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Had the worst week of my life
« on: 09 July 2014, 12:15:54 pm »
On Monday I had a regular client and he pinned me down and forced himself inside of me without protection. He wasn't all the way in & he didn't come but I was shaking and crying & he wouldn't stop. It was utterly terrifying. I don't even know what to tell the woman who runs the agency because he gave me a bad feeling the first time I saw him & told them I never wanted to see him again but they accidentally sent him anyway. But told him I didn't want to see him so it made things even worse.

I'm an absolute fucking wreck. I don't have any money because I have been off with the flu before hand for a couple of weeks.
I don't actually know what I am going to do. I can't face going back to work at the moment.
 He's depressed and ill at the moment which is why he broke it off, but now I really feel like this whole thing is going to break me.
 Any advice would be really great but please no 'harsh truths' because I'm a wreck as it is.
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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2014, 12:48:46 pm »
In your place, the first two things I would do would be..

Stop using this agency to find work.

Find some support around being raped.
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2014, 12:52:16 pm »
Shit hun, you need to tell that agency! That's basically rape.. I don't really know what advice to give you regarding the boyfriend,
I know you need him now more than ever, but it sounds like he's in no fit state to give you that support at the moment..
You need to report this guy, asap!!, not just for what he did to you, but in case he does it to other girls as well..!
Is there anywhere you can go to get away from it all for a bit, like a family-member (your mum??) or a good friend, so at least
you won't be alone and you'll get fed etc..?
I feel for you, this guy definitely needs reported!
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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2014, 12:55:59 pm »
Hi K :)

First of all what happened to you is horrible and you have every right to feel the way you do. I have a friend who went through something very similar recently. My advice would be to tell your agency immediately and the police, what he did was illegal and it is in no way your fault. You may feel not up for this what so ever at the minute, that's ok, but I believe you will feel better, you will have spoken about it and you know he isn't going to get away with it.

In terms of money, my friend quit escorting all together and started web camming. Yes the money isn't as lucrative, but she still clears around 2000 a month after AW deductions, which is still a good living and she is her own boss with no direct client contact. That may not be what your after, but it is an option.

Alternatively, you could go Indy. I know many of the girls would back me up in saying they feel safer this way, as they personally screen the client, whilst it isn't fool proof, you are definitely more in control than working for your agency, and this may give you the confidence when your ready to start work again.

As for this combined with the boyfriend, I think you really just need some time out and spend lots of time with your friends and family, they will give you the strength, because they love you  :)

I hope this helped, and I really hope you feel better soon x

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2014, 01:25:47 pm »
Unless I am misreading the original post, she told the agency before this happened that she didn't want to see him again, but they "accidentally" did. Combined with - again, if I am reading it correctly - telling him.*

As well as him, it is the agency that needs reporting, but support for her comes first.

* It is possible that it was her who told him that she didn't want to see him again, but that does not make their behaviour better and makes his worse.
« Last Edit: 09 July 2014, 01:34:22 pm by xw5 »
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2014, 01:57:46 pm »
Everything's happening at once and what has happened is overwhelming.  Are there any sex support groups in your area?  If so, get in touch with them asap.  They will give you the support you need and advice regarding going to the police and reporting this guy for rape and the agency.  You already told the agency you didn't want to see him as you had a bad feeling about him the last time you met, but they 'accidentally' sent him anyway. 

Your boyfriend is probably not going to be able to give you the support you need, as he needs to support himself if he's depressed.  I would find help and report this guy and the agency first.  Then when you feel a bit stronger, then maybe talk to your boyfriend and see if you can work things out. 

I really hope you get sorted.  Take care xx
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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2014, 02:50:19 pm »
Everything's happening at once and what has happened is overwhelming.  Are there any sex support groups in your area?  If so, get in touch with them asap.

If the OP is where I think she is, there's a really good one. K, I'm hoping you've found them yourself or gone to the police, but either way I'll send you a PM now :).

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2014, 03:00:35 pm »
Your agent sounds dangerously stupid. Ditch! You can't trust that person with your life.

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Unfortunately depressed people don't have the mental and emotional reserves to care for others, so he may really need to retreat for a while, and look after his own emotional health. I can only recommend what others here have already recommended about joining a victim support group near you. In addition, you may want to have the number of the Samaritans next to your bed. If you wake up at 4 in the morning, feeling upset and abandoned, pick up the phone and speak to somebody - they were brilliant at talking me down from the ledge when I was at my wits' end some years ago. They don't judge, but are calm, competent in a crisis, and make you feel like you're not alone.

Reach out when you need to, and know there's a community out there that's rooting for you.
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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #8 on: 09 July 2014, 03:13:33 pm »
Hi honey internet hugs for you.

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #9 on: 09 July 2014, 07:59:59 pm »
I'm sorry, hun, that's terrible :( I would definitely ditch your agency... They should have had your security and safety in mind, and never should have made a mistake like that. I would also go and find support for the sexual assault. What this guy did to you was sick and wrong and it is in no way your fault. What he did was illegal, and I do think you should report him if you feel up to it. He should face consequences for what he did to you...

Is there anyone you could stay with or borrow money from while you recover?

As for your boyfriend, that's incredibly rough, and I'm sorry :( I dun really know what else to say except hang in there and if you need to talk/vent/rant, you can always PM me. Sending hugs your way, and I hope you start feeling better soon. So sorry you had to go through this....

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Re: Had the worst week of my life
« Reply #10 on: 12 July 2014, 09:41:37 am »
If the agency value your service if nothing else then a sharp warning about leaving would do good. I think everyone gets a bit greedy from time to time & will send over / see clients they wouldn't normally. Not to be naive or anything but it IS worth having a word. As long as it is the first & only strike where the agency has messed about your saftey. It just isn't on, you pay them a portion of your earnings in exchange for good clients & safe screening.

As regards to your boyfriend. It sucks that you have anyone one else to chitchat about him & this topic. If you want there are anonymous chat hotline sort of you can sign up to (i wish i could remember the name of one i came across because it was random folk offer to be your counsellor as a sort & you just vent vent vent, can be about anything) Maybe you can twist your work story to your friends, that is what i do, appropriate to your alibi job.

I hope things pick up for you. Having no money sucks as it means you can't cheer yourself up but their are free stuff you can do. Maybe if you have sky you can rent a film you don't have to pay for them for a good month or 2 :) Just cosy up in bed, feel sorry for yourself, watch some tv & get back out there when you feel like it. You might want to consider installing cameras, you can get some for ?150. Or the weather is nice, maybe you can go on a walk & picnic by yourself. I go all kinds of places by myself when i feel crap as i'm an ambivert, does the job.