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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Tiffany_jane on 19 February 2015, 10:20:07 pm
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Trying my hardest not to fall for my client ! We're both the same age get on very well we both have issues with our bf/gfs at home ... We speak every day an meet up very frequently and now I'm genuinely falling for him :FF I find him sooo attractive which doesn't help, I spend have my day thinking about him lol ! Oh god this isn't good need to snap out if it asap !! X ???
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Hiya,
Does he always pay you when you meet up? x
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You can't always stop the feelings from happening but try to keep a level head, remember words mean nothing, it's actions.
Of course I hope it does work out, whatever would make you happy, but the "me and my gf aren't great" thing is a cliche for a reason...
Has he been a client long?
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Difficult one, I've liked clients a lot but my feeling have never gone over. I think it's cause (and I know some may find this hypocritical) I wouldn't want to go out with a guy who punts! I had a guy say he loved me and wanted to leave his (3rd) wife for me but how would I ever have trusted him not to trade up when he got the chance?
I also think you have a better chance of finding happiness when you are single and happy where as you are both in unhappy relationships.
Also - I know a lady who got together with a client and guess what? He doesn't like her working any more!
Only you can decide what to do but for me, I'd stop all contact and not see him again and sort out whether I want to be in the relationship I'm in or not.
Good luck whatever course of action you choose to take xxx
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"My wife doesn't understand me." Or variations thereof... classic bullshit.
This is a guy who is cheating on his partner. Take his money, enjoy his company, but banish the thought of him being a potential partner.
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Trying my hardest not to fall for my client ! We're both the same age get on very well we both have issues with our bf/gfs at home ... We speak every day an meet up very frequently and now I'm genuinely falling for him :FF I find him sooo attractive which doesn't help, I spend have my day thinking about him lol ! Oh god this isn't good need to snap out if it asap !! X ???
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But remind yourself can you do without his money.
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Men will say any thing to try and get into your head ....it all leads to one place ....
I've had and still have several clients that say to me , oh your the only one I see ...I think we're
a perfect match ...we're so tuned into one another...I wish we could spend every day together...
Yeah and the rest ....all the while I'm just smiling and thinking...
I'm just not gullible,
I just want your cash
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You no what I think that's true think he will try get freebies off me now! I haven't let him an won't I still ask for money xx
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he will try get freebies off me now!
If you are thinking it now, when you are together it will be worse, you will be thinking if he does this with his gf, then he can do it with me when he get bored.
It will be a pain if you are paranoid and jealous, but sex is not love I think :/
You should do what you want inside you and experiment, life is that I think, all people here will tell you the same, he is for free sex, but maybe that is not true.
Good luck and good night if reading.
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A good technique is just to focus on other things to move on from. I used to think clients are but would rather a civy any day with little to no expectations. Who like me for me, not what I do attracted them. Which is clients why they contact escorts in the first place.
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I have one client messing with my feelings so I know how you feel. I have decided to stay strong and explain myself is a bad idea to fall for one this way. They can say sweet things and do not mean any of them.
I do not want to get hurt. So this is business strictly only.
I guess there maybe some happy stories, but would think this must be very rare.
All the best.
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I had a 2year relationship with a client. I don't think they're all "out for freebies" them again aren't all men. But I don't think it's a good place to meet someone, maybe I'm tainted but I just feel usually no good comes from a hooker client relationship. I'm sure the odd time it works out, we're all only human. But this industry isn't really the norm, and if you're okay with a relationship with different facets/outside the norm...fantastic , but if you're a typical woman wanting the typical thing (like me) it won't happen
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Men will say any thing to try and get into your head ....it all leads to one place ....
I've had and still have several clients that say to me , oh your the only one I see ...I think we're
a perfect match ...we're so tuned into one another...I wish we could spend every day together...
Yeah and the rest ....all the while I'm just smiling and thinking...
I'm just not gullible,
I just want your cash
This is exactly right! I fell for it at first (shameful I know!!) I can't even imagine falling for it now, it's just ridiculous isn't it, every other bloke "professes this love" it's cringey now to me
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I have a slogan I live by and it goes for men trying to talk his way into your panties gratis :
How do you know a guy is telling lies ? ........................ His lips are moving ?
Cynical I know but its never let me down yet.
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Ugh now you've depressed me LL! I get you though, I've contemplated lately whether I could be in a relationship with a woman!thats how disheartened I feel. I can't imagine ever being innocently involved with a man ever again now,only 26but I guess that's it!lol
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Hey LMG, their defects of character are nothing to do with us so dont get depressed, if you really want a man in your life, just be very very careful and two steps ahead of him AT ALL TIMES.
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I know you're right! It's just been a recent and shocking realisation for me that there are no Prince Charmings in real life! Hard thing to take haha
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Hiya,
Play them at their own game!
My view is...you can get used for the next few years by them, whilst they tell you exactly what they think you want to hear, or you can do exactly the same thing yet get paid for it. I really think that this is the only choice for an attractive woman.
You may think this view is cynical but I have lived this :-* I think it's a good thing to reach this realisation x
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Thing is if you're the type to develop feelings that's not something you can decide to switch off. You can maybe suppress them but they're still there
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Ugh now you've depressed me LL! I get you though, I've contemplated lately whether I could be in a relationship with a woman!thats how disheartened I feel. I can't imagine ever being innocently involved with a man ever again now,only 26but I guess that's it!lol
Aw no hun and all the other's despairing. I met a gem of a man last year - not through work but we were friends for several months when he said he liked me and he knew what I do for a living. He has only ever had sex in relationships (as had my ex) and I KNOW - 100% he would never sleep with anyone else and we are getting married. I am not naive - I'm 37 and he's my second love and relationship in my whole life. He doesn't 'like' what I do for work but he manages it and doesn't make it my problem.
I feel very very lucky :)
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Ugh now you've depressed me LL! I get you though, I've contemplated lately whether I could be in a relationship with a woman!thats how disheartened I feel. I can't imagine ever being innocently involved with a man ever again now,only 26but I guess that's it!lol
Aw no hun and all the other's despairing. I met a gem of a man last year - not through work but we were friends for several months when he said he liked me and he knew what I do for a living. He has only ever had sex in relationships (as had my ex) and I KNOW - 100% he would never sleep with anyone else and we are getting married. I am not naive - I'm 37 and he's my second love and relationship in my whole life. He doesn't 'like' what I do for work but he manages it and doesn't make it my problem.
I feel very very lucky :)
Now that's made me feel better! I think sometimes (not even just in escorting) we can be exposed to a certain type and then it feels that's all there is out there.
And congratulations!
