E-I and saw that you took Quaterpoundher to task for being a pedantic twat, good on you.

Oh, I haven't finished with him yet. I am biding my time for that particular little fiasco.

Violette

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #12 on: 10 July 2010, 07:21:53 am »
To be honest Lucy, avoid Cork, if you think the clients in Dublin are hard work, the ones in Cork are even worse. The toughest client base in Ireland. Demanding, entitled, and just complete knob heads. Now of course there are some lovely gents among the detritus, but you will be so knackered for the other lot, you won't be able to appreciate them. It isn't uncommon in Cork to have 10 booked appointments and NOT one show up, or call to cancel!

Plus the fact you found Belfast safer during sectarian rioting, is saying something. :)

As to Quaterpoundher, try not to get too worked up about the whole scene over there, most serious clients don't even read the boards, they see a profile up and maybe read a review or two and go from there. Also, remember to place a daily ad on the Community Boards in the touring section, lots of clients only look there since there are no pictures and it is safer for them in some office or home settings.

Lucy Chambers

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #13 on: 10 July 2010, 04:18:59 pm »
To be honest Lucy, avoid Cork, if you think the clients in Dublin are hard work, the ones in Cork are even worse. The toughest client base in Ireland. Demanding, entitled, and just complete knob heads. Now of course there are some lovely gents among the detritus, but you will be so knackered for the other lot, you won't be able to appreciate them. It isn't uncommon in Cork to have 10 booked appointments and NOT one show up, or call to cancel!

Plus the fact you found Belfast safer during sectarian rioting, is saying something. :)

As to Quaterpoundher, try not to get too worked up about the whole scene over there, most serious clients don't even read the boards, they see a profile up and maybe read a review or two and go from there. Also, remember to place a daily ad on the Community Boards in the touring section, lots of clients only look there since there are no pictures and it is safer for them in some office or home settings.



Thank you for that Violette. I have sent you a pm.

Lucy Chambers

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Re: To Domme, or not to Domme, that is the question
« Reply #14 on: 10 July 2010, 08:11:04 pm »
I would love to learn the art of domination, but I could not be a apprentice. I had to go learn and go through enough to be an escort.

I think though, that trends are going that way. Not just clients naturally predisposed, clients becoming jaded with the norm.