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RedH · « **on:** 22 October 2022, 08:01:02 am »

Thanks to everyone that help me with my previous question.

I have my first booking tonight (outcall) and I’m bouncing between feeling excited and really nervous.

I’ve read all the information in the support and advice section. I’ve got plenty of condoms and some lube. Is here anything else I should take?

What do you talk about with a client?

Miffy · « **Reply #1 on:** 22 October 2022, 08:59:31 am »

Gosh, first time booking excitement is incredibly intoxicating but you need to keep a grip on yourself and think clearly.

Do you have any non-latex condoms in case the client can’t use regular ones? I always take my own mouthwash to freshen up on arrival, along with lipstick or a lipgloss, and a pair of more comfortable knickers to wear home - makes so much difference! I never take my wallet, and don’t take my house keys either but I appreciate not everyone can do this. Keep your jewellery minimal and if you take it off when you’re with the client, put it straight in your handbag, not on the side. Also be sure to keep all your things together, no flinging your clothes off with gay abandon. Keep alert and pay attention to entry/exit points and if the door is locked behind you. Also, be sure that if you decide to accept a drink, the bottle is unsealed and opened in your presence. If the bottle is already open or drink poured into a glass, decline, you have no way of knowing if it has been tampered with. I always take a bottle of water with me just in case.

But, that’s all common sense really. What is most important is that you know the client is actually where he claims to be. You must check before leaving. I know I would’t even consider getting ready unless I know the client is in situ.
If the client is staying in a hotel, be sure to ask for a copy of his booking reservation along with his room number. Phone reception and ask to be connected to the room. This is the most straightforward way to ascertain if someone is in the hotel room they claim to be.

Regrettably I cannot advise re. private residences as I would never visit one, particularly a new client. Hopefully someone else can advise on this.

Equally important is that someone knows where you are - you call them on arrival (although a text if fine), and you agree a time that you will call them at to let them know you are ok and have left the client.

Be sure to get the money on arrival. Feel free to check it, you can always excuse yourself to the bathroom if you don’t feel comfortable counting in front of the client.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Keep conversation light but you can talk about anything you want really (expect anything personal, obviously). Have you decided a back story for yourself should the client try to fish for information?

Lastly, if at any point things don’t feel right, leave.

Am sure others will come along and add things as they see fit.

RedH · « **Reply #2 on:** 22 October 2022, 03:06:31 pm »

Quote from: Miffy on 22 October 2022, 08:59:31 am

Gosh, first time booking excitement is incredibly intoxicating but you need to keep a grip on yourself and think clearly.

Do you have any non-latex condoms in case the client can’t use regular ones? I always take my own mouthwash to freshen up on arrival, along with lipstick or a lipgloss, and a pair of more comfortable knickers to wear home - makes so much difference! I never take my wallet, and don’t take my house keys either but I appreciate not everyone can do this. Keep your jewellery minimal and if you take it off when you’re with the client, put it straight in your handbag, not on the side. Also be sure to keep all your things together, no flinging your clothes off with gay abandon. Keep alert and pay attention to entry/exit points and if the door is locked behind you. Also, be sure that if you decide to accept a drink, the bottle is unsealed and opened in your presence. If the bottle is already open or drink poured into a glass, decline, you have no way of knowing if it has been tampered with. I always take a bottle of water with me just in case.

But, that’s all common sense really. What is most important is that you know the client is actually where he claims to be. You must check before leaving. I know I would’t even consider getting ready unless I know the client is in situ.
If the client is staying in a hotel, be sure to ask for a copy of his booking reservation along with his room number. Phone reception and ask to be connected to the room. This is the most straightforward way to ascertain if someone is in the hotel room they claim to be.

Regrettably I cannot advise re. private residences as I would never visit one, particularly a new client. Hopefully someone else can advise on this.

Equally important is that someone knows where you are - you call them on arrival (although a text if fine), and you agree a time that you will call them at to let them know you are ok and have left the client.

Be sure to get the money on arrival. Feel free to check it, you can always excuse yourself to the bathroom if you don’t feel comfortable counting in front of the client.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Keep conversation light but you can talk about anything you want really (expect anything personal, obviously). Have you decided a back story for yourself should the client try to fish for information?

Lastly, if at any point things don’t feel right, leave.

Am sure others will come along and add things as they see fit.

You’re right about getting a grip and thinking clearly. I need to keep telling myself that. I am pretty excited and looking forward to it but also terrified. I didn’t get much sleep last night thinking about this so I hope that doesn’t affect me. I’m usually someone that obsesses over every little thing and thought I was prepared but my head is all over the place today. I am worried about saying or doing something stupid. I am using a fake name but I haven’t really thought about a whole back story. Thats a lot better than just trying to deflect any questions. I will need to try and think up one and hope he doesn’t ask too much.

I had thought about what to do if offered a drink and wasn’t sure. I’ll try to remember what you said.

The change of knickers is something I hadn’t thought about but I’ve got some out now. Everything else you said is all really helpful.

Thank you so much for pointing out the non-latex condoms. I hadn’t thought about that either. I’ve got loads of condoms but I don’t know if any were latex free so I had to just run out quickly and buy some more.