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I used to fall for clients but now clients are not desired like that as know business only. Now have got myself in that frame of mind it is easier. Many try to not pay then get bored before moving on. That is why many cheat on thier wife and gf because they are bored of the same thing. So I would think what makes one think they won't do the same. I thought about this recently and smiled bingo! that is it.
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I would say one thing sucks is when you fall in love with a client but choose to stay working over taking a chance at love :(
I had a client that walked into my life and was not only the best crazy sex of my life that I had but a really cool freaken person...saw him outside the job like 4times and each time it was Great...we went on awesome dates and I thought everything was cool...till it wasn't. ..of course like all clients ....he wanted me to get out of this biz. ..like right away because it was too fucken weird for him to see me while I was still sleeping with other men for money
unfortunately for him as much as I liked him and could probably fall in love with him quick...I was too new to this biz to quit...
I had all these plans and goals and I was only a month in and decided to say goodbye to a great potential love and continue working
definitely one of the worst things I experienced with this job so far.. :-[
anyone else had to let go of someone who could of been great ?
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Thats great that you left him. Did he offer you all the money you would make in this job? Did he take care about your financial plans? If no, no regrets!
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Yah that's exactly what I thought...you will not pay me 3 grand a week I make and pay for my expenses so ?? I definitely was not ready to go work making 20 bucks an hour at some normal job yet haha ...
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I've been there. Never again. Arsehole told me he'd finally left his girlfriend. I took him in straight away stupid me. Turns out they hadn't really split. Had been a row. He wants to see me again in April and get a hotel room and shag me. Has suggested handcuffs. I'll take handcuffs all right. Then once I've got him trussed up like a chicken I'm going to ring his girlfriend and tell her to come and get him. I'm well over him but not the way he used me.
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I would say one thing sucks is when you fall in love with a client but choose to stay working over taking a chance at love :(
I had a client that walked into my life and was not only the best crazy sex of my life that I had but a really cool freaken person...saw him outside the job like 4times and each time it was Great...we went on awesome dates and I thought everything was cool...till it wasn't. ..of course like all clients ....he wanted me to get out of this biz. ..like right away because it was too fucken weird for him to see me while I was still sleeping with other men for money
unfortunately for him as much as I liked him and could probably fall in love with him quick...I was too new to this biz to quit...
I had all these plans and goals and I was only a month in and decided to say goodbye to a great potential love and continue working
definitely one of the worst things I experienced with this job so far.. :-[
anyone else had to let go of someone who could of been great ?
All you found was a completely utterly selfish twat.
It really makes me laugh when guys make out that they care so much about you, but in reality all they think about is themselves.
Thats great that you left him. Did he offer you all the money you would make in this job? Did he take care about your financial plans? If no, no regrets!
Like Candy says, I bet he didn't even think about your financial situation.
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Please don't think that guys can't handle the job. There are plenty of guys who can. If someone asks you to quit your job for them, you can quite easily say that actually, you are not comfortable with their job and tell them when they have quit and are unemployed, you will consider dating them. There is no difference whatsoever. If he doesn't like your job, find someone who does.
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Please don't think that guys can't handle the job. There are plenty of guys who can. If someone asks you to quit your job for them, you can quite easily say that actually, you are not comfortable with their job and tell them when they have quit and are unemployed, you will consider dating them. There is no difference whatsoever. If he doesn't like your job, find someone who does.
Exactly!
When I first joined Saafe, i was really surprised at the amount of male partners who accepted their girlfriend's/spouse's job.
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OP I'm so glad you had the common sense to say no.
No matter how good the sex is there will be another along soon who's just as good.
When guys want you to stop working, that is the first step in trying to control you and change you, would they change for you .... Damned unlikely.
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So he wanted you to quit escorting but I can guarantee he would've carried on paying for escorts! I've never fallen for a client so I can't relate but it makes me laugh how they would want you to leave this job and have you all to themselves when they wouldn't be able to financially support you like the escorting did!
I can bet he would've still been seeing escorts if you had pursued a relationship with him, good on you for not going ahead x
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I would say one thing sucks is when you fall in love with a client but choose to stay working over taking a chance at love :(
I had a client that walked into my life and was not only the best crazy sex of my life that I had but a really cool freaken person...saw him outside the job like 4times and each time it was Great...we went on awesome dates and I thought everything was cool...till it wasn't. ..of course like all clients ....he wanted me to get out of this biz. ..like right away because it was too fucken weird for him to see me while I was still sleeping with other men for money
unfortunately for him as much as I liked him and could probably fall in love with him quick...I was too new to this biz to quit...
I had all these plans and goals and I was only a month in and decided to say goodbye to a great potential love and continue working
definitely one of the worst things I experienced with this job so far.. :-[
anyone else had to let go of someone who could of been great ?
Here's what would have happened: You take him, leave the job and struggle financially with a low paying job. Your guy didn't seem to have offered any financial help while you "transitioned", meaning: he might be good in the sack but he's quite selfish when it comes to the money department.
So 6 months into the relationship you're struggling with money, all your list of goals in the rubbish bin, he's (very possibly) seeing other escorts, this makes you insecure, in his eyes you're not "playful victoria the sex godess" anymore but this needy, insecure and broke ass Jane Smith. Reality sets in. Sex is not that good anymore. You guys fight. You're miserable.
You resent him for making you leave a good life. U think to yourself: "What a mistake I did. i wish I would have never moved in with this guy and left my escort job and kept it "business like" with him. i should have enjoyed the great sex and get payed for it. now I'm giving it to him for free and feel miserable".
I think you made the right decision by saying goodbye to him. ;)
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So he wanted you to quit escorting but I can guarantee he would've carried on paying for escorts! I've never fallen for a client so I can't relate but it makes me laugh how they would want you to leave this job and have you all to themselves when they wouldn't be able to financially support you like the escorting did!
I can bet he would've still been seeing escorts if you had pursued a relationship with him, good on you for not going ahead x
Those are my thoughts too but I forgot to say. Hypocritical twit!
In this business ALWAYS take everything with a dose of reality.
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Wow ! Thanks guys...that actually made me feel so much better about my decision and I'm sure that's exactly how it would of played out Ana ...really appreciate it ladies ;)
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I'm really sorry to hear about your situation Lady of the mansion. ..what a dick :x ....and yah I love your idea about handcuffing him and calling his gf lol that would be hilarious and teach the bastard a lesson he he
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Ah but... the best revenge is living well and for him to see that :)
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(Sorry if this is a duplicated thread, I did search and couldn't find one so, so decided to start one)
Hello ladies (all)
Have you ever found yourself falling for a client? If so, how did it pan out?
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(Sorry if this is a duplicated thread, I did search and couldn't find one so, so decided to start one)
Hello ladies (all)
Have you ever found yourself falling for a client? If so, how did it pan out?
