Author Topic: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic] (Read 4185 times)

Mariaxxx · « **on:** 11 September 2022, 02:19:23 pm »

Quote from: northernstar on 11 September 2022, 10:47:28 am

Several years in the midlands, very busy and if not it’s because of some “external factors” like sports events or weather. Many regulars, can’t complain.

I'd love some tips about getting regulars. Take some effort so they don't get bored. And don't start to feel to comfortable.

amy · « **Reply #1 on:** 11 September 2022, 08:42:24 pm »

I've split this as it's a separate topic, and despite the me-rails on the other thread that isn't what the poster was asking

DBLM · « **Reply #2 on:** 11 September 2022, 10:12:31 pm »

Firstly, on their first (or even second visit you never know whether they will become a regular.
And the ones that specifically mention that they are looking for a regular girl (on the phone before you've met them) - well, they are not. you will see them once. They always say the same thing, hoping to get a better service or a discount.

Some clients are looking for the thrill of something new every time. And you have no control over that.
But there are plenty of clients who prefer to come back to what they know - so you are looking to win them and you can't tell who they are on first meeting.

I think you can increase your chances by:
1. having a really clean workplace and bathroom (I know mess/dirt does put some clients off from returning)
2. it's not the sexy things you do but everything else... such as being friendly and someone they can talk to.
3. if they become a regular, they will talk to you about their work, family, and whole life. So make yourself available as a good listener and allow time in the session for this sort of talk.
4. My own approach has always to be the most expensive WG around. And there are a number of reasons:

a)it puts off the guys who go visit all the cheap women - they are after quantity rather than quality
b) the men who visit you are less sensitive to price, and these can tend to be more likely to be regulars.
c) it's really hard to increase your prices. So, you might well be charging the same money in 10 years' time. It is much easier to start high - and you can always offer a sale or discount now and again.

RB1 · « **Reply #3 on:** 12 September 2022, 05:25:12 am »

I would say 80 percent of my clients are regs
I saw one on Friday and he was like I’ve been seeing you 5 years
I replied yes I remember when we first met - it was at xxx hotel and it was boiling hot in July 😂😂

oleyoleyWG · « **Reply #4 on:** 12 September 2022, 10:21:33 am »

Hi I have quite a lot of regulars in all my usual tour locations. I don’t think there’s a trick to it, they came to see me and liked my service and looks and that’s it they come back. First impressions are everything always answer the door in something that really suits you. I’m not in any area too long and I think guys like that I’m not around loads. Best of luck x

Mariaxxx · « **Reply #5 on:** 12 September 2022, 03:45:17 pm »

Quote from: RB1 on 12 September 2022, 05:25:12 am

I would say 80 percent of my clients are regs
I saw one on Friday and he was like I’ve been seeing you 5 years
I replied yes I remember when we first met - it was at xxx hotel and it was boiling hot in July 😂😂

I’m one of those people that can remember pretty much anything about my work but couldn’t tell you what I had for breakfast 😂I frequently lose keys money go to the shop and forget what I went there for - I’m a complete airhead . But I’m very very organised with my work

I think they like the fact that I remember them - it makes them feel Special. I’m a good listener and it’s not just about sex for a lot of guys they want to feel special i think

I always have a nice clean apartment / hotel room
Bottle of water / fluffy towels

I always give them a few extra minutes chatting to them before they leave and it’s generally paid off over the years as I have a lot of regular clients

5 years -WOW
5 meetings would be kinda hard for me.
That is all true what you said but I have a feeling you are talking from a "higher shelf" perspective.
I recently got a client for a second time and ironically enough I made almost all of things you mentioned. He came back after a year and seems just coz I was in his neighbourhood again and I work in a city which 1/4 of a size of London.
I feel like quality of sex also play a role and I am not a great actress to fake this engagement unfortunately.

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #6 on:** 14 September 2022, 09:45:42 am »

Quote from: DBLM on 11 September 2022, 10:12:31 pm

Firstly, on their first (or even second visit you never know whether they will become a regular.
And the ones that specifically mention that they are looking for a regular girl (on the phone before you've met them) - well, they are not. you will see them once. They always say the same thing, hoping to get a better service or a discount.

Some clients are looking for the thrill of something new every time. And you have no control over that.
But there are plenty of clients who prefer to come back to what they know - so you are looking to win them and you can't tell who they are on first meeting.

