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Lalalondon

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Best way to make money without escorting
« on: 21 June 2018, 10:32:43 am »
Hi, so I was an escort for a short while, I loved the work but unfortunately my partner started to feel that it was affecting our relationship so I had to stop. I’d cut back on normal work so as you can imagine money is becoming an issue for me.
I’ve uploaded a few videos and pictures which made a little bit of money but after logging back on after not being online for a while they had been removed (adultwork- did the data protection stuff mean we had to reverify or something?)
Anyway, I’m a bit reluctant to cam, but I do need to make a good amount of money to pay a bill. Is there anything else that anyone could suggest?
I wish my BF could handle me escorting, such good money!
Thanks Ladies
Lala

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #1 on: 21 June 2018, 10:34:46 am »
The only thing I could suggest would be webcam or lap dancing xx

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #2 on: 21 June 2018, 10:37:29 am »
The only thing I could suggest would be webcam or lap dancing xx

Thanks for reply!
Lap dancing is a scary idea! Camming will probably be the way to go, just seems it could be frustrating and a lot of dodgy characters (a bit like escorting I suppose!)

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #3 on: 21 June 2018, 10:38:56 am »
Phone chat might be a good route to go down if you can do it well. Look up a few ‘dirty talk’ spiels online and take it from there. Market yourself well and create a brand. If your bf doesn’t allow you to put the effort into your own business you simply won’t make any money.

Second (simplest) option is to get rid of the bf and find someone who won’t let you go skint. But that’s your choice it’s your life.
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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #4 on: 21 June 2018, 11:37:34 am »
Phone chat might be a good route to go down if you can do it well. Look up a few ‘dirty talk’ spiels online and take it from there. Market yourself well and create a brand. If your bf doesn’t allow you to put the effort into your own business you simply won’t make any money.

Second (simplest) option is to get rid of the bf and find someone who won’t let you go skint. But that’s your choice it’s your life.

Phone chat sounds good, I didn’t think about that! There’s an option on Adult Work too isn’t there? I shall have to look and see how lucrative that could be, thank you!

As for second option, it’s frustrating for me that he doesn’t want me doing it, but tbf we’ve been together nearly 15 years with a child and mortgage, I wouldn’t let this be the thing that broke us up!

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #5 on: 21 June 2018, 11:47:59 am »
Yes there is an option, you need to have a registered number and the calls will come through.

Everyone’s situation is different I guess! I’ve never looked back from doing sex work and it now comes before relationships. If you can make it work then go for it, my advice is to stand your ground a bit. I think in reality he should be thinking similarly as far as breaking the relationship apart, he shouldn’t let your job be something he would potentially leave you over. You have a right to work how you see fit.
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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #6 on: 21 June 2018, 12:18:55 pm »
Some guys can handle being in a relationship with an escort and others never will. My experience is that those who can handle it still have mixed feelings and sometimes get emotional. They feel left out. When you feel they are tilting and becoming moody and sad, you have to compensate, be super sweet, cook for them, cancel a date or two if you have two.

It also doesn't work if you say you love them but you do it for money. That's a HUGE turnoff for a guy, because you demean him. Tell him you do it because you really really like sex, maybe you are addicted to it but you don't need a shrink, you just need to do it. And tell him how lucky you are to have found a man like him. Just never talk about money with a man, make them feel they are the breadwinners.

And if this is not enough, look for another boyfriend who is OK with it. There's many great men out there who just love it and if you practice you will meet them. If someone asks you out on a date that's a good sign, but tell him, listen I am open to a relationship and you are a nice guy, but i love my job and want to keep doing it. Would that be a problem for you? If they say yes, give them an overnight half price and go play girlfriend. There's quite a few guys who just want this.

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #7 on: 21 June 2018, 12:22:14 pm »
Yes there is an option, you need to have a registered number and the calls will come through.

Everyone’s situation is different I guess! I’ve never looked back from doing sex work and it now comes before relationships. If you can make it work then go for it, my advice is to stand your ground a bit. I think in reality he should be thinking similarly as far as breaking the relationship apart, he shouldn’t let your job be something he would potentially leave you over. You have a right to work how you see fit.

