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FexplicitlyW

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So glad I found this page! I have some newbie questions!
« on: 25 April 2016, 06:05:18 am »
I havent actually been an escort yet. I need money...to make money. Does that make sense? I need $100 so I can rent a hotel room to make more money lol. My first question is how do you protect yourself? As in arent you afraid the guy will kill you?! Do you keep a weapon around? What kind? Where? Of course using condoms is a must for everything, but what about herpes, public lice etc?
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Re: So glad I found this page! I have some newbie questions!
« Reply #1 on: 25 April 2016, 06:18:33 am »
A little bit but the idea is to have strict security procedures in place that someone who would want to thinks again.

I have a rape alarm and a spray thing (not pepper spray) but wouldn't have actual weapons (remember it could be taken and used against you).

If they show signs of any sti's/std's then its no play, even if this means having to give them their money back.

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« Reply #2 on: 25 April 2016, 06:24:04 am »
Strict security procedures such as...? A bodyguard?
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« Reply #3 on: 25 April 2016, 07:21:39 am »
No just making sure you speak with them on phone, not giving room number until you are sure they are there and having a security buddy (someone you can call at start and finish of booking to say everything's OK and who will let the authorities know they believe you are in trouble, if they don't hear from you by a certain time.

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« Reply #4 on: 25 April 2016, 07:28:11 am »
Most of the people here are in the UK, where prostitution is legal. As you are talking about $100, I am guessing that you are in the US, where it isn't. (And if you go to where the client is, they are paying for the venue, no matter where you are.)

You need to think about where and how to advertise - including never saying anything that a court could interpret as 'I will have sex with you if you pay me' - plus having a screening procedure, so that you can be reasonably sure that the person you are seeing isn't going to arrest you. This latter, except aimed at other threats is what's being called 'security procedures'.

Do look at the main www.saafe.info site and do a search for 'America' and 'screening' here.
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Re: So glad I found this page! I have some newbie questions!
« Reply #5 on: 25 April 2016, 09:22:14 am »
My first question is how do you protect yourself? As in arent you afraid the guy will kill you?! Do you keep a weapon around? What kind? Where? Of course using condoms is a must for everything, but what about herpes, public lice etc?


Why would a client want to kill you? Most assaults/murders are committed by people who know each other not random people meeting for the first time. You can protect yourself by practising a reality based self defence, and also being choosy about who you accept for a booking. You can get a 'feel' for what someone's like by speaking on the phone to establish what the customer is looking for. Its up to you about the condoms but using them for everything obviously minimises your risk, herpes well that's a risk you need to think about, pubic lice easily avoidable by being shaven down below but some people might say it increases the close contact ie skin to skin.

Just about everything in life carries some sort of risk V reward so if you're considering sex work as with anything its best to weigh up the pro's and cons and decide what level of risk you're prepared to take to earn the money you want/need. All the best :-) 

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Re: So glad I found this page! I have some newbie questions!
« Reply #6 on: 25 April 2016, 02:36:18 pm »
I think it's a bit extreme to be afraid of clients so much you need to keep a weapon around. Maybe in America things are different but here not really an issue. Most of my clients are nice enough people from all walks of life who decided they want my company. Been doing this a little while now and no client has ever tried to hurt me. Had a couple of arguments but nothing that wasn't sorted by them knowing I won't be bullied.

I have taken self defence classes though it wasn't related to this line of work it was before but I feel confidence enough I could do something to defend myself and get away if I had to and my boyfriend and a friend who is also an escort both know where I am any time I do an outcall and how long I'll be so I have people who can call the police in an emergency with the location. I'll often send them a text and they reply that they got it just so they know I arrived and them replying lets the client know that people may be aware of where I am. They don't know who that is for all they know I have a driver waiting so I think it helps if they think they can try something.

There are a bunch of security measures you can take I don't know if weapons are needed though. But yeah I've never been afraid doing this job.

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« Reply #7 on: 25 April 2016, 07:09:23 pm »
Really?! That is legal in the UK?! Yes I am from America. And it is very dangerous here especially since it is not legal. I will include a disclaimer preventing entrapment? I will check out the Yankee section XD thank you everyone!
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Re: So glad I found this page! I have some newbie questions!
« Reply #8 on: 25 April 2016, 10:15:41 pm »
Really?! That is legal in the UK?! Yes I am from America. And it is very dangerous here especially since it is not legal. I will include a disclaimer preventing entrapment? I will check out the Yankee section XD thank you everyone!

Yes, prostitution is legal in the UK, as is punting in most of it.

You don't need a meaningless disclaimer, you need proper security and screening procedures as stated above? With these, it doesn't have to be any more dangerous than it it anywhere else :).