I think you can increase your chances by:
1. having a really clean workplace and bathroom (I know mess/dirt does put some clients off from returning)
2. it's not the sexy things you do but everything else... such as being friendly and someone they can talk to.
3. if they become a regular, they will talk to you about their work, family, and whole life. So make yourself available as a good listener and allow time in the session for this sort of talk.
4. My own approach has always to be the most expensive WG around. And there are a number of reasons:

a)it puts off the guys who go visit all the cheap women - they are after quantity rather than quality
b) the men who visit you are less sensitive to price, and these can tend to be more likely to be regulars.
c) it's really hard to increase your prices. So, you might well be charging the same money in 10 years' time. It is much easier to start high - and you can always offer a sale or discount now and again.

Apart from actually being probably one of the lowest priced escort in my area I do everything else listed here. I always have a steady stream of newer and regular clients and it works really well for me as I prefer being very high flow and I am really comfortable and happy with how I do business. I do price increases every 6months or so by £20 to feel out my 'sweet spot' and that is what has kept my regulars on as its kept me busy and guys don't really mind if its only an extra £20 so I've ended up with guys who used to pay £100 now paying £160 because of slow price increases and if anything they have become more regular over time. Its certainly not for everyone but for me I have felt more confident approaching the price changes this way rather than doing a big price hike as it does nothing for my anxiety when the phones go dead

Saying that I've never been sad if I need to say goodbye to a long standing client if they cross boundaries as there is always a new guy that will take his place and you can always make a new regular. This is how I can stay upbeat and enjoy the job as much as I can because it can be hard enough when it takes up most of your time and if you've had to make personal sacrifices in order to be able to do this work you don't need asswipes taking up headspace and dreading seeing them because they are your only real source of income for that month ect. Regulars can be fantastic if its easy regular money and you've got a good healthy client relationship with them but just don't get too comfortable. I would honestly say that the list here shown is pretty good representative in regards to keeping regulars in my experience.

But yea, staying consistently upbeat/friendly, being fairly genuine helps a lot and staying as professional as I possibly can be as it also helps give a little disconnect so people don't try and take advantage

English Green · « **Reply #7 on:** 14 September 2022, 11:02:27 am »

If i see clients that are definately my type of client e.g really friendly, lovely manners, smells nice, not too demanding and someone i feel really comfy around.

I will be really bubbly, pay them compliments, take my time with the service, make out i am really enjoying it and they are very good at what they are doing even when they are not i also take my time to have a little chat afterwards and not rush them out.

I find that works well for me and those are the type of clients i want back. If someone is smelly or hard work and too demanding and someone who sees a ridiculous amount of sex workers so has a huge ego i do a ok service but don't really want them back.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #8 on:** 14 September 2022, 11:27:47 am »

I agree with most of the points above. My regulars who return again and again I tend to remember things they have chatted about and that always makes a good impression. EG last visit he said he was taking his mum to a hospital appt - next visit I will say "How's your mum, everything okay?" Sometimes I make a quick note on my phone what we've chatted about as well as the service, as that will help me not only give them the service they enjoy but also continue the chat. So I might write something like "Dave - likes a lot of kissing, massive cock - works in construction". (I usually note their size because I get vaginal pain and might need to offer them an oral-only booking if I'm feeling delicate.)

Regarding prices, I have long-time (5+ years) regulars who I keep on the previous price structure when I've increased my prices. EG I started off with one who 2yrs ago was paying £100 for an hour which was my standard at the time. I went up to £120 in 2020, I kept him on £100. I've now gone up to £140 and I've moved him up to £120. However if I don't enjoy their company then they get told the new price and if they don't want to pay it, bye-bye!

The other thing that I don't think has been mentioned before is that I ONLY offer services which I enjoy. This means I bring enthusiasm to all my bookings because I'm not thinking "Oh god, I hope he doesn't like foot fetish, I'll have to grin and bear it, yuk yuk yuk" which would then bring a negative energy to the booking even if the guy didn't want whatever I was dreading.

I also make an effort to keep chat positive. I don't want to spend time talking about how shitty the traffic is, the cost of living increases, my stupid neighbour, or the previous horrible client. I also NEVER slag off other sex workers! I want them to have a memory of a fun, relaxing session, not that we had a bitch fest about politics

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #9 on:** 14 September 2022, 11:44:55 am »

Quote from: English Green on 14 September 2022, 11:02:27 am

If i see clients that are definately my type of client e.g really friendly, lovely manners, smells nice, not too demanding and someone i feel really comfy around.

I will be really bubbly, pay them compliments, take my time with the service, make out i am really enjoying it and they are very good at what they are doing even when they are not i also take my time to have a little chat afterwards and not rush them out.

