Hmm I am not sure if it has made me more confident or more insecure really.  I think it is a great confidence boost that people actually choose you and want to pay to have sex with you! But at the same time, comments about my weight etc made me very insecure and I went through a phase of constantly comparing myself to younger/prettier/skinnier escorts.

I have lost about a stone and a half since I started working, but I actually think I was more confident before I lost the weight! When I was a size 14-16 I knew if men were booking me, then they must love curves and would enjoy me. Now as a size 12, I worry I am too fat for some and not curvy enough for others!

Its definitely made me more confident about my body. But mentally its very taxing, one of the first things I noticed years ago was the sheer amount of married men visiting me the number is just staggering. I'll never ever trust any future boyfriend to ever be faithful, ever! Then there's all the messing around, timewasters, abusers, neighbours, stalkers, you really have to have thick skin doing this.

But my body I'm very confident. I used to have low self esteem when I was in school as I was a little bit fat so then I started jogging and swimming a lot. I used to work at a strip club when I turned 18 so I kind of started learning from there how to approach and talk with all sorts of guys, and seeing how they looked at me with such lust was a proper confidence booster confirming I had a good body on me. So since then I've always kept myself looking fit and attractive as I love the attention men give me when I'm out.

The dating from escorting clients around town helps as well. At first when I was 19 it felt SO embarrassing going out dressed to impress with guys easily old enough to be my dad, I remember with one client who was 45 he made it obvious to everyone that I was his girlfriend and sleeping together, it was fun actually I was just always hoping no one I knew would see me with him/clients which is why I moved to another city away from home.

I love it how some of them buy me all sorts of expensive things like my louboutins heels. In a normal relationship and dating I doubt I'd get such treatment.

Also in bed I feel very confident with men, proof is all there when they constantly keep saying how amazing I am, a great kisser, sex had never been that good with their wives, they wish they could marry me and things.

When I go in the room with a client then I whip my clothes off as I’m very confident about my body but when I have civvy sex I keep my bra on as I feel my boobs are too small (32B) but I am slim so I’d look ridiculous with big boobs, my insecurities with my boobs come from a bastard ex of mine who said, after the very first time we had sex, ‘would you consider getting your boobs enhanced’!!! That has stuck with me since 2011 when he said it, anyway according to statistics then intelligent men prefer smaller boobs and I kinda see why that it is.  I have perky tits and considering I’m 37 and had one child then I must admit they do look good, just a little small.  I’ve a great arss so most men that go with me are bum men, at the end of the day tits are just fat.

Oh and I always get told I’m sexy rather than beautiful    but a lot of people think sexy and beautiful are the same thing but they ain’t, Kate Middleton is beautiful but not sexy, Pink is sexy but not beautiful, do you see what I mean?

Don't let these men mess with your confidence. I can understand why that guy's comment about a boob job would be upsetting but there's a boob size for everyone and he sounds like a prick.

In terms of beauty v sexiness, I'm sure Kate is sexy to William and Pink is beautiful to her partner. I happen to think Pink is very beautiful.

Doing this job has made me take compliments and insults with a healthy pinch of salt! It's my body, not theirs and as long as I'm healthy that is all that counts

I wish I had that confidence that you have but I haven’t, do you know what a client said to me the other day, ‘Alana is a Bonny looking girl but I picked you because I wanted a good shag’, meaning I am not good looking as Alana but a better shag

Ugh, the things they say sometimes. I hope I didn't come across as downplaying how hard it is to be judged on our looks and our bodies. Saunas and parlours can be hard on your confidence because you're constantly comparing yourself to the other ladies in the room and the clients are doing the same, often in dickish language like that 'gent'. It doesn't mean you're not beautiful I'm sure if I went back to parlours I would get the same kind of ignorant comment because I'm mature, and a bit crinkly in places.

I am big busted and a ex of mine said to me have you ever considered a breast reduction, he had been chipping away at my confidence over time, I replied I would have a breast reduction the week after he had a penis extension. He was very small in that department. This was all before I started sex work

I now really do not care what anyone thinks of my body and if they comment about anything negative I just look at a area of theirs that I think they may have issues accepting, for example a beer belly. I do not know if this is due to sex work, due to my current partner giving me a lot of confidence or just because I am getting older.

There are areas of my body I would like improve but would I sacrifice that glass of wine or go to the gym for hours just to improve something that is not affecting me, hell no. I will drink the wine and enjoy it

I think it has to some degree although I had some confidence (sex confidence mostly) before starting sw, I have stretchmarks and very small boobs so not a pretty young thing anymore but none have ever complained so far.

Like a pp said in time I will most likely be cynical that any man I'm with personally will be faithful as most of the ones I see are married/in relationships.

I wish! Although I do think as I get older perhaps I give less of a fuck than I did when I was younger. The more you live the more you realise the things that matter and the things that don't but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't insecure about parts of me. Sometimes I wonder why someone would pay me for sex but then I think well, they do and it's me that's earning the money and I feel awesome about that!

I also sometimes wonder why some men pay me for sex too but it’s been nearly 13 years so I think it’s time to stop wondering and accept it! Lol xxx