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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Ana66 on 23 October 2021, 11:30:41 am
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Hi everyone,
Has a client ever fallen in love with you ? If yes, how did you deal with it ?
Or on the other way round, have you ever fallen in love with a client ?
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I've had clients who said they were in love with me. They're not actually in love with me though, they're in love with an escort persona and in reality they don't even know my real name. If a client comes out with something like this or I think they're getting too attached I stop seeing them and cut off contact.
Can't imagine I'd ever fall in love with a client because I just don't view them through a romantic lens.
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Yes, and it ended badly. I would never get involved with client again ever!! no matter how much money they gave me...
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A client isn't falling in love with you, he's in love with his perception of you. It's a huge difference. Also, in love with you? Really? I think anyone who falls in love so easily, particularly in this kind of transactional situation, has no real idea of love. Instead, it's more a kind of obsession/infatuation.
If I were to ever find myself in this situation, I would cut ties. It's not part of the service (or the plan for that matter).
As for falling in love with a client? No, because again, it's not real. I'm only seeing him in a very controlled situation, he's on his best behaviour and I am being my best self. No matter how much I think we connect and get on, it's not authentic. However, I do consider a few of my clients as very dear friends and I genuinely love our time together. But do I want more? No.
If I were ever to find myself developing feelings for a client, I would cut ties and run a mile. It's so not what I want or what I am looking for either. This isn't Pretty Woman.
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Natalya, the search function (top right) is useful. There are quite a few threads on this, e.g. https://saafe.info/main/questions-and-answers/falling-for-a-client-(was-oh-no-it's-happening-!!)/ (https://saafe.info/main/questions-and-answers/falling-for-a-client-(was-oh-no-it's-happening-!!)/)
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Hi everyone,
Has a client ever fallen in love with you ? If yes, how did you deal with it ?
Or on the other way round, have you ever fallen in love with a client ?
Tell him you are feeling similar urges.
Then fleece him to the nth degree
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I once had a very disturbed client Express unwanted feelings of attachment and because he made me feel so uncomfortable I wouldnt see him again he then text saying he felt suicidal because even an escort didnt want to see him. I had a friend tell him to keep away. About a year later he used a different number and name to book me ..I didnt realise until he walked in I felt really sick and uncomfortable. Told him I was not well and asked him to go. I blocked and never heard from him again thankfully.
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Yes all of you are right, someone falling in love so easily cannot be genuine about his feelings (or maybe he is playing with me to see if I’m ever gonna fall in love with him, which is not gonna happen by the way), I’ll see how it goes with him because he is a very good client and comes back every week for at least 3h (sometimes more !!)
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he felt suicidal because even an escort didnt want to see him.
I would have answered him "my standards are high and don't date men who pay for sex", not that is true but you would have made him confront his own double standards. What a jewel.
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Everyone loves me, until they know me :)
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I developed a close relationship with a client, years ago and it ended badly.
It was a complete head mess because he still wanted to book in as a client and have a personal relationship outside of work?! It messed with my head completely and once I discovered he was secretly booking in with other girls I just completely blocked him out of my life. Blocking him and moving on as though he didn't exist was brilliant for my mental health :) Felt a complete release of anxiety and have to say I will never do that again. That was a lesson learned.
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I have twice and don't regret it . We set up a business together ,I met them at different times of my life
i ,they got separated and we became more serious and yes ,they did know the real me as I have never done anything for.money I don't want to do .
It ended as they decided to return to the ugly ,fat wife
for fear of losing money . For me it was real and still think of him and love him .
I believe in love and one of my favourite historical heroines is Aspasia , a courtesan so enchanting in Ancient Athens that enchanted the great Pericles and he ended up with her .
Aspasia de Mileto.
Veronica Franco another great Venetian Courtesan who wrote the most beautiful love poems and was a romantic .
Evita Peron Who didn't care when people called her a " w..e" and she became Immortal ,her name revered by millions still and General Peron .
So Yes ,I believe in Pretty Woman 😍. In Latin America I know many wonderful ladies who got successfully married to Americ and they met in the business and are living opulent and happily married in the USA with yachts ,houses and more . One of my closest friends got cancer and when going to chemo met her love and future husband in a casino as she still had to bring. Home the " bacon " for her 4 kids , the gentleman married her ,fastous wedding in the beach , a big rock and a yacht to her name ! She died shortly after in Palm Beach May she rest in peace and he adopted her babies and her twin sister too .