Mirror · « **Reply #3 on:** 22 October 2022, 03:34:58 pm »

Private residences I take a deposit for all bookings no matter where, before I did this I required proof in the form of recent utility bill or landline in the directory on which I could speak to him.

I always ask if the property number is on the door, always ask is there legal parking nearby (some have expected me to park on pavements or double yellow lines or permit areas without a permit. I ask them to put the heating on, too many experiences in very cold houses (way before energy cost crisis). Also I ask for soap, towel in the bathroom - many times been wandering around hands dripping because towels are in a cupboard or not even available (consider taking a lightweight towel & soap). When I arrive I just ask for a moment to turn phones off, put keys or anything else away. Many will as hosts do fuss around asking to take your coat, bring a drink, other questions to make you comfy. This I find can be confusing as you are in a new space, I am trying to get my bearings, spot any hazards, sometimes a dog is jumping at me. Can be easy to get confused lose things, or miscount the money.

Most guys are fine once I explain, I'd rather be organised so I can give them full attention. I also often ask for full lights to be switched back on so I can check I have everything. Once again this can be confusion risk point as he may be continuing post coital or friendly chat.

Regards taking purse I recommend at least having means to get back home particularly if using public transport. Scammers have promised money at the end, or when they go to the bank in the morning. I've turned up to find the person has not got the payment in required form, or has not turned up 2 instances even after they had paid a deposit and understood how the balance was to be paid/ had sort of confirmed but not quite by the method required meaning I couldn't contact him when outside the hotel.

LadyJ · « **Reply #4 on:** 22 October 2022, 05:40:36 pm »

Good luck, lots of good advice, hope it goes well - come back and let us know.

Wish I’d found Saafe before my first booking I was clueless!

RedH · « **Reply #5 on:** 22 October 2022, 05:45:57 pm »

Quote from: Mirror on 22 October 2022, 03:34:58 pm

Private residences I take a deposit for all bookings no matter where, before I did this I required proof in the form of recent utility bill or landline in the directory on which I could speak to him.

I always ask if the property number is on the door, always ask is there legal parking nearby (some have expected me to park on pavements or double yellow lines or permit areas without a permit. I ask them to put the heating on, too many experiences in very cold houses (way before energy cost crisis). Also I ask for soap, towel in the bathroom - many times been wandering around hands dripping because towels are in a cupboard or not even available (consider taking a lightweight towel & soap). When I arrive I just ask for a moment to turn phones off, put keys or anything else away. Many will as hosts do fuss around asking to take your coat, bring a drink, other questions to make you comfy. This I find can be confusing as you are in a new space, I am trying to get my bearings, spot any hazards, sometimes a dog is jumping at me. Can be easy to get confused lose things, or miscount the money.

Most guys are fine once I explain, I'd rather be organised so I can give them full attention. I also often ask for full lights to be switched back on so I can check I have everything. Once again this can be confusion risk point as he may be continuing post coital or friendly chat.

Regards taking purse I recommend at least having means to get back home particularly if using public transport. Scammers have promised money at the end, or when they go to the bank in the morning. I've turned up to find the person has not got the payment in required form, or has not turned up 2 instances even after they had paid a deposit and understood how the balance was to be paid/ had sort of confirmed but not quite by the method required meaning I couldn't contact him when outside the hotel.

I did get his full name, address and landline number as suggested in the advice section. Its too late to ask for a deposit or utility bill now but I’ll try to remember that for next time. Thanks.

RedH · « **Reply #6 on:** 22 October 2022, 05:50:17 pm »

Quote from: LadyJ on 22 October 2022, 05:40:36 pm

Good luck, lots of good advice, hope it goes well - come back and let us know.

Wish I’d found Saafe before my first booking I was clueless!

Thanks. I will.

This site has been a god send and everyone here has been so helpful.
I still feel a bit clueless though. I don’t know if that’s just nerves or if I just am.

Miffy · « **Reply #7 on:** 22 October 2022, 06:01:47 pm »

It’s not that you’re clueless per se, it’s just that you don’t know these things, after all, you don’t have to consider any of these things in normal civvie life. Escorting is a massive learning curve. This forum aims to take much of the guess work and chance out of this for you. Your first couple of bookings will be nerve wracking, but pretty quickly, you will find it all completely normal, maybe even a little mundane.

Another thing I forgot to mention, and it’s not something confined to outcalls either, but always ask your client to switch off his phone, put it away or just make sure it’s face down on the side. If there’s an open laptop, ask for it to be closed.

Be wary of anyone asking to use their own condoms unless you are happy that the box definitely has not been opened. And as I am on the topic of non-latex condoms, I find they are far kinder to one’s vagina than regular condoms, so you might want to consider only using them.

Regrettably, you will find some men love to seize on newbies like you and try it on. Much of being an escort is learning to pre-empt any bullshit behaviour - ultimately, you want each and every booking to be as stress-free as possible.

Be sure to let us know how it all goes

Justine · « **Reply #8 on:** 22 October 2022, 06:19:11 pm »

Just a few words from me as a lot of advice already given but in my opinion it is not a good idea to let your first client know he is your first. Much less chance of him trying to get away with anything he wouldn't do with a SW he knows is experienced.

