I’ve ‘retired’ and returned to the industry a number of times due to work, relationships, children and have been really lucky to keep my regulars even when I’ve had a five year gap. I think it comes down to a number of things.
Being genuine and doing what it says on the tin.
My locations/physical attributes / services have changed many times over the years but my clients know that I will always be honest. I look like and provide what I say I will and they know that they can trust me.
Be fair.
I won’t let anyone take the pee but I am always fair, if I cock up I admit and apologise and make up for it. If someone cancels reasonably I don’t penalise them for it and for instance one client on his first time visiting me walked in, paid me for 3 hours and was so nervous he left after 15. I gave him the majority of the money back. He still sees me regularly 14 years on.
Take time to get to know them.
Yes of course they’re kinks and what they want sexually but outside of that. I often feel as though I’m meeting an old friend because I am and they feel that too. One of my regulars has moved on sexually to being a slave, I don’t provide a service anything like that but he still comes to see me for GFE because we have built a rapport and he loves a good natter. Yes most like to try out new things but when you build trust with people most want to try new things with you. Lots of my regulars kinks have been explored first and foremost with me because they know they can trust me and even if it’s not my thing they know I will give it my best because I like to see them happy.
Always look at it from their point of view.
Your location, your facilities. Would you be happy and comfortable and feel as though the required effort has been made?
Have integrity.
My clients know that I have standards. Yes I sell sex and there is a risk to that but they know I won’t put them in any unnecessary risk. They also know that I am discreet. They know I care for my own discretion too and that puts them at ease.
Don’t get complacent.
It’s easy too. I think I’ve been guilty of it at times when I’m used to seeing someone. You stop making as much effort. Don’t make them feel as special. With regulars it’s even more important to do so. You kick yourself when you lose then because like I said they can feel like friends and they are safe and you know what you are getting.
Let them grow with you.
My personal life has changed in the last 14 or so years since starting out. As I said, so has my offerings etc. of course I’m careful about my identity but I get them in on it a little.
Only offering massage because of a health issue - I let them know and I make it a bloody good massage.
Not offering cim anymore as partner isn’t happy. I let them know and have a bit of fun with the idea of my hubby knowing what I’m up to.
Changing schedule because of my business commitments - lots of office content!