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K47

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Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« on: 02 March 2016, 04:00:15 pm »
Until a few days ago I didn't have my number listed on Adultwork, I would send it after getting a message from a guy and deciding he is ok. Since it's been so quiet recently I've put my number up now, and I've had loads of guys call, ask a few questions (what time I'm working from/til, where I'm based etc) then say they will call back later and they never do!

It's making me worried that my voice is just really unappealing or something, I try to sound sweet and friendly on the phone..
Or are they just timewasters that just wanted to chat to an escort for a minute?

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #1 on: 02 March 2016, 04:35:07 pm »
Don't worry I'm sure it's nothing to do with your voice! I have my number up permanently and get several each day that say they will call back but never do! They are either timewasters or the type of guys who call around a few escorts before deciding on one. Or it could be something comes up which prevents them calling back and booking - i.e. work commitments

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #2 on: 02 March 2016, 04:45:55 pm »
Nah it's not you, it's just what they do. I'm sure that most of them just get a kick out of talking to a hooker on the phone.  Either that or they get cold feet.  I only ever have my number up on AW in the couple days run-up to my working days (I'm part time) and on the days I'm working themselves.  To be honest I've given up answering the phone most of the time.  It says on my profile that if they can't get hold of me on the phone they should text or email, and hardly any of them do, so I figure they're just not serious about wanting to see me.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #3 on: 02 March 2016, 04:51:43 pm »
You will get this a fair bit.On Monday night I had 2 calls both from decent sounding guys one wanting a 30 min at 11am and one wanting a duo at midday.Both were asked to text between 9am and 10am to confirm and get address details,neither did.It's a pain in the arse.Lots are just ringing round and some may well think they want a booking for the next day but chicken out or change their mind or simply get off on making bookings.Part of the job.

K47

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #4 on: 02 March 2016, 07:00:50 pm »
I think it actually might be me! as I just had a client and in person he told me I'd sounded a bit grumpy on the phone! I've also had friends say this to me in the past... argh.. I do try to sound nice and friendly on the phone to clients but honestly I just hate talking on the phone and obviously that is coming across. Any tips to sound friendlier?

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #5 on: 02 March 2016, 07:53:47 pm »
Any tips to sound friendlier?


I sit or stand upright with a big smile on my face whilst talking on the phone to clients that I want to book me.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #6 on: 02 March 2016, 08:48:14 pm »
It doesn't phase me in the slightest anymore.
It happens to everyone x

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #7 on: 02 March 2016, 08:50:28 pm »
Any tips to sound friendlier?

I sit or stand upright with a big smile on my face whilst talking on the phone to clients that I want to book me.

I can second this. You'll feel silly smiling when you pick the phone up but it works, and I even have a spot in my flat that I stand in when I answer the phone if I'm feeling snappy as I definitely sound better standing up straight :).

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #8 on: 02 March 2016, 10:37:35 pm »
You may also benefit from looking in the mirror and smiling at yourself. Leaning forward as if listening and speaking to someone across from you about whom you really care can also help. At any rate, body language and smiling does help over the phone.

But, yes, quite a few just want to hear your voice and then bugger off. As long as they're not wanking and asking lots of stupid questions, no harm done. They may actually call and book one day.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #9 on: 03 March 2016, 09:41:05 am »
The Mirror thing does work, ha ha. :D

Yes I treat an enquiry as an enquiry and continue as normal, a booking isn't a booking until one is definitely agreed and a 'call you or email you back' doesn't happen until it happens.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #10 on: 03 March 2016, 10:04:01 am »
I take a deep breath and summon up my inner nice warm friendly persona (ha) I guess I just try and make it seem like I'm genuinely interested in them and quite often I do get comments that I come across as friendly so I guess I must be doing something right!

Okay so it doesn't always work if they are blatant  time wasters then my patience runs thin.... But even then the worst that happened is I've got a bit snappy, except on one occasion but that was thoroughly provoked.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #11 on: 03 March 2016, 10:13:32 am »
They do it all the time to everyone but yes it can be your tone of voice on occasion. I'm trying the soft whisper approach to see how that goes. NLP may be of benefit, getting yourself psyched up to answer the phone. Maybe set a quirky ring tone that makes you happy or one that is relaxing works too. Visualise reaching for a big wad of cash when talking to them haha.

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #12 on: 03 March 2016, 03:23:02 pm »
I think it actually might be me! as I just had a client and in person he told me I'd sounded a bit grumpy on the phone! I've also had friends say this to me in the past... argh.. I do try to sound nice and friendly on the phone to clients but honestly I just hate talking on the phone and obviously that is coming across. Any tips to sound friendlier?

Smile smile smile you will feel like a dick , but it really works

K47

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #13 on: 03 March 2016, 05:23:08 pm »
Ok will try these tips! It's not that I'm actually grumpy, I just get quite nervous answering the phone and it seems to come across as grumpyness

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Re: Guys saying they will call back and then dont
« Reply #14 on: 03 March 2016, 05:37:12 pm »
Ok will try these tips! It's not that I'm actually grumpy, I just get quite nervous answering the phone and it seems to come across as grumpyness


It will feel a bit awkward at first but once you get used to it, you will get more confident and it will come naturally  :)