Oh no........... my heart goes out to you and I am so sorry for you.

What can I say......... I am afraid I don't know as I have not been in that situation, but all I can do is offer you words of comfort.

Firstly, what sort of relationship do you generally have with your mother ?  Is it a good one?  Although even if it is then it might not make any difference as most people view escorting in a bad light (that's why so many of us keep it secret).

So what do you do now?  You say you have tried talking to her but maybe it is still too early and if she is still consumed with anger then clearly she won't listen.

Maybe you should just give her some space and in the interim go and stay with your boyfriend (if you can?).  Or perhaps this is not an option, I don't know.

I am truly sorry for you and wish I could be more helpful.  Most people don't look favourably on escorting and particularly that generation so I guess it is hardly surprising the reaction she is having.  The other question is, how will she still view it when she has calmed down?  Do you think she will still be angry.

It is hardly likely I suspect that she will come around to the idea of you escorting, but then the question is can you still have the same relationship and just not discuss it or will it consume her each time she talks/meets you?

I hope this helps you in some way. 
Love
Alexandra xx

Oh I'm sorry. I hope she's able to accept it better when she's had time to think about it. This happened with me and a friend, but neither of our mothers were as upset to start with as yours.

If you've seen any disabled clients, emphasise that side of things once she lets you talk to her. It's a cheap tactic, but people find it a lot easier to accept sex work as legitimate when they can sympathise with the clients' needs.

Dear Fallingstar

I wish I could help you apart from saying my heart goes out to you and that I hope your mum calms down.   I hope she see's that you are happy in the job that you do and that you are still the same girl/daughter you were before she found out.

My mum was brilliant when I told her and I always feels so sorry for girls who don't have the supportive network that I have.   

I wish I could do more for you but I am absolutely sure that your mum will calm down and will eventually start asking  you questions and it is then your chance to put her mind at rest.

I wish people didn't think what we do is dirty because it isn't nor should we feel ashamed for what we do.    We really do provide a bloody good service and escorting has made me into a woman who walks along the street with my head held high and a most sprightly spring in my step.   My self confidence has soared and I know in my heart of hearts that what I do makes a difference.

Good luck with your mum.

Love
Georgi x

Oh Im so sorry   

I hope everything works out for you!! (hugs)

xxxxxx

Thankyou for all your kind words and advice.

I believe a mothers love should be unconditional,however in this case im not sure it will turn out to be so. My mother even said herself that she couldnt have me living under her roof anymore and maybye that was a failing on her part. She also told me that i would feel the same if it was my daughter,my reply being that if i had a daughter i would not judge her so harshly as i am different to my mother!

So now i am looking for somewhere to rent with my boyfriend.I think the thing i am angriest at is her reaction towards him,saying that he is a pimp and a weak man who cant possibly love me. How dare she make judgements like that.

I guess my only comfort is that we werent very close to start with (more through her attitudes than mine,both her and my dad refuse to treat me as an adult)

Anyway thankyou again for all your kindness and i will keep you posted.

Hello Fallingstar,
I am very sorry for your situation.

18 years ago my father told me if I did not abort my baby I was dead to him.
She is now 17 years old.
I have not spoken to my father in all that time and he walks by me if I pass him on the road as if I am invisible, to this day.
It is heartbreaking to receive such words. It takes a long time to accept it and come to terms with it.
There have been times I could have really used some help from him and pride has stopped me getting in touch. I never would. Not even if I was sleeping on a park bench.
Its a terrible waste and when he dies, I will be sorry I did not at least try to sort things out.
He has, shall we call them, issues? And he is of the old school and nothing I say or do would ever change his mind, but I have never tried to, nor will I as too much time has passed now.

Try to keep some form of communication open with your mum, I don't get along with my mother too well either but I have to just accept these people are a total different generation, it's best to accept we don't see eye to eye (in my mother's case) on certain things and not so much ignore them as let them go for the greater good, there is little point having a row.

I understand your situation is far different from mine. I am trying to sympathise with that initial shock you feel inside when your stung badly by a parents words. There is little that feels that bad.
This is your life though and yes, you need to consider the thoughts and feelings of those around you, but ultimately, you are an adult and you can live whatever lifestyle you choose to live.
I would second the advice given, that being to let things cool off for a while and then go and talk to her calmly.
You must be feeling very upset right now.
I am very sorry this has happened to you.
Jo
x
   

Hey, chin up, remebmer time passes and things get easier.
Nothing is so bad it stops you getting on. It feels it at the time but you do find a way to get through stuff.
Hope it all goes well for you.
Jo.