Author Topic: Client insisting it's not just business and he is "different" (Read 1009 times)

Anonwoman101 · « **on:** 27 November 2021, 12:37:55 pm »

Hi everyone,
This is my first post here, I've been having some trouble and this forum was recommended!

I am new to escorting but have been seeing a regular since I started.
From the start he pushed boundaries by saying he was different and that we had something etc, I (stupidly) played along with this and then he started saying any money he gave me was just to help me out. Of course that now means that over time he has ended up pushing it to 2 hr meets for £100 when we agreed 100ph. He's so manipulative and acts disappointed if I bring it up because he "didn't think I was all about the money and thought we were different".
Please help

KBP · « **Reply #1 on:** 28 November 2021, 12:22:18 pm »

Hi,
You need to establish clear boundaries and this means cutting off this manipulate client who is basically getting sex for free.
There are lots of threads on screening and boundary pushers to help on here.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Years ago, my first client did exactly the same.
Wisdom comes with experience in this job.

Mirror · « **Reply #2 on:** 28 November 2021, 12:26:23 pm »

Something similar happened to me, then same again in a different guise few years later.

You have to state your actual price, the full price. If he can't or won't pay he has a choice to find someone else or stop booking. There'll be plenty of other punters who will pay without fuss to replace him, and remove this stress.

Miffy · « **Reply #3 on:** 28 November 2021, 12:28:47 pm »

Anonwoman101,

You don't need or want a client like this. Decline any further bookings he tries to make and you don't owe him any explanations for your refusal to see him again either.

Like KBP says, read threads on here - use the search box to find them. Work out your boundaries and stick to them. If a client tries to push you, ask them to leave. Make no exceptions for anyone.

Milf-G · « **Reply #4 on:** 28 November 2021, 12:29:44 pm »

I made the same mistake, you have to be tough from the outset, setting clear boundaries. We were all new once, I'm still quite new perhaps at only a year in. Spot the signs of manipulation and nip it in the bud. They all say they are different lol. Don't be too hard kn yourself either x

MissWolf · « **Reply #5 on:** 28 November 2021, 12:30:42 pm »

Hunni I've had this kind of boundary pusher, always over time, doing the whole I only see you because you are special etc

He is doing this because he knows you are new and is taking this opportunity manipulate you

The simple solution to this problem is to tell him you will not see him again, its not the easy option but it has to be done

Guilt tripping someone into doing things they are uncomfortable or unhappy about is abuse, pure and simple. He is using you for his own gain and will keep pushing you to the point you don't know which way is up, it wouldn't surprise me if he is angling to get his bookings free and to work towards being your pimp, under the guise of looking after you of course.

Don't worry about replacing the income you will do fine and you will grow in confidence from getting rid of him from your books

Tell him no more then block and move on, if he continues to contact you or harass you by turning up etc then report him on client eye and speak to NUM (national ugly mugs) they are amazing

Be strong you can do it x

PinkR2021 · « **Reply #6 on:** 28 November 2021, 03:38:19 pm »

I wouldn’t even try to repair this. He’s costing you money by pushing your boundaries. Simply block and move on.
I had one guy book me for four hour for a first meeting. We got on okay but it was a long four hours. He then kept texting and asking me out which prompted me to suggest he book again should he want to see me. I got the same nonsense about how he “didn’t think I was just after sex and money.”
Oh, it took all my strength not to send a laughing emoji( especially about the sex comment). I simply said “I’m sorry if you misunderstood our relationship. I wish you well.” Then blocked.
These men know what they are doing.

English Green · « **Reply #7 on:** 28 November 2021, 04:23:30 pm »

This client is just a piss taker well actually not sure if he even comes under "the client bracket anymore"

I would not want to continue seeing him even if i set out more firm boundaries and stopped the free extra hour. If it was me i would just say not enjoying and liking these bookings anymore and not earning enough as you are staying longer and i view this a business you will have to find someone else as i am ending these sessions then block him.

ana30 · « **Reply #8 on:** 28 November 2021, 06:28:29 pm »

Text book manipulator, he knows you're new and he's taking the piss big time. My advice would be to get rid of him asap. Greener pastures etc..

lillybliss · « **Reply #9 on:** 28 November 2021, 06:32:01 pm »

The fuck, listen tell him to fuck off! 100 for two bloody hours, no seriously block him x.

Caledonia · « **Reply #10 on:** 28 November 2021, 07:37:13 pm »

Okay by the sounds of it he knew you were new and has been manipulating you from the start. You said you both agreed to £100 for 1hr, do you mean he said a price and agreed to it or that that is your advertised rate? If it is the former he has definitely been manipulating you from the start, there shouldn't be any agreement on rate beyond the client agreeing to pay your advertised rate and any deposits.

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Author Topic: Client insisting it's not just business and he is "different" (Read 1009 times)

Anonwoman101

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