Decline, decline, decline.  If they want to meet for coffee for free they are just timewasters - they will never make a booking.

Decline, decline, decline.  If they want to meet for coffee for free they are just timewasters - they will never make a booking.

As a guy who has made EVERY escort mistake in the book...specifically the first few weeks I started, I'd have to say NO. I have accepted dinner offers from well-off men and taken coffee appointments with men who I thought would book me after the 'date'. Non sense, and its a silly waste of time. Invariably it ends up being a conversation about your work with them being nosey as they have never met an escort before. Tell them if they want to make dinner plans, they're going to have to book time. And tell them to f*ck off if they say you're inconsiderate, this is a business not some personal's website 

Hey Strawberry,

Not sure if this is the context in which any of them have said it  (it seems from your post that the guys in question have deluded themselves into thinking you would be interested in meeting them for a date.....) but on two occasions I have met clients for paid lunch-dates before they decide whether to make a long booking or not. I have social rates for this, which they seemed grateful for- about one third off of what I charge for a booking. I don't advertise them, only suggest them if they ask to meet for lunch/coffee etc. If they are serious about seeing you, then they might well take you up on this offer, and if they are just trying to get their rocks off for free, they will have absolutely no answer to this!

him: can I meet you for lunch before I book?
you: of course honey! I have some great social rates for this sort of thing, would you like me to quote them?
him: oh. errrrr, would I have to pay?
you: Oh not the full fee sweetie, it would be lovely to meet you at a reduced rate for lunch!

See?! They have absolutely no comeback for this if you innocently pretend it never even entered your head they were trying to get a free date! Wheedles out the TWs in an instant too

I actually state on my site that I am available for social bookings and any invites to dinner or lunch or drinks before arranging a booking are at the social rate.

A guy I saw last week, called a couple of days later and asked me out to dinner, I said I'd love to and that he was of course thinking of it as part of a longer booking, upon which he went a bit funny, said yes, how much, then said he would think about how long he would book for and call me back. i haven't heard from him and our 'date'was supposed to be tomorrow. Well you never know.

I don't think it is wise to blurr the lines between business and private life, so I feel you have been right to turn down those requests, but maybe the social booking offer is a way for you to go, though I think you will find that many will retreat once money is involved.
 

Welcome Ricardo,

Go with the social booking fee, if they really want to test you out to book, they'll pay otherwise TW.

granted i have had a few requests for: can i meet you for a coffee? to which i say: you pay me for my time, so i am happy to meet you at my rates...but to be honest, i have had quite a few genuine clients say: we'll go out for dinner and then have some private time....they pay for 'my time' at my correct rate, and its bloody brilliant! i have had loads of those type of bookings and its really nice when it happens as you can have a nice meal and then the private time, to which you are happier to oblige because you've been well fed! xxx  moral of my story is: there are genuine clients out there!! xxx