RedH · « **Reply #9 on:** 23 October 2022, 12:44:15 am »

I DID IT! Honestly Im amazed I did. I was expecting to chicken out at the last minute or something.

When I was getting ready and travelling to his place I so excited but as soon as I pressed his door bell I went straight into being full blown panic. I don’t think I told him it was my first time but I was so nervous and didn’t say much so he must have known I wasnt very experienced. I’d had a couple of drinks before I went hoping it would calm me down but I don’t think it helped.

He gave me the money (which I almost forgot to count) and a drink. He seemed nice. Probably late 40’s early 50’s, going bald. Not what I would go for myself but not as unpleasant as some of the men I’ve read about in other girls posts.

The biggest problem was I couldn’t think of anything to say. I was so awkward. I remember looking round desperately trying to find something to talk about but I couldn’t think of anything. He had hardly any furniture and what he did have was old and mismatched but I didn’t want to offend him by passing comment. Looking back now I’m thinking maybe he only recently moved in or something.

After a few minutes I think I said something like “Where do you want to do this?”
After the first time I calmed down a bit and we talked a little. I wish Id done a better job keeping it together more but I think he enjoyed it. I’ll try and do better with my next client.

I cant believe I did it. I feel really hyper now.

Mirror · « **Reply #10 on:** 23 October 2022, 07:03:43 am »

Quote from: RedH on 23 October 2022, 12:44:15 am

I DID IT! Honestly Im amazed I did. I was expecting to chicken out at the last minute or something.

When I was getting ready and travelling to his place I so excited but as soon as I pressed his door bell I went straight into being full blown panic. I don’t think I told him it was my first time but I was so nervous and didn’t say much so he must have known I wasnt very experienced. I’d had a couple of drinks before I went hoping it would calm me down but I don’t think it helped.

He gave me the money (which I almost forgot to count) and a drink. He seemed nice. Probably late 40’s early 50’s, going bald. Not what I would go for myself but not as unpleasant as some of the men I’ve read about in other girls posts.

The biggest problem was I couldn’t think of anything to say. I was so awkward. I remember looking round desperately trying to find something to talk about but I couldn’t think of anything. He had hardly any furniture and what he did have was old and mismatched but I didn’t want to offend him by passing comment. Looking back now I’m thinking maybe he only recently moved in or something.

After a few minutes I think I said something like “Where do you want to do this?”
After the first time I calmed down a bit and we talked a little. I wish Id done a better job keeping it together more but I think he enjoyed it. I’ll try and do better with my next client.

I cant believe I did it. I feel really hyper now.

You are on that high

You will see all sorts in people's houses, different styles and I couldn't give a stuff if furniture is old or mismatched I quite like old furniture. Some properties are really sparse, and almost clinical, others really interesting and I get a tour. End of the day it's the person, how they treat me that matters (same goes for looks).

You've learned about the alcohol could help, could hinder, and I have heard of becoming dependent on it for bookings

lillybliss · « **Reply #11 on:** 23 October 2022, 12:04:44 pm »

I like old mismatched furniture! I bet he had brown leather sofas lo, well done

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amy · « **Reply #12 on:** 23 October 2022, 12:16:49 pm »

I'm a bit late to the party here but my only tip that hasn't already been mentioned is to wear a watch. It's a lot easier to keep track of time with incalls as you can have playlists and so on, but much harder when you're not in charge of the surroundings (and looking at your phone is pretty bad form).

Count your money again!

RedH · « **Reply #13 on:** 23 October 2022, 12:38:10 pm »

Quote from: Mirror on 23 October 2022, 07:03:43 am

You are on that high

You will see all sorts in people's houses, different styles and I couldn't give a stuff if furniture is old or mismatched I quite like old furniture. Some properties are really sparse, and almost clinical, others really interesting and I get a tour. End of the day it's the person, how they treat me that matters (same goes for looks).

You've learned about the alcohol could help, could hinder, and I have heard of becoming dependent on it for bookings

I’m definitely on a high.

I still cant believe it.

I don’t think the alcohol helped my nerves at all so I might try without it next time. Maybe that will help me keep myself together.
Your right about it being the people that matter. The fact that there was no real furniture or photos or anything just made it harder for me to find something to talk about. I’ve always been a bit socially awkward around strangers and starting up random conversations isn’t something I’m good at. I’m going to have to think up something to talk about for my next client before I go and just hope my mind doesn’t go blank again.

Do you have any advice on how to talk to clients?

RedH · « **Reply #14 on:** 23 October 2022, 12:47:50 pm »

Quote from: lillybliss on 23 October 2022, 12:04:44 pm

I like old mismatched furniture! I bet he had brown leather sofas lo, well done .

Thanks. It feels so surreal today.

The problem with the furniture is that once my mind locked onto it I couldn’t think of anything else to talk about. I really didnt want to go down that conversation route and I bet he didn’t either. That would have probably made me the most boring hooker in history. So instead, I ended up just sitting there awkwardly.

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