It's late and many might not be online. It's been asked more times than I can think of. Try different words in either of the search boxes to find them though I'm sure your title words will bring something up.
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Yes one,I'm very cut off normally. Started seeing this guy I'm in love so is he,but my god what a messy situation...
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Yes and in two months time we will be married for a year and been together for 3 years. I was always the one to say no, dont do it. But all I can say is be very careful who you decide to fall for in this industry they can either be your rock or the rock that crushes you.
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Yes one,I'm very cut off normally. Started seeing this guy I'm in love so is he,but my god what a messy situation...
If you put "falling for client" in search box you will get four pages of posts.
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Not fallen for him completely yet, but going that way!
We saw each other once on a booking, fantastic connection, bit younger than me and despite him saying he'd love to take me for a coffee/drink etc... I must admit I blanked him, blanked him because he's decent, hardworking, seemed to be a caring dad and the last thing I wanted was to bring him into my tawdry world.... He kept calling and texting, I mostly ignored his texts... He then booked me through AW... The first time we met he called so I didn't know who he was on AW. He turned up, made us both a coffee and we sat and talked. He asked me if I gave a damn about what he does for a living, he has a really normal job, I said of course not, he said 'So why should I give a damn about yours?' We met up that weekend at a country show type thing, had the best time ever, we are dating and getting to know each other. For once, I was absolutely right about him, so far he ticks every box... Patient, kind, caring and funny.... The best bit is that he turns me on, I was in fear of it feeling a bit mechanical but it isn't, it is a million miles away from anything I do work wise.... Early days but loving every day so far, Oh and yes, the booking he made through AW? He paid me for! lol
The only advice I can give you is distance yourself from the client, stop taking his bookings, give yourself a few weeks to think and then meet for a coffee and see how you feel from there, its so SO easy to mistake lust and good sex in an artificial setting for something really genuine that will work in the real world. I've made that mistake and Im pretty sure most people on here will have done the same. Whatever you decide to do, please protect your heart and try not to get hurt! We will all be here for you though if you do! xx
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Yes one,I'm very cut off normally. Started seeing this guy I'm in love so is he,but my god what a messy situation...
If you put "falling for client" in search box you will get four pages of posts.
Ugh no idea why it was not showing for me last night. Having a read through them all now.
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Im sure this topic has been widely spoken off on here, I am new to Saafe, and relatively new to escorting (6 months)+. Never would i thought of 'falling for A client' would happen so soon in my new found career.
It's tricky! Ive been seeing him for 3 months+ and at most he'd visit me twice a week, which is quite an excessive regular, maybe ??
He is great is the bedroom, in and out, and pays really well, more than my said rate, which brings me the problem of whether to end it, or to continue. Obviously my feelings are incredibly important, but i'm addicted to his d*ck lol and the money, so its kind of good? As he said.
But, it cant be healthy for me in the long run? He is not single. The biggest problem for me is that i've found myself contacting him (he said its ok to) for sex & pay (& because i like him). I have deleted his number before but then when he gets in touch i've jumped at the chance to see him again.
Tried to keep this short - as I think i know what i have to do, sadly.
I would just like to hear all of your experience's with this kind of situation.
:) :) :) :FF
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I met a client 5 years ago but I pushed away him for few years then I let him to take me out. We engaged now. I am still working as escort but I am working towards something else too. He support me and understand situation.
However, I had a different client-boyfriend before him and it was a nightmare. He mentally abused me.
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I know you can't help who you fall for Hun but I would personally advise not to go there . X
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To me punters are punters not prospective partners. I know it works for some but I can't even cross the line to socialise with a punter.
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I don't see there's any issue so long as he pays and you're an escort providing a service, no matter how it may/might mean to you or how it feels like at the moment. He pays. He knows it's a service. Just be careful when he runs out of cash / his wife finds out and he starts asking you to return what he had already paid you or asking you to let him move in. I have read quite a few "messy" endings on this forum. It's pretty sobering to read these.
This type of "relationship" has a sell by date, hate to say, it's usually "doomed". To him, it's an intoxicating drug (e.g. sex). Usually, when "it" feels like it's intoxicating, it does not have a good prospect for anything long-term. It could well be a case of boom and bust.
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Im sure this topic has been widely spoken off on here, I am new to Saafe, and relatively new to escorting (6 months)+. Never would i thought of 'falling for A client' would happen so soon in my new found career.
It's tricky! Ive been seeing him for 3 months+ and at most he'd visit me twice a week, which is quite an excessive regular, maybe ??
He is great is the bedroom, in and out, and pays really well, more than my said rate, which brings me the problem of whether to end it, or to continue. Obviously my feelings are incredibly important, but i'm addicted to his d*ck lol and the money, so its kind of good? As he said.
But, it cant be healthy for me in the long run? He is not single. The biggest problem for me is that i've found myself contacting him (he said its ok to) for sex & pay (& because i like him). I have deleted his number before but then when he gets in touch i've jumped at the chance to see him again.
Tried to keep this short - as I think i know what i have to do, sadly.
I would just like to hear all of your experience's with this kind of situation.
:) :) :) :FF
Sorry edith call me "bitter" but your post sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Don't fall for this man. if you let your feelings get in the way you're going to end up getting hurted. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, charge him every penny of your time and buy yourself a yatch when it ends, because he's not going to leave the wife. Had he any interest in you he would have taken you out on dates (no sex) and introduced you to his friends/family/social circle. I would also keep the texting to a minimum, you want to keep him interested, text him too much and you'l be another prey to him, then he'll move to the next wg.
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Im sure this topic has been widely spoken off on here, I am new to Saafe, and relatively new to escorting (6 months)+. Never would i thought of 'falling for A client' would happen so soon in my new found career.
It's tricky! Ive been seeing him for 3 months+ and at most he'd visit me twice a week, which is quite an excessive regular, maybe ??
He is great is the bedroom, in and out, and pays really well, more than my said rate, which brings me the problem of whether to end it, or to continue. Obviously my feelings are incredibly important, but i'm addicted to his d*ck lol and the money, so its kind of good? As he said.
But, it cant be healthy for me in the long run? He is not single. The biggest problem for me is that i've found myself contacting him (he said its ok to) for sex & pay (& because i like him). I have deleted his number before but then when he gets in touch i've jumped at the chance to see him again.
Tried to keep this short - as I think i know what i have to do, sadly.
I would just like to hear all of your experience's with this kind of situation.
:) :) :) :FF
My observations are that it's easy to fall in love very early on in sex work/Escorting/whatever we want to call it.
The way I'd look at this situation is that you have got a great regular, who you enjoy being with, and who pays well. I'd treasure that and keep it for what it is. Learning to partition off emotions is something which comes with time and practice. That doesn't mean you become cold and distance, it's as I say being grateful for someone who you really enjoy seeing.
