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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: buckingfonkers on 24 January 2010, 01:18:57 pm
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Hi
ive just started escorting and find the first contact very uncomfortable..... when i first meet client need some advice on progression to bed room then to sex etc xx
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Hi, I findit helps if poss to book sombody ive seen before as my first client of the week. Its a confidence trick that works for me.
Read body language and try a quick chat beforehand, th client knows why he is there. Ice breakers are learned. It will get easier with time and experience!
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I tend to take a very chilled out approach. Generally my clients offer me a drink and we chat for a few minutes, and then, assuming they haven't jumped me already, I suggest that we move somewhere a little more comfortable. Usually they're very happy to oblige, and now that you've initiated the move to the bedroom, I find it tends to move quite smoothly forwards.
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I tend to take a very chilled out approach. Generally my clients offer me a drink and we chat for a few minutes, and then, assuming they haven't jumped me already, I suggest that we move somewhere a little more comfortable. Usually they're very happy to oblige, and now that you've initiated the move to the bedroom, I find it tends to move quite smoothly forwards.
This is an approach that works really well for me, too (except it's usually incalls so I offer the drinks). Even though it's mostly symbolic as no one ever gets through a whole cup of tea or glass of wine before things have moved on ;) I think it's a really nice step to sit down and have a drink with someone. Definitely adds something to the booking, maybe more of a 'date' feel if that's what the client's after, or even a chance to share something a bit boring about yourself so they realise you're a lovely, normal girl and that they don't need to feel shy or awkward. Plus it's just a strong custom in pretty much every single human society since cups were invented, probably, so feels good to start with an interaction you're both familiar with.
Once in the bedroom, I find I have to pay attention to start things off in a natural way - I've gotten so used to having sex with strangers that I forget that for some clients it's actually an unusual occurrence. :o But with plenty of careful attention to their spoken and/or behavioural cues, all goes well! And I no longer feel silly when being flirty (not a thing that came naturally to me ever!) since a bit of a giggle can really smooth things out sometimes. I mean, you don't want to put on a whole massive act of pretend flirtation, of course, but just a bit of on-purpose-obvious flirting can be amusing enough to distract one or both of you from any nerves. Plus, I think it's nice to feel like a bit of an entertainer, adds a fun layer to the 'everyday' bits of escorting since you have to tailor the experience to the client to give and get the best result. :)
Also, as cindy said, give yourself plenty of time to get accustomed to this work as there's no need to pressure yourself to be perfect straight away. At least I hope not cause I'm definitely still waiting for the day I do it all perfectly! Even if I don't say anything stupid or forget to put the kettle on even after they've asked for a cuppa, I will end up falling off the bed trying to get out of my knickers or something. But I've found that sooo much of my confidence has grown over time so I expect more as more time goes on - you can't help but want to improve at what you do, especially when I suspect many other sex workers of being queens of seduction and I secretly panic about the competition!