I agree, I wonder if maybe he wasn’t expecting me to enjoy it so much, mainly for the money but actually in general I do enjoy the job! I agree with you, we are both in precarious positions financially and I know I could easily make things a bit less strained!
I told him it was because he was too involved with it and he would find it easier the less he knew. But I am going to stand my ground tonight, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for him to let me work for 6 months or so. Something popped into my head earlier that we could break up over debt and that makes me so sad, when I can fix my issues easily and take the pressure from him. Food for thought, thanks ss91 xx

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #8 on: 21 June 2018, 01:19:36 pm »
I would put more effort into your online presence with videos and pics. Without marketing them I take a cheque every month from aw and it's not a lot but if I put more effort in it could easily be a small part time wage. And camming is good too. I'm not even good at it but it's how I go back into sex work. I did it while my daughter was nappin and made about 100 a week which isn't bad to say I don't leave the house or even pay for childcare.

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #9 on: 21 June 2018, 02:23:40 pm »
I would put more effort into your online presence with videos and pics. Without marketing them I take a cheque every month from aw and it's not a lot but if I put more effort in it could easily be a small part time wage. And camming is good too. I'm not even good at it but it's how I go back into sex work. I did it while my daughter was nappin and made about 100 a week which isn't bad to say I don't leave the house or even pay for childcare.

Will be sitting down tonight and uploading everything! I def need to make an effort this time, thanks for the advice!

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #10 on: 21 June 2018, 04:42:08 pm »
Ways to work in the adult industry without having sexual escort meetings:

- webcam (yes, can be tedious but once you get regular times you will find you get regular webcammers who pay good money to watch you. It can be done from home and with no major overheads)

- phone chat (really doesn't bring in much money tbh, but worth it if you have spare time and put in the effort to market yourself)

- massage with or without HR (there are many girls who do really well just offering massage with HR)

- domination / BDSM sessions (can charge the same, if not more, per hour as escorting. Can't just fake it til you make it with this style of session though; you really need to know what you are doing)

- video and photo sales

- text chat

Good luck! I faced this same situation a year ago with my ex. I chose the job and financial security, but there was also a tonne of other problems with us.

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Re: Best way to make money without escorting
« Reply #11 on: 21 June 2018, 05:33:18 pm »
Some guys can handle being in a relationship with an escort and others never will. My experience is that those who can handle it still have mixed feelings and sometimes get emotional. They feel left out. When you feel they are tilting and becoming moody and sad, you have to compensate, be super sweet, cook for them, cancel a date or two if you have two.

It also doesn't work if you say you love them but you do it for money. That's a HUGE turnoff for a guy, because you demean him. Tell him you do it because you really really like sex, maybe you are addicted to it but you don't need a shrink, you just need to do it. And tell him how lucky you are to have found a man like him. Just never talk about money with a man, make them feel they are the breadwinners.

And if this is not enough, look for another boyfriend who is OK with it. There's many great men out there who just love it and if you practice you will meet them. If someone asks you out on a date that's a good sign, but tell him, listen I am open to a relationship and you are a nice guy, but i love my job and want to keep doing it. Would that be a problem for you? If they say yes, give them an overnight half price and go play girlfriend. There's quite a few guys who just want this.

Sorry I missed your post earlier! Very great advice thank you! I definitely feel I could handle it a bit differently, the communication with him. I tried to keep him very much a part of this because he loves to see me with other guys anyway! It just got a bit much for him after a while. I think I possibly overshared sometimes and probably seemed like I was having so much fun without him. Fair play to him for letting me give it a go as I’m sure not many guys could do that, I certainly couldn’t! But money is needed and this is the quickest and most effective way for me to do that!

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« Reply #12 on: 21 June 2018, 05:35:42 pm »
Ways to work in the adult industry without having sexual escort meetings:

- webcam (yes, can be tedious but once you get regular times you will find you get regular webcammers who pay good money to watch you. It can be done from home and with no major overheads)

- phone chat (really doesn't bring in much money tbh, but worth it if you have spare time and put in the effort to market yourself)

- massage with or without HR (there are many girls who do really well just offering massage with HR)

- domination / BDSM sessions (can charge the same, if not more, per hour as escorting. Can't just fake it til you make it with this style of session though; you really need to know what you are doing)

- video and photo sales

- text chat

Good luck! I faced this same situation a year ago with my ex. I chose the job and financial security, but there was also a tonne of other problems with us.

That is great information, thank you! Thanks for the luck to, I’ll need it! Hope your decision was the right one for you. My oh would support me if he could but just isn’t in the position at the mo. Everything else is all good with us :)