And we don't all slag off men !

Well I'm not judging anyone and lots of people on here are in long term relationships , that it seems you are ridiculing .

Anna, you're as entitled to your opinion as everybody else here and everyone's experiences are welcome, but please remember that an opinion is all it is, and that whilst your experiences are entirely valid they also only apply to you and cannot be extrapolated to include anybody else.

It is not OK to try to tell other adults that they do or should think, feel and act the same as you, and presenting personal views as fact is not acceptable here - please keep this in mind and post accordingly .

Well what your views are based on isn't the point, but it's important to remember that because you feel a particular way about relationships and sex work that doesn't mean that others will.agree and nor does it make you right and them wrong (or vice versa). To those for whom sex work is a positive choice and an honest job the fact that we are having sex with punters at work and relationship partners at home is no more relevant or problematic than if we were cooking them food or cutting their hair - it's a paid service and that's all.

That isn't to say I agree with those advising lying to partners, but just because I wouldn't do it doesn't give me the right to tell others they can't. The world is a diverse place

The world is indeed a diverse place but to dress up deception
as diversity is quite morally repugnant.

Exactly. And the word 'debate' is one which means
we have differing opinions and it is not a good thing
to try to shut down voices of those who do not
agree. That's the whole point of debate and discussion,
If we all agreed and tried to silence opinions we would
never learn anything.

The world is indeed a diverse place but to dress up deception
as diversity is quite morally repugnant.

I didn't say that at all - do not patronise me, and most certainly do not twist my words. I was pointing out that not everybody deceives their partners, and that includes me. My job is just work, and that is all.

The wide variety of ways in which different people conduct their personal affairs is where the diversity lies, and since I suspect you know exactly what I mean I'll suggest you take the judgemental twaddle down a notch. Debating is fine but as I've already said, telling other people they are wrong because they don't share your extremely negative and pessimistic outlook is not.

I disagree, this is not the same as cutting hair.

And that's fine - for you . In terms of providing paying customers with a professional service, it's no different at all to me. It's also possibly worth pointing out that my partner also provides an expensive paid service to customers and therefore has more insight into what it's like than somebody with a civvy job.