Regards outside contact I'd be friendly, but not too much - and that's out of respect for him as well.
I hope this goes well for you both.
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My observations are that it's easy to fall in love very early on in sex work/Escorting/whatever we want to call it.
The way I'd look at this situation is that you have got a great regular, who you enjoy being with, and who pays well. I'd treasure that and keep it for what it is. Learning to partition off emotions is something which comes with time and practice. That doesn't mean you become cold and distance, it's as I say being grateful for someone who you really enjoy seeing.
Regards outside contact I'd be friendly, but not too much - and that's out of respect for him as well.
I hope this goes well for you both.
What mirror said.
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I've got an absolutely lovely client; young, good looking etc, and we've moved more in to a kind of 'arrangement' now, which is obviously a lot more personal than escorting (knows my real name etc) but it's still paid and not a real relationship. Is this an option for you, for now?
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Thank-you for all your responses, Im glad i've entered this forum. Its tough, He has said he wished he could date me but of course he isn't in a position too (gf/family) but i do just think he's a charmer. Thinking i will cut it off.. at some point xxx
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Edith can I ask how old you are?
I have a boyfriend who I promoted :D from client status about 6 months ago. He is married, but he and his wife have a poly relationship. They both have sexual relationships with other people, but these are supposed to be casual and no feelings involved.
I am in my 40s, I already have an (adult!) child, and don't ever want to get married again, or even live with anyone. I am fond of my BF, I care about him, but at the end of the day we are two separate people who are enjoying the sexual connection we currently have, but have no intention of making it into anything more.
There was a time when I was in danger of catching feelings - he booked an amazing hotel suite for the night, took me out to my favourite restaurant (and didn't even have to ask what it was, he just mentally stored it up when I mentioned it in passing one night), we had amazing sex as usual and fell asleep to the sounds of the sea. it was so fucking perfect and I nearly started getting major feels, but I gave my head a wobble and reminded myself that it is what it is - which is a casual, non-exclusive relationship.
Because I'm in my 40s and not driven by the desire to have another child, I am confident in my ability to let my head rule my heart. Are you in the same place? If not - you may have to call time on this client to avoid getting hurt.
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To me punters are punters not prospective partners. I know it works for some but I can't even cross the line to socialise with a punter.
Me too, I get asked out from time to time by clients and one in particular keeps nagging to be seen with me doing something normal in public whether only a coffee or drink in a pub. I have no intention of every crossing this line, it may seem harmless but if I want company to drink or eat with etc I have people in my personal life who I love spending time with.
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Hello Voluptuous Curves,
Im 26 and childless, so no doubt, its a dangerous game.
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I have seen a client around 8 times now and I have totally fallen for him, he is around the same age as me and is the sweetest guy ever, we share many an interest and is amazing in bed spending time to make sure I enjoy myself rather than being about him. I would love to get to know him more, I know he is single how do I broach this one?
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I think u should make sure if he is person who you can trust, because if you want be together later on u will want to introduce him to friends and family.
In my opinion be with client would be hard, because i would scared he gonna tell my family or friends what I am doing. X
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If the client single, are you sure that he's really single?
The reason I ask and I'm sure you've seen this, many clients out there seek our services outside of a relationship they already have, maybe it's the experience of danger to them, or their partners are pregnant and gone off sex, there's loads of reasons. The point I'm trying to make is, if this person is already in a relationship and he's seeking sex from elsewhere then what's to stop them from doing it again if they're in a relationship with you, or anyone else. Be careful as well that there isn't some sort of attachment in all of this, you know like the Florence Nighingale thing.
You need to ask as well, how would cope if you carried on in the profession as you do now and would he be accepting of it?
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You will probably think:
- Is he after free sex?
- Does he like the real me?
- Do I know the real him?
- Will he keep this job a secret to my family and friends? What if we brake up, will he out me out of spite?
- How will this affect my job? Will I be able to carry on doing this while being in a relationship? Will he accept it? If I give up how will I earn a living?
- Will I be enough for him or will he carry on seeing other people?
If he is genuinely interested he will probably think:
- Is she after my money?
- Does she really like me?
- Do I know the real her?
- Can I introduce her to my friends and family? If she gets outed how will this affect me in my social circle and job?
- What about her job? Can I accept it while being in a relationship with her? If she gives up what will she do and will I be able to support her needs?
- Will I be enough for her or will she carry on seeing other people?
My advice is to give it some more time to get to know each other, whether as a client or (if you decide to take the plunge) as a non-paying customer outside the bedroom. There are lots of posts in here about 'Dating a client', 'Dating a customer', 'Relationships while escorting', 'Falling for a client' and the list goes on. And if things don't work out 'How do you get someone out of your mind' :)
But whatever you go for, stop thinking start living. Life is too short x
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I would say "enjoy the ride" while it lasts and see where it goes. You've only seen this guy 8 times in a pay-for-sex scenario and don't know him at all. You're in "lust" with him (do not confuse with being in love). You're probably idealizing (seeing him from a one dimensional perspective) because you don't know this "prince charming". Continue sleeping with him. Get to know him better. Don't let your pheromones get in the way of your logic thinking (aka: do not stop charging him.) You'll find out where this is going after a while. He may have a girlfriend, he may be a serial killer, he may not.Take your time to find this out. Patience is key.
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Thanks ladies, some very good points made, I really do need to get to know him better, as you say there may be a gf or family behind the scenes somewhere. He has booked me for a 9th time for 5hrs instead of the usual couple of hours, hopefully I will get to know him more during this time. For those who have had relationships with clients, how to you broach it with them? Suggest some unpaid social time outside of a usual booking making it clear it will only be social only?
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My understanding is that if you are serious about this and want to get to know each other properly, and find out each other's intentions, you have to remove the No 1 conflict of interest:
"Does he want me for sex?" / "Does she want me for money?". Spend social time outside where no sex or money is involved. A good old fashioned date.
Be aware that if you do this and it doesn't work out you may lose him as a client. If you want to keep the option open of him being client make it clear that any time involving sex will be through a booking on your normal rate. Some people may suggest paid social time. But in that case see the conflict of interest above.
IMO you need to choose between client or date. If it doesn't work out and you are both mature about it and interested to continue on the basis of a professional relationship you will do so. If it doesn't work out and you don't want to see each other again you may lose a client but at least you will not wonder "what if" and you will find another client. There will be other clients, but there may not be another him. If you give him the option of paid sex parallel to the date you may not be able to see how serious he is about you. Just don't overdo it imo witholding sex and he ends up thinking you are not interested being intimate with him. Or at least don't withhold all forms of intimacy from your dates.