I find that works well for me and those are the type of clients i want back. If someone is smelly or hard work and too demanding and someone who sees a ridiculous amount of sex workers so has a huge ego i do a ok service but don't really want them back.

If I get pain in the arse guys that are still somewhat tolerable and have been at least safe to see I tend to save their number under 'accept only if its quiet' and suggest to them that I am busy and can only accept a shorter booking if I'm not really in the mood so that I don't lose out on money. I just hold my nose if need be for half hour or so!

I once suggested to a guy that saw me twice every week that he needed to have a shower before our booking started as he kept leaving skid marks on my sheets. After two more visits he stopped contacting me. I realised as much as it was gross that he left the marks in reality he was always the last booking of the day and I bring extra sheets so it wasn't too big a deal, looking back I should have kept my mouth shut and just kept him on for longer until I got more fed up lol.

Sometimes its about what you're happy to tolerate, I don't mind someone not being fresh out the shower as long as they are short bookings and out the door but I always get them in the shower if its going to be over half hour.

I'm still the same with these guys in regards to my attitude towards them as its no skin off my back if I decided to block or not see again, for me its about keeping up the bravado so I don't end up slipping with other clients

English Green · « **Reply #10 on:** 14 September 2022, 02:31:04 pm »

SS91 see i think you done right thing telling him about the skid marks. Too many let them get away with bad bad hygiene just for the money. Leaving shit on bed sheets what other industry would think that was ok they would be appalled. I suppose that's why some have to pay for sex as most women would not put up with that without payment at the very least.

I am OCG on hygiene though so that is the hardest bit for me to tollerate.

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #11 on:** 14 September 2022, 03:06:15 pm »

Quote from: English Green on 14 September 2022, 02:31:04 pm

SS91 see i think you done right thing telling him about the skid marks. Too many let them get away with bad bad hygiene just for the money. Leaving shit on bed sheets what other industry would think that was ok they would be appalled. I suppose that's why some have to pay for sex as most women would not put up with that without payment at the very least.

I am OCG on hygiene though so that is the hardest bit for me to tollerate.

I know what you mean, I didn't actually mention the marks but he MUST have seen the fact that he left them on the bed and just figured that I wouldn't mention it but me asking him to shower was my way of saying it.

Going back to the subject is that to keep regs sometimes we cant always choose our regs if things are a tad slow sometimes and ideally we always have perfect ones that are not grotty little fucks but thats not the way of the world

I guess I am happy to tolerate a little whiffy or inconvenient stains for short bookings if it means weekly income. I am happier now he isn't a reg but I guess I gambled on him not being offended by me asking for basic decency and I am the one who was punished for it

English Green · « **Reply #12 on:** 14 September 2022, 03:25:27 pm »

SS91 even if you asked him to shower many do not even wash there bums unless you say it out loud your arse is smelly and dirty please sort this out.

I told 2 recently that there bum is very smelly and there arse has shit bits on it. Stupid excuses like forgot to wipe my bum or oh i never realised, soap must not be that good.

I said to them sorry but we are not paid enough this should be done automatically without me having to tell you.

When i get nice guys and they smell good i put myself out more. One client last month moaned about a woman he saw recently having bad smells down below and her armpits too and this man had the worst shit breathe i had to hold my breathe a lot of the booking. What a hypocrite slag off others but don't seem to sort his own shit breathe out.

Going back to the regs situation i also make notes of some of the men so if they return i remember bits about them which impresses them. Some tell me to save there number but i don't contact them.

Mirror · « **Reply #13 on:** 14 September 2022, 04:06:25 pm »

To me if someone can't have the decency to be clean, the disrespect I feel is not worth their money. Also suggests to me based on experience, they are likely to do something else awful. I give one maybe two chances, they have the choice. The very few smellies have also been difficult in other ways.

A couple of regulars have had one off genuine hygiene bad days, recovered from it. Another I talked to got the message that a bath or shower same day (had thought shower day prior, then standing wash on the day was enough (physical job) is the way forward and not an issue since - in fact he's squeaky clean every time.

It's not your fault, and you deserve better.

Kay · « **Reply #14 on:** 14 September 2022, 05:38:09 pm »

Some good points above. I definitely agree about only offering services you enjoy, or can at least easily tolerate; for example, DON'T offer anal or CIM unless you are fully comfortable doing so, ditto any role plays that you may find psychologically difficult.

If you 'click' with a client, offer them an extra-special service and perhaps make little notes about what you've worn in a booking, say, so you rotate outfits.

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