Oh and she met him a t a famous brothel / casino ,hotel where more than 400 independent girls show up.all day an d night every day pre Covid s o he had gently of variety to choose from !
True stories 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍.
Chin chin to love may it find me soon again 😘
Blessings to all ladies
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Yes, and it didn't ended well at all :))
Never again! But to excuse myself I was young and stupid at that time :FF
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I've had clients say they love me. Whether they actually did I don't know
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I have had a client text and declare that he is in love with me and ask for a discount in the same sentence.
Wow. Just wow
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I fall in love with a client last year
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Interesting question, I'm seeing someone who I think could potentially become a lover. He's smart, intelligent, wealthy and quite caring. If he made a proposal I would seriously consider. After all isn't security, safety and love what we all want in our lives.
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I have had a client text and declare that he is in love with me and ask for a discount in the same sentence.
Wow. Just wow
wow indeed some people have some kind of next level audacity. You should have told him that if he actually loved you he would agree to pay your rate (or even more ;))
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Just wanting free service don't be fooled. three of mine confessed their love for me .. Blocked I call myself the blocking Queen! If I wanted a steady man I will, it is not a chance I'm going to leave escorting for a regular client.
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I have had a client text and declare that he is in love with me and ask for a discount in the same sentence.
We must see the same guy 😂
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I have had a few declare there love and a clients friend ended up falling for me and we ended up in a relashionship that didn't end very well.
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Hi everyone,
Has a client ever fallen in love with you ? If yes, how did you deal with it ?
Or on the other way round, have you ever fallen in love with a client ?
I fell in love with a client - we are still together 11 years later (Married for 6 1/2 years)
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I have had a few declare there love and a clients friend ended up falling for me and we ended up in a relashionship that didn't end very well.
yep same I’ve had quite a few declare they’re in love but I just take it as they have a unhealthy attachment towards me and they need cutting off x
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I fell in love with a client - we are still together 11 years later (Married for 6 1/2 years)
Is it a good marriage? Are you happy? (sorry for being a nosey cow). Just curious.
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Is it a good marriage? Are you happy? (sorry for being a nosey cow). Just curious.
Absolutely! I still get giddy when I call him the husband, I feel really proud when I get to introduce him to people, like 'look he's all mine!' We have an amazing life together as well
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Absolutely! I still get giddy when I call him the husband, I feel really proud when I get to introduce him to people, like 'look he's all mine!' We have an amazing life together as well
That's amazing !!! May I ask whether you're still working or if not, after how long in the relationship did you decide to stop ?
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That's amazing !!! May I ask whether you're still working or if not, after how long in the relationship did you decide to stop ?
I still escort/tour/cam - He treats it like any other job - I stopped briefly when we first got together (that was my choice) & decided to get a vanilla job, did call centre work for about 6 months then went back to SW full time (Kudos to anyone who works in a call centre, it is my idea of hell!) - I currently do SW part time & a part time retail job but would ideally like to do SW full time again for a few years - My husband is retired so it would be nice to join him in the freedom & flexibility he has
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I still escort/tour/cam - He treats it like any other job - I stopped briefly when we first got together (that was my choice) & decided to get a vanilla job, did call centre work for about 6 months then went back to SW full time (Kudos to anyone who works in a call centre, it is my idea of hell!) - I currently do SW part time & a part time retail job but would ideally like to do SW full time again for a few years - My husband is retired so it would be nice to join him in the freedom & flexibility he has
You're very lucky to have found a man who understands you and who sees SW as a job like any other. I wish there were more men like this :D
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You're very lucky to have found a man who understands you and who sees SW as a job like any other. I wish there were more men like this :D
He is a very rare breed - That's not just relating to SW either!
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Yes - but he was married and would never leave the wife so it was pointless to explore anything with him. I kept him as a client for a while - money was good while it lasted! :P
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I have a couple of clients in love with me. They are both lovely and I think it's quite sweet. One of them I would probably have dated if he was nearer my age. He's never asked me out though.