Still, I think it is worth waiting a little bit as you are atm before you go on any dates in case it fizzles out.
If I may ask, how long have you been doing this job? And how long have you known each other since the first time you met?
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My understanding is that if you are serious about this and want to get to know each other properly, and find out each other's intentions, you have to remove the No 1 conflict of interest:
"Does he want me for sex?" / "Does she want me for money?". Spend social time outside where no sex or money is involved. A good old fashioned date.
Be aware that if you do this and it doesn't work out you may lose him as a client. If you want to keep the option open of him being client make it clear that any time involving sex will be through a booking on your normal rate. Some people may suggest paid social time. But in that case see the conflict of interest above.
IMO you need to choose between client or date. If it doesn't work out and you are both mature about it and interested to continue on the basis of a professional relationship you will do so. If it doesn't work out and you don't want to see each other again you may lose a client but at least you will not wonder "what if" and you will find another client. There will be other clients, but there may not be another him. If you give him the option of paid sex parallel to the date you may not be able to see how serious he is about you. Just don't overdo it imo witholding sex and he ends up thinking you are not interested being intimate with him. Or at least don't withhold all forms of intimacy from your dates.
Still, I think it is worth waiting a little bit as you are atm before you go on any dates in case it fizzles out.
If I may ask, how long have you been doing this job? And how long have you known each other since the first time you met?
I have been working since April, so still very new and I have been seeing him since May. I have slept with lots of clients already some on multiple occasions, but nothing has come close to him, both on a personal level and the sex. Quite honestly the last few times it has been among the best ever
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I have been working since April, so still very new and I have been seeing him since May. I have slept with lots of clients already some on multiple occasions, but nothing has come close to him, both on a personal level and the sex. Quite honestly the last few times it has been among the best ever
You are far too new and do not know each other for long. Tread carefully.
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Thanks ladies, some very good points made, I really do need to get to know him better, as you say there may be a gf or family behind the scenes somewhere. He has booked me for a 9th time for 5hrs instead of the usual couple of hours, hopefully I will get to know him more during this time. For those who have had relationships with clients, how to you broach it with them? Suggest some unpaid social time outside of a usual booking making it clear it will only be social only?
Don't say anything. Enjoy the ride (and the money) while it lasts. See where this goes. He's booking you 5 hours because he knows you like him and he's trying to seduce you. Suggest some social unpaid time and watch him run to the hills because he will know you have the hots for him and there will be no need to seduce you anymore. Or he may take advantage of the situation (if he's single) and start trying to get free what he's been paying for . Stay level headed, think with your head (versus the pu--sy :-) or this is not going to end well.
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How do you know he is single? Because he said so?
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Don't say anything. Enjoy the ride (and the money) while it lasts. See where this goes. He's booking you 5 hours because he knows you like him and he's trying to seduce you. Suggest some social unpaid time and watch him run to the hills because he will know you have the hots for him and there will be no need to seduce you anymore. Or he may take advantage of the situation (if he's single) and start trying to get free what he's been paying for . Stay level headed, think with your head (versus the pu--sy :-) or this is not going to end well.
I agree that a level head is essential. But it is unfair and pessimistic to generalise and paint this as an accident waiting to happen. There are sad stories with very experienced girls but there are also success stories. Both the OP and her client are unique individuals and their interaction can be unique. The client may be booking more time because he genuinely enjoys being with around her rather than having a sinister ulterior motive.
The main thing is that the OP is very new in this so it may be best not to jump with both feet. Nevertheless she may have life experience to back up her feelings. And despite that, the best way to learn in life is through experience. Sometimes being over analytical and pessimistic can miss a good opportunity.
HS, you may analyse this to death, but you know yourself and your client more than any of us. You may listen to advice, but it's you who will make the call that suits your circumstances.
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How do you know he is single? Because he said so?
In essence. This man isn't available.
If he was, he would have already asked her out on a date after the first or the second time. Most single guys do if you ever dropped a subtle hint that you feel attracted to him in some way (without the need to verbalise that). Not booking an escort for 5 hours if he was single. He's got too many social & emotional skills, which make women fall for him. I'd put money on "this one is a big Casanova, his gorgeous wife, possibly, not well, busy with her kids, or expecting a little baby, (or possibly all three) is oblivious he's playing away with an escort". It's an honourable thing to do for men rather than having affairs. Men enjoy romance and love with someone else if his wife/GF etc is no longer "fresh" to him. Men love the thrill of the chase.
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In essence. This man isn't available.
If he was, he would have already asked her out on a date after the first or the second time. Most single guys do if you ever dropped a subtle hint that you feel attracted to him in some way (without the need to verbalise that). Not booking an escort for 5 hours if he was single. He's got too many social & emotional skills, which make women fall for him. I'd put money on "this one is a big Casanova, his gorgeous wife, possibly, not well, busy with her kids, or expecting a little baby, (or possibly all three) is oblivious he's playing away with an escort". It's an honourable thing to do for men rather than having affairs. Men enjoy romance and love with someone else if his wife/GF etc is no longer "fresh" to him. Men love the thrill of the chase.
Hmm, I also agree that when many guys are available and like you they tend to move fast and ask you out. But since he is a client what is to say that he doesn't just respect boundaries or he isn't interested in the same way as the OP? Or what if he is shy, cautious, or not the clever mastermind we theorize?
I think sometimes we generalise and jump into conclusions. We know next to nothing about the OP and her client as people, or their interaction, lives, thoughts and feelings, other than very few lines given by the OP about her own feelings.
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Hmm, I also agree that when many guys are available and like you they tend to move fast and ask you out. But since he is a client what is to say that he doesn't just respect boundaries or he isn't interested in the same way as the OP? Or what if he is shy, cautious, or not the clever mastermind we theorize?
I think sometimes we generalise and jump into conclusions. We know next to nothing about the OP and her client as people, or their interaction, lives, thoughts and feelings, other than very few lines given by the OP about her own feelings.
But we've been in this business long enough (20 years) and know how men who pay for sex operate and why. A good looking single guy with lots of money can get women left and right if he wants and nowadays lots of free pussy if he goes on Tinder. The fact that he's paying makes me think he's unavalaible. Why he's unavailable I have no idea. He may be very busy with work, he may have a wife/girlfriend god knows. But he's definately paying for you to walk away after the 3 hour hot torrid sex. And that's why Im saying don't ask him out because you'll be loosing a) a lot of money b) some good sex.
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My experience is that men are all different, some will carry on seeing you without ever asking. I know because it happened to me with several clients. Only one ended up in a relationship with me.
