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First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« on: 13 November 2011, 06:36:28 pm »
A guy who wants to meet me in his car for 2 hours, asked me to tell him when and where he should meet me. He said he is prepared to give me his number plate details and his address for my safety. But I'm really nervous, he's 52 and he regards himself cuddly, which I kind of guess is irrelevant but how do I control my nerves? Especially f---ing in a car for 2 hours??

Any help?? xxxx

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #1 on: 13 November 2011, 06:42:51 pm »
Have you talked to him on the phone chantel if not I would. If you don't feel comfortable after that I would go with ut gut and not do it. 2hours seems an awfully long time for a car meet. I never do them.but if I get asked for them normally its quickies.
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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #2 on: 13 November 2011, 06:45:51 pm »
Personally I wouldn't meet a client in a car - ESPECIALLY one I'd never seen before and ESPECIALLY if I was completely new...I have a feeling this guy is taking advantage of your newness to the biz.

You could tell someone all the details, but what if he's using a fake plate and address? What happens if you tell a buddy where you're meeting, and he decides to drive you 200 miles away? What if the worst happens???

I know I didn't address your nerves, but *I* would NEVER get into a car with a stranger. Please rethink.

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« Reply #3 on: 13 November 2011, 06:49:59 pm »
Hmm maybe its not such a good idea then, I just asked about the 2 hours and said why do you want to drive me to park carpark?

I would like to know about parlour work but I dont know where to ask xx

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #4 on: 13 November 2011, 06:55:32 pm »
Hmm maybe its not such a good idea then, I just asked about the 2 hours and said why do you want to drive me to park carpark?

I would like to know about parlour work but I dont know where to ask xx

There's lots of advice on this forum (do a search) and on the main site :)

You can still be indie tho, just do outcalls to hotels/homes or hire a hotel room to work incalls from 2 days a week until you've saved enough for a work flat.

The nerves are normal, but in this case I think your gut is telling you something more important than just "ooh, going to have sex with someone for money, hope he likes me" jitters. Please do listen to your gut.

Car meets can be fun and exciting, but I wouldn't do it with someone I didn't know and trust. And even then I would have my concerns. (Unless I was married to him, lol)

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« Reply #5 on: 13 November 2011, 06:57:07 pm »
Two hours in a car is a long time and at this time of year its not perticually warm. Do you have a place to do incalls? You should suggest to him he comes to you and if its a car meet he really wants ask him to come to your home for a hour then an hour in the car. That way at least you get to know him before you actually go with him in the car.

I've done a few car meets but now I can do incalls I don't bother. You could always get a security buddy to follow you to the meet

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #6 on: 13 November 2011, 06:59:45 pm »
Chantel, I think you said you have an AW profile - if you have, did you tick the 'Car Meets' or 'Dogging' boxes when you filled your profile in? Not that it matters, but they're really not a good idea and I don't think there's many ladies here who would risk them - I've been working for nine years (and I started off working the hotel bars with a friend) and I would no more meet some stranger in a car than I would meet him in the middle of the woods.

Apart from anything else you would be breaking the law and assuming that the 1% chance of him being genuine actually comes good, if you are caught you could be arrested and prosecuted. He could also steal your phone and bag and dump you in the middle of nowhere, drive you off to some secluded spot where six (or just one) of his mates are waiting, or just refuse to pay you once you got to wherever it was.

I'm inclined to think this is a timewaster since (as Cat said) 2 hours for a car meet is ridiculous; have you read through the threads on the forum about first starting off on Adultwork? They have a feature which send alerts out to anybody who registers telling them when somebody new appears and this is when all the usual suspects crawl out from under their stones and try their luck because they know you won't be as wise to them as the experienced ladies.

Either way, not good. We can't make you not go if you intend to, but for God's sake if you do take somebody you trust with you to call in with, wait for you and most importantly take down the vehicle details, and make sure you have a well hidden second phone too.

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« Reply #7 on: 13 November 2011, 07:01:34 pm »
No no no no no do not do car meets - especially not with someone you've never met before? I'm not being funny but 2 hours in a car is a seriously long time. I've had car sex (in my real life, not working) and its never lasted 2 hours - you're too busy worrying someone will see you. You'll have to go somewhere super secluded and then, really, you'll be at his mercy. In the dark. Not a good idea.

Plus you run the risk of getting into legal bother as an 18 year old and a 52 year old caught pants down = definite prostitution. Outdoors. Which starts getting into all kinds of legal hassle if the police show up - you're getting into all kinds of public disorder grey areas because you're in a 'public place'. They can and do take down names and you do not want to ruin your life for possible non ho work as a known prostitute. Buying and selling sex is not illegal under UK legislation, but this scenario skates way too close to the line.

Where are you based honey? Like city wise x

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« Reply #8 on: 13 November 2011, 07:02:30 pm »
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Hmm maybe its not such a good idea then, I just asked about the 2 hours and said why do you want to drive me to park carpark?

