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Author Topic: Getting back into sex work after weight gain/life taking over.How do you do it?!  (Read 706 times)

TheVixen

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Hi all! Hope all is well!
I haven’t been on here in a good few months, life is beating me up!

I’ve been wanting to get back into escorting since last year, I haven’t yet plucked up the courage to actually do so other than make a profile then hide it again. It’s uncovered all my anxiety all over again.

I loved escorting, more than any job. I haven’t escorted for I think 4 years now. When I think back to the 6/7 years I did it for, it’s mostly good memories and it makes me smile! I’ve always been part time and would see 2/3 clients a week, and that always worked perfectly for me, and that’s how I intend to carry on. I left escorting for a few years due to getting a little jaded after I had issues with a client and life simply catching up, then COVID happened so the “break” was actually a retirement! Since all of this I have put on weight, about 2/3 stone which I’m sick to the stomach about, for me there’s no excuse, I’ve always been a poor eater and a snacker, COVID made that easier, on top of that I lost my Dad who I loved so dearly and it really made my mental health crash.

I’m slowly seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, just vaguely, and I would love to get back to doing something that honestly brought me joy and pleasure, maybe not always on the sexual sense but in the sense that I was independent, bought in extra income that allowed me to reach my goals and do what I wanted and to be really honest escorting really boosted my confidence, I’ve always suffered with anxiety and struggled with new people, escorting really changed that for me and made me into a different person, from an introvert to an extrovert! Obviously with the pandemic I’ve switched back to the old me, and now with large weight gain I have zero confidence at all.

I was a BBW before but even more so now and I was just wondering is anyone here around a size 26 who does well and has no qualms about their size. How the hell do you do it?! I build myself up to get into it and then I crash and hide my profile because I simply don’t feel confident in my body anymore. I’m exercising and trying to better my diet but it’s taking time and I don’t want to pause my life any longer, I’d like to get back to what I love.

How do you overcome the weight gain (if you’ve had any), the anxiety and just the initial being out of the loop for so long? I definitely feel like a newbie but with knowledge!
« Last Edit: 20 May 2022, 05:59:57 pm by TheVixen »

Milf-G

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Hey. Ok firstly stop beating yourself up. There is a market for BBW and lots of men absolutely adore bigger women. I've even lost clients where I've lost a couple of stone. The thing is your confidence though. If you're not happy as you are then the only way to change that is to do something about it. I was a very large girl for a long time but was unhappy. I did something about it and now have a healthy bmi. I'm still body conscious but escorting has definitely helped my confidence. Happy to talk via pm if you want to know how I lost my weight, it may help. Taking clients may help your confidence though and you will only know if you have an active profile/website.

TheVixen

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Hey. Ok firstly stop beating yourself up. There is a market for BBW and lots of men absolutely adore bigger women. I've even lost clients where I've lost a couple of stone. The thing is your confidence though. If you're not happy as you are then the only way to change that is to do something about it. I was a very large girl for a long time but was unhappy. I did something about it and now have a healthy bmi. I'm still body conscious but escorting has definitely helped my confidence. Happy to talk via pm if you want to know how I lost my weight, it may help. Taking clients may help your confidence though and you will only know if you have an active profile/website.

Hey! Thank you for replying. I shall private message you. X

KirstyKiss

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I am a BBW and have always tried to hide it to some extent until a couple of years ago. My weight yo yo'd and I lost 3 and a half stones at one point but I had to starve myself to do it.
Also (and I find this hilarious) my clients didn't even notice  ;D

I've just had a photoshoot with all my lovely rolls hanging out and I'm much happier in my skin these days.

A lot of clients love big women. I'm a busy escort.

Perhaps a photo shoot might be just the tonic you need.

Kay

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I started in 2014 and have never been smaller than a size 26, and up to a size 30. When I was working more often it wasn't unusual to see 3-4 clients a day, and even when I dialled down my hours I regularly did 3-4 bookings a week.

My take is that past size 26 you can actually sell yourself to a niche market: a lot of women are size 16-22, but bigger than that is not as common, and 26+ especially so. Play it up and go for the chubby chasers is my advice!
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lillybliss

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A friend is a size 26 and does extremely well with escorting also it's a big thing on cam as the bbw ladies are very popular so go for it, also sorry for your loss x.

Kiss

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I admire big ladies who are confident in themselves and work successfully in this industry .
I can see why self conscious about body image is a focus but although I'm size 14  I wish I didn't have such a bloated stomach I do cover it as much as possible in my photos and when clients come I try to appear relaxed when I strip off .

MissStar

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I'm pretty much the same size as when I started 5 years ago, (well, my lingerie still fits) but I'm having a lot of back pain and sciatica.
Also, where I work from has a lot of mirrors and I'm not enjoying the view in doggy style  ;D

A fellow worker has told me about Saxenda, a weight loss daily injection which I'm giving a go from tonight.

I'm doing it for me, but also I don't really fit as a BBW or Curvy atm