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But we've been in this business long enough (20 years) and know how men who pay for sex operate and why. A good looking single guy with lots of money can get women left and right if he wants and nowadays lots of free pussy if he goes on Tinder. The fact that he's paying makes me think he's unavalaible. Why he's unavailable I have no idea. He may be very busy with work, he may have a wife/girlfriend god knows. But he's definately paying for you to walk away after the 3 hour hot torrid sex. And that's why Im saying don't ask him out because you'll be loosing a) a lot of money b) some good sex.
I see your point of view and agree for the most part, but consider that in general we are also not romantically available to clients and we don't do this looking for a date. But sometimes chemistry, feelings and fireworks beyond lust do happen and we change and may choose to become available. Similarly men may not be doing this looking for love or a date and may have all sorts of reasons but that is not to say that they may not be available or choose to become available. Mirror's (and I think VC's) stories are an example.
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I agree with treating carefully when falling for clients. If he really wanted to see you as potential girlfriend material he would have said so and made his intentions clear. I have made the mistake of falling for a client and I'm sorry if I sound like a hypocrite but I don't want to date a man who has the mentality of a punter.
I know it can be said that he couldn't deal with a woman with the experience and outlook on life that I/we have 🙈.
You are just starting out and I'm sure you are doing this to achieve something substantial. Don't get distracted and thrown off course. Have fun by all means but my advice would be to stay focused on you and your goals x
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I agree with treating carefully when falling for clients. If he really wanted to see you as potential girlfriend material he would have said so and made his intentions clear. I have made the mistake of falling for a client and I'm sorry if I sound like a hypocrite but I don't want to date a man who has the mentality of a punter.
I know it can be said that he couldn't deal with a woman with the experience and outlook on life that I/we have 🙈.
You are just starting out and I'm sure you are doing this to achieve something substantial. Don't get distracted and thrown off course. Have fun by all means but my advice would be to stay focused on you and your goals x
It is difficult to know that any civvy man that we will ever meet outside has never visited or visits escorts. And I think mentality is different for different individuals. Just because an apple may be rotten it doesn't mean that they all are. Someone could equally say 'I don't want to date a woman who has the mentality of a prostitute' - I would like to think that being a prostitute does not make me an unfaithful person, someone who will never commit or someone who doesn't have feelings or deserves respect.
Someone I cared about once hurt me, a lot, in the process of maintaining his beliefs and needs. Subconsciously, as a coping strategy I tried to hate him. In the end I couldn't. I could have then and there decided I will never care about him or anyone again. But in the end, keeping in touch with myself, and understanding and forgiving him brought me peace. And kept me open minded.
I don't know how else to put it but men in general are like food. I like food. If I go to a restaurant and ask for a dish and get served something unsatisfactory I won't say "I will never order this from any restaurant ever again!". Or even worse "I will never eat food again!". That said, I am a lot happier just now not being in love with anyone.
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I don't know how else to put it but men in general are like food. I like food. If I go to a restaurant and ask for a dish and get served something unsatisfactory I won't say "I will never order this from any restaurant ever again!". Or even worse "I will never eat food again!". That said, I am a lot happier just now not being in love with anyone.
I think this is very apt. Of course when you have a bad meal you are disappointed and may complain about it to others in your life for a couple of days, but then you forget it. When you give your heart to someone and they crush it, it hurts for a very long time. It's really scary to open yourself up to being hurt like that again. But if you don't, you end up living a safe but very closed life.
Having said all that, I am happier being single with a casual BF. I am very fond of my BF and I know he cares about me, but I'm realistic - he's married and has no intention of leaving his wife, and I don't want him to!
My son is now grown up - I'm not at an age where I feel the urge to nest with someone and produce more kids. I'm enjoying being free of all that now.
If you (OP or anyone else) want children in the future then I can see there are different drivers for that.
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I'm just giving a newbie my opinion. Yes, meeting men and forming and honest and loving relationship is hard enough. Some may find happiness with men who lie and cheat on their wives and/or girlfriends by seeing prostitues behind their backs. Would I be wrong to wonder if he would likely lie to me too?
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I have seen a client around 8 times now and I have totally fallen for him, he is around the same age as me and is the sweetest guy ever, we share many an interest and is amazing in bed spending time to make sure I enjoy myself rather than being about him. I would love to get to know him more, I know he is single how do I broach this one?
After hurt from a few clients I made a decision not to bother with them after all I'm greedy wanting him all to my self. Like my current bf adores me so much. We spoke about family invites over a Cavery for a later day. The guy will let you know he adores you without you asking him ever.
To me I think clients are not bf material I wish you luck though as the risk of a flop is extremly high.
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I'm just giving a newbie my opinion. Yes, meeting men and forming and honest and loving relationship is hard enough.
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Some may find happiness with men who lie and cheat on their wives and/or girlfriends by seeing prostitues behind their backs. Would I be wrong to wonder if he would likely lie to me too?
No it is not wrong, it is natural. Especially if you have done this once and got hurt. Perhaps even a defense mechanism.
But imo it is also not right either if we generalise, about anyone. It is also slightly conflicting because we are prostitutes and that's what we accommodate, so to judge people for visiting prostitutes is like judging ourselves. Everyone of us is different and unique. Clients are also different to each other and can have all sorts of different reasons for visiting prostitutes. Whether available or unavailable, some may like to be unfaithful and have sex with different people, some may just want to have sex and not want to go through the complications of a relationship or an affair, some may be lonely, some may look for a fleeting human intimacy, some may be doing this because they have difficulty to do it with someone else, some may be doing this as a transition from whatever else is going on in their lives, some may be resorting to this for reasons someone else would resort to alcohol. And the list goes on.
We are not static, so people's outlooks can also change in time. In high school we had a playboy who had slept with the whole school and yet to everyone's surprise ended up being a committed man when he found his 'one'.
VC said a lot better what I was trying to put across:
When you give your heart to someone and they crush it, it hurts for a very long time. It's really scary to open yourself up to being hurt like that again. But if you don't, you end up living a safe but very closed life.
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I think this is very apt. Of course when you have a bad meal you are disappointed and may complain about it to others in your life for a couple of days, but then you forget it. When you give your heart to someone and they crush it, it hurts for a very long time. It's really scary to open yourself up to being hurt like that again. But if you don't, you end up living a safe but very closed life.
Having said all that, I am happier being single with a casual BF. I am very fond of my BF and I know he cares about me, but I'm realistic - he's married and has no intention of leaving his wife, and I don't want him to!
My son is now grown up - I'm not at an age where I feel the urge to nest with someone and produce more kids. I'm enjoying being free of all that now.
If you (OP or anyone else) want children in the future then I can see there are different drivers for that.
Vc i had a relationship like that but i ended it soon feeling too much at risk for too little as what if his wife found out and try to harm me because of jealousy. Am i too paranoid ???
