Author Topic: Fear or embarrassment/rejection stopping me from doing outcalls? (Read 1404 times)

Sophine88 · « **on:** 18 December 2022, 12:56:58 pm »

It’s been quieter than lately usually but fucking hell the amount of guys who want outcalls and I don’t do them I’m starting to think I’ll be forced to start doing outcalls cause incall is so quiet for me.

I think it’s because I’m in quiet a crappy area of East London/Bordering into Essex and a lot of men who are travelling and staying in central london want to see me but the location I’m in is a bit far hence why a lot of outcall requests.

The only thing is if a guy doesn’t like you and your at your own house likes it’s perfectly fine it would hurt your esteem a bit if he wants to leave cause he doesn’t like how you look but at least it’s in the comfort of your own home.

I couldn’t imagine how embarrassing it would be to go to a strangers home or hotel and have them ask you to leave cause they don’t like the look of you.

Other than this I have no issue really with doing outcall only that I might get rejected in an embarrassing way.

Has anyone ever experienced this or am I just making a fuss over nothing. Has anyone ever experienced being rejected at an outcall. Was it embarrassing?

Vintage Miss · « **Reply #1 on:** 18 December 2022, 02:30:45 pm »

Has this happened to you a lot before or is this more a speculative anxiety? IMO experience rejections of this kind are uncommon, if your adverts are honest and up to date. It can of course happen for other reasons (guy chickens out, guilt about wife etc) but if it is happening often perhaps you need to have a full and frank going over your ads.

If it isn't happening to you, you are just generally nervous about it, maybe having some firm cancellation policy in place would help your anxiety. For outcalls I insist on a deposit and this deposit if forfeited if the guy cancels at ant point, including arrival. Its easier to walk out without paying something back than it is to argue the toss about being given £50 for your time in cash on arrival. I know this is more about self esteem than it is about money, but having a clean exit strategy can help make the process of leaving less uncomfortable.

Mirror · « **Reply #2 on:** 18 December 2022, 02:45:28 pm »

Quote from: Sophine88 on 18 December 2022, 12:56:58 pm

It’s been quieter than lately usually but fucking hell the amount of guys who want outcalls and I don’t do them I’m starting to think I’ll be forced to start doing outcalls cause incall is so quiet for me.

I think it’s because I’m in quiet a crappy area of East London/Bordering into Essex and a lot of men who are travelling and staying in central london want to see me but the location I’m in is a bit far hence why a lot of outcall requests.

The only thing is if a guy doesn’t like you and your at your own house likes it’s perfectly fine it would hurt your esteem a bit if he wants to leave cause he doesn’t like how you look but at least it’s in the comfort of your own home.

I couldn’t imagine how embarrassing it would be to go to a strangers home or hotel and have them ask you to leave cause they don’t like the look of you.

Other than this I have no issue really with doing outcall only that I might get rejected in an embarrassing way.

Has anyone ever experienced this or am I just making a fuss over nothing. Has anyone ever experienced being rejected at an outcall. Was it embarrassing?

Not yet, the only walk away was incall many years ago definitely his issue , he didnt even look at me and that day myself, my property were absolutely tip top. A few who left after being unable to settle themselves down - all incall.

These days I take a deposit for the first few bookings, and screen fairly well - I want booking with clients/punters who know what they want, can commit. They've read my profile or thought about the information I have given them.

English Green · « **Reply #3 on:** 18 December 2022, 03:22:46 pm »

Outcalls usually have a clause that if they change there mind 50% of out call fee is payable. As long as you state something like this on your adverts and tell them then they know and verify they are where they say they are before setting off you should be ok. There is no guarantees in this business and somebody could just refuse to open the door when you knock but that is rare and just a nasty little fantasist getting off on you turning up.

amy · « **Reply #4 on:** 18 December 2022, 04:11:03 pm »

I'd actually rather be turned away on an outcall than have a walker (malicious or otherwise) know where my flat was! But it all depends on wasted time and expense - if I'd turned down an incall to schlep across town just to be sent away (or worse, ignored at the door) I would be well pissed off, and it's possibly the only situation I can think of where I might ask for a deposit - I don't now, but any outcall I do is generally no more than a quick tube ride away.

Is there a reason you think you're likely to be turned away Sophine? It never crosses my mind but I have clear face and body pictures (so they haven't really got a leg to stand on) and I realise that isn't practical.for everybody.

Miffy · « **Reply #5 on:** 18 December 2022, 05:16:26 pm »

Quote from: amy on 18 December 2022, 04:11:03 pm

Is there a reason you think you're likely to be turned away Sophine? It never crosses my mind but I have clear face and body pictures (so they haven't really got a leg to stand on) and I realise that isn't practical.for everybody.

To echo Amy, is there any reason why you think you might to be turned away?

FWIW, I only make outcalls. Despite not showing my face in my advertising, I have never been asked to leave. If someone did ask me to leave, I would consider it a last minute cancellation and expect the full outstanding balance (less the deposit already paid) to be settled. I think this might be in my t&cs - I know that my cancellation fee at less than 24 hours notice is clearly stated).

