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liquorice

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Flaccid Cock OWO
« on: 27 May 2024, 05:52:30 am »
For bookings in which the Client can't get hard, do you plough on regardless with oral?
Obviously this question is aimed mainly at anyone providing OWO as I do, although what happens if you provide OW only?

I have always just gritted my teeth and continued as usual, as the clients seem to like this.

Yesterday, I had a 2.5hr booking with a chap that, thankfully, liked to chat and caress me a lot, but every so often it would be expected he has another turn of Oral.
There were several other issues with this Client, but I'll save them for another thread  ;D
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Re: Flaccid Cock OWO
« Reply #1 on: 27 May 2024, 11:06:33 am »
It depends on the customer. And if we get on, how the vibe is etc. Often I will just ask outright if they will get hard.. Some say they have pleasure even when not hard etc. my problem is when they can’t get hard I tend to spend A LOT of time giving oral because we can’t have sex and it tires my mouth out. I also have viagra if they are on a long enough booking… if it was 2.5hr I’d have definitely offered this!!!! 2.5 hour is a long time I tend not to take bedroom only bookings for more than 2 hours!!!

I once had a man who had some sort of operation which made him have the feeling of cumming but not actually cumming?? Didn’t tell me this until after!!!! Which meant I had no cum rest the whole time lol..
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« Reply #2 on: 27 May 2024, 06:03:50 pm »
If they tell me they cant get hard or only for a short time I know what to expect I can pace myself for the duration of their visit . If they don't say anything it can be frustrating and tiring on the mouth ! I do owo using flavoured gel to make it taste more appealing.
I've sucked on some cold flaccid cocks 😩
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« Reply #3 on: 11 June 2024, 12:55:04 pm »
I think it depends on the cause tbh.

Guys with ED or an underlying condition that makes it difficult to get/sustain an erection normally know about it (in my experience) and will let me know so we can do other things

But if it's not the norm for them it's possibly down to nerves, it being too hot/cold in the room or them recovering from overdoing it either with drinking, drugs or wanking... I had a client confess he'd had 3 self inflicted orgasms that morning before seeing me!

I generally go with the flow, try not to stress them further by getting frustrated or furiously sucking them. I give lots of slow and gentle touches, play with their balls if they've consented, make lots of eye contact and just generally tease them. I reassure them that I'm happy to keep going as long as it feels good for them but if they want a break we can do something else for a bit and see if that helps.  Sometimes a glass of water or a chance to play with me helps them feel less pressured to perform.

I have a timed playlist going on in the background so when we're about 15mins from the end I might try and suggest we're not going to make it to a happy ending at the current pace and ask if there's anything they'd like to try.  If they are 100% flaccid I try and steer them away from wanking themselves as I have had a guy wanking himself 10 mins past the appointment time finishing and looking like he's hating every second of it!

Being sympathetic, understanding and letting them know it's quite common helps them relax and often it's that relaxation that allows them to get in the right headspace to get hard
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Re: Flaccid Cock OWO
« Reply #4 on: 11 June 2024, 06:41:37 pm »
Quote from: PassionFlower on 11 June 2024, 12:55:04 pm
I think it depends on the cause tbh.

Guys with ED or an underlying condition that makes it difficult to get/sustain an erection normally know about it (in my experience) and will let me know so we can do other things

But if it's not the norm for them it's possibly down to nerves, it being too hot/cold in the room or them recovering from overdoing it either with drinking, drugs or wanking... I had a client confess he'd had 3 self inflicted orgasms that morning before seeing me!

I generally go with the flow, try not to stress them further by getting frustrated or furiously sucking them. I give lots of slow and gentle touches, play with their balls if they've consented, make lots of eye contact and just generally tease them. I reassure them that I'm happy to keep going as long as it feels good for them but if they want a break we can do something else for a bit and see if that helps.  Sometimes a glass of water or a chance to play with me helps them feel less pressured to perform.

I have a timed playlist going on in the background so when we're about 15mins from the end I might try and suggest we're not going to make it to a happy ending at the current pace and ask if there's anything they'd like to try.  If they are 100% flaccid I try and steer them away from wanking themselves as I have had a guy wanking himself 10 mins past the appointment time finishing and looking like he's hating every second of it!