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Vc i had a relationship like that but i ended it soon feeling too much at risk for too little as what if his wife found out and try to harm me because of jealousy. Am i too paranoid ???
Well in my case the wife knows - they are swingers and both have multiple partners. If it was a supposed monogamous marriage I probably wouldn't want to be dealing with the potential drama and fallout.
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Well in my case the wife knows - they are swingers and both have multiple partners. If it was a supposed monogamous marriage I probably wouldn't want to be dealing with the potential drama and fallout.
Thats sounds fun. You are smart vc ;D :-*
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Thanks for the advise, my post has certainly caused an interesting debate, having thought about it I am going to see him in a paid role for the time being and maybe continue to drop hints and see where it goes, as a number of you have said he could be married etc...
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Thanks for the advise, my post has certainly caused an interesting debate, having thought about it I am going to see him in a paid role for the time being and maybe continue to drop hints and see where it goes, as a number of you have said he could be married etc...
Perhaps doing a bit of listening to him would help. That way you might find out more about him. Dropping hints may look kinda desperate. 😀
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Perhaps doing a bit of listening to him would help. That way you might find out more about him. Dropping hints may look kinda desperate. 😀
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hi all.
im new here but have joined as i have a bit of a dilema.
i think im falling for one of my few regular clients. hes good looking kind attentive and amazing in bed. i usually can put good sex down to just good sex but with him its just bliss. god i sound so stupid. im falling for him big time but he is married. im finding myself messaging him for sex insted of the other way round.
what the hell do i do??
suzie
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hi all.
im new here but have joined as i have a bit of a dilema.
i think im falling for one of my few regular clients. hes good looking kind attentive and amazing in bed. i usually can put good sex down to just good sex but with him its just bliss. god i sound so stupid. im falling for him big time but he is married. im finding myself messaging him for sex insted of the other way round.
what the hell do i do??
suzie
Stop it that's what you do and Def don't message him , he's married and pays you for sex he is relying on you not to fall for him it's your job and the fact he's married is more than likely the reason he sees and pays for an escort .
This is an old thread I know but I just spotted this.
I'm really not being mean but it's a fact and part of the job , you and him being on your best behaviour .
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Don't get involved with clients ever-they are never as nice as they appear. All men act nice at the beginning of a relationship anyway.
I notice all regulars eventually start playing games because they resent having to pay for it even though they seem lovely for the first 6 months or so...
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Lovely!! Just make sure he accepts what you do, some men do others dont
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I'm just giving a newbie my opinion. Yes, meeting men and forming and honest and loving relationship is hard enough. Some may find happiness with men who lie and cheat on their wives and/or girlfriends by seeing prostitues behind their backs. Would I be wrong to wonder if he would likely lie to me too?
I completely agree with you, it happened to me a few months ago with a client, a beautiful man, fantastic, I met him on a tour, 5 hours away from my house, after he returned to my house, he became infatuated with me, he wrote me every day and I conquer with his mind, his beautiful physicist, desid to rent me a flat for a week, he treated me like a king, he told me he was not married, but in reality he lived with his girlfriend and his son .... ..
for me it was a great pain to discover it ... I think that if they are not faithful to their wives / girlfriends, they will be less so with us, the sad thing is that, many times, after they conquer and are sure of your love towards they go away without saying anything and that hurts, an immense pain that has happened to more than one of us ..... In life I have learned to live the moment and enjoy the good moments to the maximum because sooner or later Tears come ... strength and hugs ... !!! Let's learn to be powerful women ... !!!
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I had previously commented on this thread back in Jan 17' under name Edith (must have changed my email address since)
Id forgotten id posted here on this thread and lol'ed at my own comments so I thought id give an update.
I am still in touch with him/the client id fell for, it has become a little long and complicated story, he ended up in prison (i know way too many red flags with this guy) nothing bad like violence or anything but I won't mention why. I'm still infatuated with him and I believe he is very intrigued and maybe infatuated with me too. We've kept in touch throughout his time inside and he recently told me he is officially single and that we should go on a date together when he's back. I really hope this is a lovely love story and I won't be back on this thread in tears lol.
I'm quite aware of the risks of me getting hurt still (but probably go ahead anyway) and his behaviour probably wouldn't be any different with me like with his previous partners but if we did get together I'm wondering if it could work as we both have high sex drives and knowledge and understanding about each other's needs/desires. I get the impression his previous GF wasn't completely aware of his promiscuous ways and to the extent, but I'm very aware, of course ive seen the other side the side he has once hidden from a partner?
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I have been asked on dates and to get married a few times.
A couple of weeks ago a regular client - although he is nearly 40 years older then me we get on well - asked me to marry him. I told him I was very flattered but I am far to young to marry but for some strange and bizarre reason I find myself tempted by the offer!
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well I can give a positive spin on this one although it took many years. I fell for a client 15 years ago and in a massive way, this guy was married and I was in a very long term relationship with someone who I stayed with due to fear. We had an affair for two years until the enevitable happened (my partner found out) this guy stood on for me like nothing I ever dare thought possible (he left his wife for me on the spot), I sadly went home to collect my child and personal belongings so I could be with him and what ensued ment that I wasn’t able to leave therefore after two years I lost the man of my dreams. Fast forward to this year (a whole 13 years later) I found myself in a position of being widowed (I married my long term partner 3 days before he died as although the reasons some wouldn’t understand, it was all he ever wanted and I felt that although I wasn’t happy it was my parting gift to him). Some weeks later I sent a very drunken txt to the guy I have always loved (not dreaming he would have the same number after 13 years so in effect thought I was sending it for my own closure as such) in which I said who I was and that I was so sorry I’d wrecked his life and that I hoped he had been able to rebuild his life. I got the biggest shock of my life when he did indeed reply and that he was still single (although had had relationships in between). The final outcome in this is that we are now together although taking it steady as we have all the time in the world but I can quite honestly say I’m blissfully happy and for the first time in my life say I’ve never ever experienced love like this and he is all I have ever and do ever want 😍
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well I can give a positive spin on this one although it took many years. I fell for a client 15 years ago and in a massive way, this guy was married and I was in a very long term relationship with someone who I stayed with due to fear. We had an affair for two years until the enevitable happened (my partner found out) this guy stood on for me like nothing I ever dare thought possible (he left his wife for me on the spot), I sadly went home to collect my child and personal belongings so I could be with him and what ensued ment that I wasn’t able to leave therefore after two years I lost the man of my dreams. Fast forward to this year (a whole 13 years later) I found myself in a position of being widowed (I married my long term partner 3 days before he died as although the reasons some wouldn’t understand, it was all he ever wanted and I felt that although I wasn’t happy it was my parting gift to him). Some weeks later I sent a very drunken txt to the guy I have always loved (not dreaming he would have the same number after 13 years so in effect thought I was sending it for my own closure as such) in which I said who I was and that I was so sorry I’d wrecked his life and that I hoped he had been able to rebuild his life. I got the biggest shock of my life when he did indeed reply and that he was still single (although had had relationships in between). The final outcome in this is that we are now together although taking it steady as we have all the time in the world but I can quite honestly say I’m blissfully happy and for the first time in my life say I’ve never ever experienced love like this and he is all I have ever and do ever want 😍
So good to read this. :) Love won! ;D
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Of my own experience, I don't think where or how you meet people necessarily dictates how any relationship will develop or the level of treatment you are likely to see. If the guy's an asshole, he's going to be an asshole anyway.
