Hi again Fallingstar,

I agree with Lydia and everything else said. I'm sure your mum is concerned about you and your future and her harsh words about you boyfriend stemm from that concern. Remember most peoples view of escorts are of women who are forced into it through drug use or exploitive men. And if your mum has the attitute that sex and especially getting paid for sex is immoral, she will not want to believe that you are doing this of you own free will as she will see that as a failing of her's in your up bringing.

Good luck however you decide to deal with this - it's just one of the many downs you will experience in your life - bright side is, everything is in balance - so it must go up again too.

xx

Hello All

Just a quick update on my situation.

I am back at home now,mother says that although she does not approve of what i a doing she realises that it is my life and up to me how i go about living it.

However myself and my boyfriend just put a deposit down on a lovely flat to rent yesterday  and will hopefully be moving in next week so i am very excited about that as its about time i got out of the house. Mother is upset now that i am going and says she will miss me but i just don't feel as if i can stay at home,think this has been the push that has forced me to get my act together.

Only problem now is my boyfriend who is very upset about the things my mother said about him (fair enough) and things are very sheepish between them when they have to speak but I'm hoping that this will improve with time.

Thankyou again for all your kind words of support and for sharing your own stories with me. I appreciate it so so much,you are all wonderful women,truly the best!

Hugs and kisses to you all
xxx

Hello All

Just a quick update on my situation.

I am back at home now,mother says that although she does not approve of what i a doing she realises that it is my life and up to me how i go about living it.

However myself and my boyfriend just put a deposit down on a lovely flat to rent yesterday  and will hopefully be moving in next week so i am very excited about that as its about time i got out of the house. Mother is upset now that i am going and says she will miss me but i just don't feel as if i can stay at home,think this has been the push that has forced me to get my act together.

Only problem now is my boyfriend who is very upset about the things my mother said about him (fair enough) and things are very sheepish between them when they have to speak but I'm hoping that this will improve with time.

Thankyou again for all your kind words of support and for sharing your own stories with me. I appreciate it so so much,you are all wonderful women,truly the best!

Hugs and kisses to you all
xxx

So good to hear that it's working out. At the risk of sounding contentious, can you trust your mum not to say anything to your dad?

As for your boyfriend, that's the problem with different generations. Your mum can't fathom how your boyfriend could possibly "let" you work as an escort. She probably thinks as the bloke it's something he should've put his foot down on. She'll soon come to realise that you're your own person and as an adult you can do what you like.

This has really helped me out...Im in a similar position, but although she hasnt 'found out', I'm afraid that since my car is sick at the moment, suspicions may arise when I ask to go someplace in the middle of the night, for an hour...Im already bracing to say something and if she dont like it I'll just have to say, "look...you can only take care of me so much mum, I have to do what I have to do, so let me live my life" If they want to take the slack and make up for the losses, fine...but they cant and wont so I have to carry on.

If it is any comfort or help to you at all, my mother treats me like a complete idiot and me being 49! 

I still feel like a small child when in her company and she can say the most cruel and cutting remarks and I shudder inside but never speak out.... Years of comparing me to my older BRIGHTER and more academic silblings lead me to rebel as a child and I was indeed the black sheep in the family
Is blood really thicker than water?  I dont think so.

you can say that again...I thought I was the only one! Its disgusting at the way my mum treats me these days, and every since I came back from my tour (which was an attempted escape move, she's treating me even worse. Now its all coming back to me now why I ran away at 15, and moved out at 19 for the 1st time on a whim to live with complete strangers. Anything, en ee thing was better than living at home.

Now Im fighting for my life to move again come this summer. I've had it up to here with it. My guardian angels have already suggested that I've overstayed my time here already and should have left last month when I had the oppurtunity. I was only to be here for a season yet I ended up over-staying my welcome and am at an emotional distance from my family, even though they're right here

edit: actually I moved out on my own at 19, but had temporarily stayed for 1 week with someone while I was searching for apts. And by the way Colette how has things panned out since then. I know I tend to go back on old threads, but nevertheless its always good to know