I would like to know about parlour work but I dont know where to ask xx
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There's lots of advice on this forum (do a search) and on the main site :)

You can still be indie tho, just do outcalls to hotels/homes or hire a hotel room to work incalls from 2 days a week until you've saved enough for a work flat.

The nerves are normal, but in this case I think your gut is telling you something more important than just "ooh, going to have sex with someone for money, hope he likes me" jitters. Please do listen to your gut.

Car meets can be fun and exciting, but I wouldn't do it with someone I didn't know and trust. And even then I would have my concerns. (Unless I was married to him, lol)

I absolutely agree with cat. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of listening to your gut.

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #9 on: 13 November 2011, 07:07:27 pm »
Plus you run the risk of getting into legal bother as an 18 year old and a 52 year old caught pants down = definite prostitution. Outdoors. Which starts getting into all kinds of legal hassle if the police show up - you're getting into all kinds of public disorder grey areas because you're in a 'public place'. They can and do take down names and you do not want to ruin your life for possible non ho work as a known prostitute. Buying and selling sex is not illegal under UK legislation, but this scenario skates way too close to the line.

Chantel would be in 'legal hassle' for public indecency - whether or not she is a prostitute doesn't make a blind bit of difference. It is what her and her client would be doing that's the problem, not their reason for doing it, and if their names were taken it would be because of this. They would have no proof whatsoever that she was a prostitute even if it did make a difference ('look she's pretty and loads younger than him and he's a bit grim' does not constitute proof).

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #11 on: 13 November 2011, 07:26:16 pm »
I'm based in St Helens, I only really want to do outcalls of AW but since joining on Wednesday, I haven't had ONE genuine person and I've had over 400 emails of time wasters, asking for a quickie when it says on my faqs I don't do them and I get asked constantly if I do anal, despite it not being ticked and it being on my faq.

I really need to earn something and AW doesn't seem to have any genuine work on it. I had a guy calling me the other day asking if I would act underage. I was like errr no...

I know it sounds a bit silly and that but I wouldn't even mind staying in a hotel out of the area for a bit, BUT I'd need to know if I could get the business.

Unfortunately (and yes, I'm generalising), making a big deal out of being 18 won't really help attract the nicer punters as you've already found out. Many genuine guys will worry about whether you might be underage, whereas obviously the unpleasant ones won't care one way or the other and will only be interested in taking advantage in any way they can - paranoid though it sounds, I honestly think they can smell desperation too. I'd almost stick my neck out and say to add a year on to your age, but I'm not one for lying in ads.

One good about AW is that it's easy to stop people from contacting you - just click on Block at the bottom of each stupid mail you get and you'll find it gets a lot less stressful - it's horrific when you're new and I remember it well (and I'd been working a while before I started advertising online). The only other consolation is that it doesn't last too long - somebody new(er) will be along in a couple of weeks, and it'll be her turn unfortunately.

Have a look at the Touring section re hotels. I know it all seems a bit out of reach now, but in two bookings time you could be organising a hotel day  :).

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #12 on: 13 November 2011, 07:48:46 pm »
I don't know how to say this in a diplomatic way, but when I saw you were from St Helens my heart sank. I live in Liverpool and I get a lot of enquiries from guys in that neck of the woods and very few actually come to fruition.

I would usually be the last person to say this, but if I were you I'd think about trying out one of the better Manchester parlours. You'd be in a secure environment and you could learn the ropes from the other girls. If you have a look on the LBB (The Little Black Book) you'll find plenty of parlours adverts and lots of parlour girls posting.

It can be a really tough business and I couldn't have done it at your age, so good luck.
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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #13 on: 13 November 2011, 08:03:02 pm »
I would usually be the last person to say this, but if I were you I'd think about trying out one of the better Manchester parlours. You'd be in a secure environment and you could learn the ropes from the other girls. If you have a look on the LBB (The Little Black Book) you'll find plenty of parlours adverts and lots of parlour girls posting.

It can be a really tough business and I couldn't have done it at your age, so good luck.

You bet me to it re Manchester :)

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Re: First time, seriously nervous... any help?
« Reply #14 on: 13 November 2011, 08:12:35 pm »
When you do get round to booking that hotel room for an Incall day dont just do it willynilly.

Plan it well or you could lose your money/paying for the room and get no clients in return.

For example, don't plan a hotel day on say 23/24/25 of the month as this is the run up to pay day and clients are skint so you might get a lot of TWs who think its ok to waste your time and totally demoralise you.

Like someoone said earlier, there will be other newbies on the board soon and the TWs will move on to them.  I know it is disheartening receiving so many emails when you start (thinking they are legitimate clients) but I got over 400 emails too when i registered and had to weedle them out myself.  I dont remember now IF ANYof them turned out to be genuine, but copy and paste are a great thing.

Unfortunately work is a lot thinner on the ground nowadays and there is an over abundance of girls so it is just a case of sitting with fingers crossed and getting yourself onto more sites.

Others will be able to help you in your own area and your own age group.  Good Luck ... but dont lower yourself to their standards ............ and try not sound too desperate ............ they will smell it at a million paces and try and take advantage.
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