Being sympathetic, understanding and letting them know it's quite common helps them relax and often it's that relaxation that allows them to get in the right headspace to get hard

One problem I've noticed in the last year or so, partially because some of my clients are ageing just as I am is a few want to go slowly with kissing, cuddles, slowly to foreplay leaving same amount of time at the end for their orgasm. However I'm taking longer to orgasm happening as I get towards but not quite at menopause, and they too need longer for theirs. They are used to only needing 15 minutes at the end, and have historically told me they want plenty of time on initial kissing, flirting etc dislike being rushed. However now it's taking physically longer to orgasm it's becoming stressful because I know there's not enough time to give them the extra time they need to cum. I am now starting to speed things up with the chat, kissing, and in some cases literally dragging them to bed.

I have also come across this with new clients, I can tell if I go at their pace (e.g. only becoming fully naked half an hour into a one hour booking) we won't be able to finish on time. Of course some aren't bothered about my orgasm which is absolutely fine, takes a lot of pressure off and means I can focus on him others just let me get on with bringing myself off. I don't have this issue with 90 minute or 2 hour bookings, in that time span I find there's more than enough time for the slow build up then bed, then the amount of attention needed.
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Re: Flaccid Cock OWO
« Reply #5 on: 11 June 2024, 08:16:13 pm »
I think it depends on the client.
I try not to make a fuss about it since that would only make them more stressed.
If its just not happening then I try to mix things up a bit. Lots of kissing, cuddling, using hands, etc.
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« Reply #6 on: 11 June 2024, 08:23:36 pm »
I have a regular that barely ever gets hard and I don’t think they understand how icky it is to be sucking on a cold flaccid penis
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« Reply #7 on: 11 June 2024, 08:27:19 pm »
It's an awfully frustrating thing on a half-hour session, but anything longer I can usually tongue it into life, even if it's a slow build up.
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« Reply #8 on: 15 June 2024, 03:09:10 pm »
I’ve found some clients can ‘complete’ even when a bit flaccid, so I usually just stick to it if they’ve requested.
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« Reply #9 on: 16 June 2024, 09:03:18 am »
I can always get them up with my oral skills but it's during sex when it becomes a problem and have to resort to oral and some of my handiwork to finish.
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« Reply #10 on: 17 June 2024, 08:47:42 am »
Quote from: Lucia__S on 11 June 2024, 08:23:36 pm
I have a regular that barely ever gets hard and I don’t think they understand how icky it is to be sucking on a cold flaccid penis
I know it's like dead and cold until you lick it back to life !!!
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Re: Flaccid Cock OWO
« Reply #11 on: 30 June 2024, 12:30:33 am »
Quote from: user1292887 on 27 May 2024, 11:06:33 am
It depends on the customer. And if we get on, how the vibe is etc. Often I will just ask outright if they will get hard.. Some say they have pleasure even when not hard etc. my problem is when they can’t get hard I tend to spend A LOT of time giving oral because we can’t have sex and it tires my mouth out. I also have viagra if they are on a long enough booking… if it was 2.5hr I’d have definitely offered this!!!! 2.5 hour is a long time I tend not to take bedroom only bookings for more than 2 hours!!!

I once had a man who had some sort of operation which made him have the feeling of cumming but not actually cumming?? Didn’t tell me this until after!!!! Which meant I had no cum rest the whole time lol..

This is such a good idea. So you just buy the viagra and keep it on deck for the longer appointments if needed? x
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« Reply #12 on: 30 June 2024, 08:13:50 am »
Quote from: Melissa2024 on 30 June 2024, 12:30:33 am
This is such a good idea. So you just buy the viagra and keep it on deck for the longer appointments if needed? x

What if the client has a reaction to the medication? Some men do suffer side effects. I have always refused to obtain ED medication for punters/clients on the basis it is a medication they need to research, weigh up risks obtain themselves. Viagra used to be prescription only meaning as I understood it it shouldn't be given out by someone who isn't medically qualified or informed.
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Re: Flaccid Cock OWO
« Reply #13 on: 30 June 2024, 11:04:23 am »
I would never offer a client any type of medication. Viagra can lower blood pressure and cause side effects which although probably not life threatening I am not about to risk anything which prevents them leaving on two legs after time's up.

We can only do our best if they know they may have erection problems and we aren't miracle workers. Tips and tricks can be tried but I don't feel a failure if they don't work very well.7
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« Reply #14 on: 01 July 2024, 08:46:54 am »
Quote from: Patricia on 30 June 2024, 11:04:23 am
I would never offer a client any type of medication. Viagra can lower blood pressure and cause side effects which although probably not life threatening I am not about to risk anything which prevents them leaving on two legs after time's up.

We can only do our best if they know they may have erection problems and we aren't miracle workers. Tips and tricks can be tried but I don't feel a failure if they don't work very well.7

100% this

We are not medical experts (with the exception of some) with access to someone's medical history and they are not likely to be telling us the truth regarding said history anyway.
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