Hi everyone , I need a little advice . Do any of you ladies have problems with clients assuming they are in a relationship with you or something? I am now on the second one who just takes the piss , calls me constantly , keeps telling me " love you " at the end of every conversation and even when I am with him he sometimes stares at me real creepy and says " i do love you you know ". He was fine for the first few weeks I saw him then he started asking if he could take pictures of me to look at when Im not with him , and what was more infuriating than that was he went ahead and booked a pair of two concert tickets for me and him without even checking with me first , he just ASSUMED I would go with him , so I let him down gently over this . He is a good payer but sadly hes doing my head in so much . And no , I have never given him any indication that we might be heading into a relationship . My friend thinks its because I am so nice natured and he is taking it for granted . So I hear lots of you thinking " so just ditch him!! " - problem is this , I CAN live without the money no probs cos its not worth it , however 1 year ago I had the first client who acted in the same way , so I told him eventually that I couldnt see him anymore as it was starting to feel like we were married or something . Anyway, this guy gave me so much shit , he came to my house yelling " whore " , " a whore lives here " when my neighbours were outside , then he got his friend who is a very well known reg at a local massage parlour to tell a sob story to the girls and told them where I live and i got an anonymous call from a girl saying " we know where you live bitch , watch your back!" , then as if this was not bad enough , he called the police and told them what I did where I lived and that I was seeing so many men there and that I had stolen money from him . They came to see me and I came clean about what I did because I know I was not doing anything illegal , and told them he had become to clingy and about the threats etc and it was actually him in the end that they gave a harrasment order to .
I am just so worried now that if I try to stop seeing this other client things will go the same way , for instance , one night I was booked to see him and I got a flat tyre which took me a while to change as Im crap lol and I was in the middle of nowhere so had no cell reception . Anyway when i did get to his house he said he had been frantic with worry and had called the police !!! how bloody mad is he?? I had a call from the police saying they had received a call from this guy as I was due to meet with him tonight and I had not turned up . I have never felt so embarrased in my life .
I have thought of moving so that he cant make trouble for me but would be worried in case he told my letting agency and why should I move for this dickhead? Just dont know what to do , these guys seem to make me feel like a crimnal or something when really its just them being bloody clingy and overstepping the mark , knowing they can make our life a misery .

How awful this is for you. I was in a similar (ish) situation quite a while ago now with a client who was so over the top with what I call him being ?sickofantatic? and it does do your head in! ?big time? by constantly pointing out to him in a professional manner the simple facts! (ie: client & professional escort ? nothing more) with my constant persistence in educating him and with me also calling him to decline any other appointments luckily that was that. Now thank god I was only seeing this guy on an outcall basis as I didn?t do incalls full stop ? with you continuing to see this client simply to keep the peace and to avoid all your pervious experiences with that other plonker, continuing to see him will tear you apart (make you go insaine) and no lady should ever feel forced into seeing clients for any reason. Now as this guy knows where you live? If you could do this easier option: by telling him that you only do outcalls now as your boyfriend has moved in with you or perhaps say you have got back with your ex-husband and although your partner is totally understanding with your professional career you both have come up with the joint understanding and agreement that you will never work from home again. And to ease the blow with this guy quickly say you would be delighted to see him for outcall if he gets a hotel room. Hopefully this option will help cool things off and perhaps he may start to get fed up in booking hotels. This option is only good for you though if your still happy to see him for the time being. With also mentioning that you have a partner living with you and with you also pointing out to him in a professional calm but confident manner the client and nothing more! Hopefully things will work out well.

If this option of telling a white lie wouldn?t work for you? I would simply bite the bullet so to speak and tell him that you no longer wish to see him. Either telling him the direct truth or spinning some sort of fib but nether-less do the ?Dear john? to him and stick to it.

I?m afraid though for various reasons doing incalls from your actual home is always going to be highly risky as you have loads to lose (with your neighbours, with you always being on the edge when your door bell rings unexpected when you have family around, etc) and clients visiting you are more or less total anonymous and with that they don?t have to be on their best behaviour, I would seriously consider alternative arrangements rather than working from home. To help eliminate any future threats whilst you live peacefully in your safe-peaceful haven home ? but still continue to work.

Good Luck Babe.

Jessica and Carla , thanks to you both for your replies . Its good advice about the boyfriend thing , when I next see him I am going to break it to him i.e " this was our last meeting sorry , my boyfriend is back from afghanistan " . I do also see him at his place but in thr future I think I am going to find somwhere else to do my incalls . I am sure that if I do the boyfriend thing that he will stay away as he's only a little thing and dont think he would delight in confrontation , hes just one of those men who thinks if a girl does what she does and lives alone that you have no one to help you and they take advantage of this so this is the best course of action obviously , thanks so  much xx Jane