Also, if you're not already asking for a deposit for outcalls, this is exactly why you should ask for them so at least you're not left out of pocket re. travel costs. Remember, you can set your deposit at whatever you like.

Sophine88 · « **Reply #6 on:** 18 December 2022, 08:53:46 pm »

I guess some of it is a feeling of inadequacy. A lot of the outcall requests are too nice hotels and residences. I feel like I don’t fit in at those places but those seem to be in the only outcall requests I get.

I think because I grew up very humble I would never really think of myself as high class or anything like that it’s just outcalls are so lucrative for me cause the rate is higher but like I said I’d feel a bit inadequate going to nice places like those.

I guess it’s a low self esteem thing. I guess I need to work on it and get over it. In terms of attractiveness I’ve always thought I was attractive. Not stunning but I don’t think I’m ugly either.

A terribly nasty review was wrote about me recently by a man who didn’t even see me and just said I sounded like a psycho over the phone and many other men chimed in going into depth about my pictures and how I was ugly. None of these men have even seen me. I guess they’re just nasty pieces of work and I have to work on rebuilding confidence in myself.

Miffy · « **Reply #7 on:** 18 December 2022, 09:13:13 pm »

Sophine,

Clients don't book you because they feel sorry for you. They book you because they like your profile, find you attractive, want to meet you, get to know you and have sex with you. Remind yourself of this and don't let your lack of self-esteem tell you otherwise. The beauty of this world is there's someone for everyone. Never forget this.

The secret to being confident is to not care. Don't be impressed by nice hotels, they're just hotels, somewhere to meet a client. Ditto their home. It's just bricks and mortar. And surely it should be a compliment that clients want to invite you to fancy hotels! Or would you prefer a scabby B&B?

High class is a largely meaningless phrase now. FWIW, I don't advertise as high class even though my prices are very much at the upper end. I just feel those words attract a kind of man who has a very specific idea of what high class means/what a high class escorts looks like, and I don't want to engage with those kinds of men.

Reviews are just words on a screen. Don't read them. As for the man who left the review, it speaks volumes about HIM, not you. Try to block it out of your mind and don't waste your time reading reviews. Seriously. Don't bother. You'll only feel better for it.

Vintage Miss · « **Reply #8 on:** 18 December 2022, 10:14:43 pm »

You sound really hard on yourself about you attractiveness, and I can really relate to that. But, though I know its hard but I wouldn't take what punters (or indeed supposed) punters on the internet say about you in any kind of good faith. I don't know of a single escort I've met who hasn't had unkind things said about them online by someone who hasn't even met them, because of resentment or bitterness or whatever. I've seen literal Hollywood actresses called ugly and fat by 'dudes online' and other keyboard warriors.

If your pictures are honest, guys are booking you because they fancy you, and they are happy for you to meet them at nice hotels because you aren't giving off anything that would have them aren't worried you will cause them problems there. Get deposits in advance, wear something that makes you feel attractive but comfortable and know when you go in that you've been picked out of hundreds of potential others because they believe you have something to offer them, which you almost certainly do. Like I said before, I think 'walk outs' or in this case, 'send aways' are unusual if you are straightforward about who you are and what you offer.

Kay · « **Reply #9 on:** 19 December 2022, 01:11:57 am »

The only thing I would say (I agree with Amy about not liking timewasters knowing where I am) is perhaps don't do last-minute out-calls. Drunk blokes may feel horny and bit more adventurous than normal, so text you at e.g. 10pm after a business dinner or something, then change their mind when you arrive. So, do them, but only if booked in advance.

Mirror · « **Reply #10 on:** 20 December 2022, 08:56:26 am »

Quote from: Kay on 19 December 2022, 01:11:57 am

The only thing I would say (I agree with Amy about not liking timewasters knowing where I am) is perhaps don't do last-minute out-calls. Drunk blokes may feel horny and bit more adventurous than normal, so text you at e.g. 10pm after a business dinner or something, then change their mind when you arrive. So, do them, but only if booked in advance.

I screen for drinking/drug use, have had some very good last minute outcalls particularly those within 5-15 minute travel distance (including some only a short walk away). Doesn't happen often but there are days when this suits me very well.

Bloomer · « **Reply #11 on:** 27 December 2022, 06:57:45 pm »

Just want to reiterate some of the above posts. I only work outcall. I am obese, stretched marked. Tattooed and quite tall. Definetly not conventionally attractive. I've never been rejected or turned away. Generally if they want outcall they really want you to come so will be happy u actually turned up. I don't show face on adverts on viva . Although they can buy pics of my face on adults work .

I screen the best I can and only outcall to what I'm happy to travel to time wise . If its further I ask for extra paid in advance . Only once did someone change their mind before the booking commenced and I had his deposit so got paid enough for my trouble of showering

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