I left Sex Work 5 years ago to retrain to work in the 3rd sector and I hated it if I'm honest. I was taking in around ?10 an hour at one point (v high wage when working for the charities I worked for) and it was always on my mind that I used to earn a lot more.

However like you I had become jaded towards the whole sex industry so i reminded myself of that every day.

I only started back up as I had been medically retired from my last job so been an escort again was a good option for me. I think I needed that break away from it.

Could you take a year or so off?

Hey ladies,

I'm after a little advice, I want to build the courage to leave this industry and live a civvy lifestyle.
I'm frightened as the money is so good. However, I'm starting to loose my mind, I'm hating my work, I'm feeling anxious and sick when I have to go to work.

I have family that depend on me, so I'm really struggling with the idea of not working I. This industry anymore.

Ugh. I feel so confused. Any ladies been through this themselves?

I feel exactly the same, especially the anxious and sick part let alone bad bouts of depression.
I try to focus on good regulars with 2 hour bookings and they can perk you up.
You can get addicted to easy money but there are pros and cons. Going back to a 9-5 fills me with dread and would not last a week! I am fortunate that I need only to have 6 -7 two hour bookings a month now.
So long as you only need money for a home, food and pay bills you don't have to do this every day.
Focus on things you can enjoy with your free time and talk to a doctor when you feel low. This time of year is gloomy enough. Try to balance things in your life.
If you are in a booking where the guy is an ass - give him the money back and walk away. Try to stick to good regulars and talk to them about how you feel - a lot of guys feel down about life, so sharing it with someone who understands your work does help. If getting out and going back to a civvy job makes you feel better then do it but it is hard - weigh up all the options
Hope that advice helps.
Take care E x

Hey ladies,

I'm after a little advice, I want to build the courage to leave this industry and live a civvy lifestyle.
I'm frightened as the money is so good. However, I'm starting to loose my mind, I'm hating my work, I'm feeling anxious and sick when I have to go to work.

I have family that depend on me, so I'm really struggling with the idea of not working I. This industry anymore.

Ugh. I feel so confused. Any ladies been through this themselves?

I still feel like this everyday. The anxiety is crazy for me but I have anxiety problems outside of work so I completely understand the feelings you are experiencing. I don't let it stop me as, as much of a deterrent the feelings I get are, once I actually start work everything goes fine. If you are not enjoying yourself during the time you actually work (as I find it's the build up before that gets me anxious) then maybe try deep breaths and maybe yoga/ do something to distract yourself/ make sure you are as prepared as you can be for a booking so there is nothing you need to rush and do adding to the anxiety might be good things to do to ease your feelings.

Make a plan, and enough cash and set up a business that you will love, doing this work gives you a drive, anything you do you should succeed. Massive hugs, its the worst feeling when you feel like this.

My anxiety forces me to be off work for months at a time, as soon as I am back, I wish I never went off, my regs are miss me more than my friends do they are so cute,  they defiantly make me happy again. But I am going to do what you do next time anxiety kicks in, its a good idea x

I also took time off for a couple of years and all my old regs on AW are getting in contact saying they want bookings, it helps when you have those who haven't seen you in years still wanting to see you so it nullifies previous anxieties and overanalyse about how you did and are doing in your work

Thank you ladies. It's so reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one in this position, unfortunately I understand how difficult it is for you to. I appreciate the advice and the idea of taking a year or so off. I think that it would give me the time to rebalance myself, as for my partner he depends on me too! His wages are so low, but we spoke about it and he and I said that we would have to make some huge sacrifices but we could make it work. Still. It's a daunting task!

If your in this industry it should be for yourself or some do it as they have small kids to feed what you said about your partner just feeled me with Dred. Maybe you need to think about is this the man for you sounds to me like you could do better. I know some woman have partners that know what they do but some of those woman really want to do the job and wont leave so the partner stays or goes but your situation is different he knows you hate it but depends on you selling yourself for the lifestyle. You need to really evaluate what you need and want in life iif it was me this man would be out on his ear but obviously its your life and your descision to make.

I still feel like this everyday. The anxiety is crazy for me but I have anxiety problems outside of work so I completely understand the feelings you are experiencing. I don't let it stop me as, as much of a deterrent the feelings I get are, once I actually start work everything goes fine. If you are not enjoying yourself during the time you actually work (as I find it's the build up before that gets me anxious) then maybe try deep breaths and maybe yoga/ do something to distract yourself/ make sure you are as prepared as you can be for a booking so there is nothing you need to rush and do adding to the anxiety might be good things to do to ease your feelings.

I also agree totally with the above - the thoughts of going to a booking feel me with dread and panic, even if it is a regular, but once I push myself and then in the booking I feel much better. If I have a really bad off day - which happens a lot, I snuggle up on the sofa with good TV - tomorrow is another day. Look after number one and surround yourself with positive people and not negative - that can bring you down.
E x