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sabjones96

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Has escorting put you off men?
« on: 27 November 2021, 08:30:43 am »
I have always been bisexual, and I slept with a LOT A of men before I started escorting. I was always a pretty hyper sexual person. Since escorting my attraction to men has reduced by a lot.
More and more each day I work I think about whenever I quit in the future that I never want to go near a man again.

I do enjoy escorting and of course not everyone I see is disgusting - but I was wondering if I’m alone In this.
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #1 on: 27 November 2021, 09:04:39 am »
Lol, I'm the reverse ... it's cos civvy men are just so bad and disrespectful and unclean that I got in to this.

That was 6 years ago and to be honest I've never looked back.

I've met many lovely men over the years that I would never have met otherwise. And I've met some vile ones, too, but at least I've been paid for everything  ;)

These days if I go out on dates with anyone I just feel like I'm working for free.
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #2 on: 27 November 2021, 10:25:03 am »
Lol, I'm the reverse ... it's cos civvy men are just so bad and disrespectful and unclean that I got in to this.

That was 6 years ago and to be honest I've never looked back.

I've met many lovely men over the years that I would never have met otherwise. And I've met some vile ones, too, but at least I've been paid for everything  ;)

These days if I go out on dates with anyone I just feel like I'm working for free.

Same. I've dated a lot of men over the last 2 years. Most are a total waste of space and disrespectful. I only dated one that liked to give as well as receive. Sadly he didn't want a relationship. I've only ever had orgasms with clients. Met some really nice guys escorting and no longer have the constant rejection/disappointment of divvy guys with there multiple red flags. Whilst I'd love a loving caring relationship, I have no faith in divvy men any more.

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« Reply #3 on: 27 November 2021, 11:14:46 am »
The thing that this job does do is open you up to how many men cheat on there wives and have no guilt and still want unprotected services.

Plus the amount of men out there up and down the country that enjoy wasting our time by doing fake bookings or taking
Some kind of piss. So this can certainly turn you off once you see how many men do this.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #4 on: 27 November 2021, 12:45:59 pm »
No - I did quite an intensive few years of online dating which made me very realistic about men, and whoring hasn't really changed my opinion. Put another way, I've not found punters any worse than civvy men in terms of being cheating shits. Both have made me picky in my private life though, and I would rather be single than in a pointless/half-hearted relationship just for the sake of it.
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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #5 on: 27 November 2021, 09:28:52 pm »
I was off men and that's WHY I went into escorting!
Escorting just confirms my choice.  ;D

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #6 on: 28 November 2021, 07:10:06 am »
Doing this made me lose a lot of respect for men. I shouldn’t  judge them all the same but I don’t really respect one who would pay for sex. I don’t know why men pay and woman don’t

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #7 on: 28 November 2021, 09:26:04 am »
Lol, I'm the reverse ... it's cos civvy men are just so bad and disrespectful and unclean that I got in to this.

That was 6 years ago and to be honest I've never looked back.

I've met many lovely men over the years that I would never have met otherwise. And I've met some vile ones, too, but at least I've been paid for everything  ;)

These days if I go out on dates with anyone I just feel like I'm working for free.

Very similar for me, I've met some great people since starting paid sex punters, clients, others doing the same. It can be so easy to think 'men this, men that' because 99 per cent of our customers are men.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #8 on: 28 November 2021, 10:13:12 am »
I have no trust in men at all before I was escorting so after many one night stands sex work was easy.
They paid the got a service they left.
I'd been treated better by clients than some idiots I'd dated.
Has it put me off ..well it certainly hasnt installed any respect or value towards them

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #9 on: 28 November 2021, 01:06:36 pm »
I enjoy food so much more than men  ;D
Give me a gourmet meal, champagne and a good scary movie any day of the week.

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« Reply #10 on: 28 November 2021, 02:22:47 pm »
I enjoy food so much more than men  ;D
Give me a gourmet meal, champagne and a good scary movie any day of the week.

 ;D KBP, I am in total agreement!

I am a singleton and very happy in my own company. That said, I don't hate clients, they're just people like anyone else. It may be a terrible stereotype but I think generally speaking most men are good at separating lust from love. Sex with us is like getting a takeaway when they're hungry. If they weren't paying us they might be having affairs and one night stands instead. So escorting hasn't put me off men. I'm at peace with the differences between the sexes and just hope to be treated with respect during the booking. That's all I care about really.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #11 on: 28 November 2021, 03:29:13 pm »
;D KBP, I am in total agreement!

I am a singleton and very happy in my own company. That said, I don't hate clients, they're just people like anyone else. It may be a terrible stereotype but I think generally speaking most men are good at separating lust from love. Sex with us is like getting a takeaway when they're hungry. If they weren't paying us they might be having affairs and one night stands instead. So escorting hasn't put me off men. I'm at peace with the differences between the sexes and just hope to be treated with respect during the booking. That's all I care about really.

That's exactly what I think. I respect my clients and treat them well as they are my livelihood but I couldn't do civvie sex now as I wouldn't do it for free, and the thought of having to share my space with anyone apart from my cats is a no brainer.
I feel nowadays that I think more like a man when it comes to sex in that they can scratch an itch for me then I can forget about them (if they're any good and as long as they're paying me!)

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #12 on: 28 November 2021, 04:31:12 pm »
Hey ;)
For me, sex has always been detached from feelings. Even when I wasn't working in escorting. It's great if I like someone, sex is better, sure!
But I like adrenaline ... I'm curious how it will be with someone new. It can be cool and it can be horrible ... you never know.
If I had a lot of unpleasant meetings, I really don't want sex and the presence of men. Then it is worth taking a break or making an appointment with someone you know that sex is great.
Sometimes clients are more caring and affectionate than civilian men.
I don't care if it's just an illusion. Apparently, they and I need it.
And I try not to judge my clients, I don't know their reasons.
But that doesn't mean I loved everyone and every meeting was fun. No, unfortunately not.
And I don't want to have sex for free anymore ... I feel used :FF

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #13 on: 28 November 2021, 05:59:38 pm »
And I don't want to have sex for free anymore ... I feel used :FF

Ditto. I really do feel used by men who just want sex outside of escorting. I guess we know our worth but also that we don't need civvy men for sex.

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Re: Has escorting put you off men?
« Reply #14 on: 28 November 2021, 06:31:33 pm »
I have had enough sex both paid and civvy to know if feelings are there it will be absolutely completely different.

I don't mind having civvy sex if there are feelings, but it would be utterly pointless if there wasn't.

I'd definitely feel used then  >:(
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