You've got some good advice here, the "don't tell anyone" is the Holy grail of keeping escorting a secret. If the friend you're thinking about telling is 101% trustworthy and you trust her with a whopper of a secret like this then that's awesome that you're friends with her; people who can keep secrets like this are rare. Whenever I've thought about telling a friend in the past I've always used this formula: Has she ever said something along the lines of "don't tell her I told you because she doesn't want anyone to know but... (insert a mutual friends secret here" most of my friends have told me someone elses secret, so I'm not gonna trust them with one of mine!

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What everyone has said on here!  I work away from my home town, because it is a very small town, I'm in a professional job normally, have a gossipy boyfriend who tells everyone ANYTHING (that is a right pain in the arse) and the risk of being outed is very high. If it got back to my normal job what I was doing, it would be immediate dismissal (reputation).

To reiterate though, don't tell ANYONE. When doing photos for your AW profile, don't use anything that can be identifiable e.g. wallpapers, even furniture that people may recognise. HUGE mistake I made a while ago when attempting to go indie (and failing miserably) was to do this... my ex was snooping on AW and saw the pictures of my bedroom then outed me to my family, who nearly made me homeless. They don't know I am doing it now. Face pics blurred, don't identify yourself in any private videos- you never know who's viewing them! Don't flash the cash (nearly let that one out recently when I decided to treat myself to a new designer bag. I had several comments in my normal job about me and my 'disposable income' I just made an excuse that I had been doing overtime, which I had, thankfully).

I don't want to take this away from the OP's original thread, but I found this question very useful and interesting. I work away from home but due to above commitments, can only tour for a few days every month. I have my location on AW set as the place I tour, but recently, clients keep bombarding me with 'Why can't I see you on such a day?' I obviously don't want to say that I don't live in the place I tour, but I am wary of putting my hometown down as a location. Is this a bad idea? Just going back to the OP's original post of managing to successfully keep this a secret!

It's very tempting to want to confide in someone about this as you can feel lonely sometimes with never having anyone to talk to about it but I had a friend who I confided in, well I had two, one who used to do it but lectures me about it sometimes and the other, who I'd known 15 years, stole some jewellery off me, like I'm so rich she can just help herself! Never had anyone do that to me before and I'd given her loads of clothes, bags, furniture and of course I was livid but I could never have a go at her as much as I'd wanted to because of what she knew so I couldn't afford to ruffle her feathers.  I don't have any more desires in wanting to tell anyone. Got used to it now.

All my family are within 6 or so miles but it's a busy area so I don't worry about it. Much more worrying if you are from a small town. Neighbours too, of course.

Quote from: Discreetdesires on 28 March 2015, 09:53:25 pm

I think working out of town is wise lil lolita.

I don't feel any shame embarking on sex work I just don't want my mum finding out, I've given her enough sleepless nights over the years xx

I'm the same! But with so much stigma about today, it is best nobody knows. If I have a query or a problem, I come on here. I just wish that there was someone who could know my whereabouts whilst in a booking incase anything happened, but then I do my security checks and when doing outcalls, suss the situation out quickly e.g. nearest exits for a worst case scenario!

It's unfortunate where I stay how everyone knows your business and is so damn nosey! I miss Edinburgh here you can remain anonymous (in my eyes you can). I got a takeaway last night and was carrying it home and immediately had nosey residents who knew me asking what I was doing, ooohh, what was that I ordered. Like I said in another post, you can't fart where I live without someone knowing...  x

Hellooo

You should have said you had 'roast cock and chips'-given them something to gossip about. Better to be talked about than forgotten  x

Count me out of this, was outted by a client. Can happen in anyways sorry to scare you

Count me out of this, was outted by a client. Can happen in anyways sorry to scare you

How did that happen?

I was planning to keep quiet. Was desperate as had no security buddy and spoke to my old friend and explained.
She was fine and became my buddy, also funny enough she came out clean and told me that she was woking as escort years back. She is an old lady, says if she could still do it she would, gave me her 'blessing'.

So far but im discrete and hubby knows