I recently met a first time client (first to me and first for him in general) who I fell for, hard. We dated for a while but he has a lot of issues with his previous relationship and child which means we can't continue. It wasn't because of my job and it wasn't because of our dynamics. If he didn't have this mess then I have no doubt we'd be going hard and strong indefinitely - it was like meeting my soulmate, if you believe in that. If I had met him out of work scenario, the outcome would likely have been the same. So yes, it can work, in the same way it can work if you meet someone in any other situation.
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I have been asked on dates and to get married a few times.
A couple of weeks ago a regular client - although he is nearly 40 years older then me we get on well - asked me to marry him. I told him I was very flattered but I am far to young to marry but for some strange and bizarre reason I find myself tempted by the offer!
What was the engagement ring like that he proposed with? Lol
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What was the engagement ring like that he proposed with? Lol
LOL Surprisingly he did not have one!
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Hi everyone.
I was just wondering if you know of anybody who has met a client and has had a successful relationship develop from it (outside escort/client setting)?
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Don't take this as my having a go, but I really don't think you should be considering this.
There is at least one thread on relationships with clients...
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Please don’t even consider it —bad idea. I’ve seen too many situations -girls go into relationships with clients and coming out far worse than before.
Unless you are planning a sugar daddy arrangement even at tht make sure you state your terms clearly.
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i dated a client for 3 years didnt work out but we are still good mates.
worked for me .....
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I dated a client (he would never call himself a client though as he claims he only ever met me that one time), he had broken up with his ex 3/4 months prior. We spoke to each other every day, he knew that me breaking this boundary was a big deal for me, he got back together with his ex and dumped me over a text - I was left utterly humiliated, took weeks to get over it and I'll never make that mistake again.
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I am sure it does and has and will work out well for a small minority, but from any I know who have tried this, it hasn't worked out too well.
There will always be a nagging doubts; is he just using me for a freebie? Does he just seem as a cheap whore? Is he really okay with me doing this? Will he ask me to stop at some point? Will he still be seeing other escorts? Am I just some notch on his punter belt? Is he with me "because" I am escort? It would mess my head up too much.
I have met people, that if we had met in different circumstances, I could definitely see me falling for or being very compatible with. But we didn't meet "normally". So just couldn't stop the nagging doubts myself. I would rather just not blur those lines and from hearing some horror stories in the past few years about how guys can "use" this job against ladies when relationships end - I am glad I don't.
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I dated a client. We weren't at all compatible as a couple, whilst we got on really well sometimes, the rest of the time we just kept falling out and arguing and just didn't seem to be right for each other. So we broke up and now we're really good friends. We get on miles better as friends than we did trying to make it anything more than that!
I can't say it would happen again I don't think. I'm not against it but I've never had a meet that was anything remotely like mine we were with him and I don't believe it would ever happen again with anyone.
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Yes, I ended up living together and marrying him.
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I met my ex boyfriend like that. First we were just meeting up with no strings attached and then we became a couple. We were together almost 3 years. Broke up but on good terms and we are still keeping contact.
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Yes it can work. It’s been five years and although it’s no easy it’s working
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We were together for 5 years, had 2 children. I stopped for him as soon as I met him and I was accused of cheating constantly. He treated me like a sex doll and made underhand comments about how promiscuous he thought I 'should' be all the time.
I ended up in 3 womens refuges due to his controlling and manipulative behaviour, and am now a single mum.
For the first 2 years, he thought he was my "saviour" but ended up my worst nightmare.
Obviously not all clients are like that, but they put on as much of an acting show as we do, and we don't know what they are really like because they came to us for one thing and one thing only.
Somewhere down the line, whether its a month or 8 years down the line, they'll show their true colours.
Imho, don't mix business with pleasure.
P.S Im probably just cynical because I had such a negative experience.
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I have dated, and am currently dating a client.
In the past it has been because they were supporting me at a tough time, or because the connection was there.
1 is still a friend, though rarely in touch, and I could never see him as a client again.
1 got a bit stalkerish and I had to tell him where to go.
1 was a narcissistic lying **** who I believed entirely and he destroyed my mind.
But, I'm an eternal optimist and romantic so I'll try again. It's also hard if you don't go places to meet guys - ,I'm too old for clubbing and Tinder pisses me off
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Dating a client just means you lose a decent regular client!
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Yes :) to all of these!!! I appreciate the responses:) yeah, more I think about it, you got to wonder why any guy in the right mind would want to pursue a relationship with an escort? I find that slightly odd.... wouldn't they want a normal relationship? But yeah. I just really can't believe the mindset of some men.
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A paying man is always a paying man.
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I am pretty sure that not any decent guys would go along with it. End of story. I have seen an escort leaving the job for a client who became her boyfriend. She started to work in a pound shop 10 hours a day, got very little money. Naturally the guy kept on seeing escorts despite of her sacrifice.
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I am pretty sure that not any decent guys would go along with it. End of story.
Thats pretty judgementle.
Me and my ex who was a client lasted 3 years and are still great mates, he was happy for me to carry on working, we had a great 3 years and parted on good terms.
yes i expect the majority of these kind of relationships will fail but not all, same as civy life.
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you got to wonder why any guy in the right mind would want to pursue a relationship with an escort? I find that slightly odd.... wouldn't they want a normal relationship?
Well just because you (and apparently others) believe that sex workers are not 'normal' or capable of 'normal relationships' (whatever those might be) and that purely because of a job we do a few hours of the week we somehow become such disgusting, undesirable lepers that anyone who sees us as individual entities with our own individual personalities and characteristics that aren't defined by or anything to do with our job must literally be 'not in his right mind', doesn't mean that everybody else thinks the same way. Thankfully, some people have more sense.
I am pretty sure that not any decent guys would go along with it.
So you've decided this on behalf of all punters, based on a sample size of one. I'm genuinely glad I don't have such crap customers as people here seem to - if my opinion of punters was this low, I'd have long since gone back to stacking shelves.
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spot on amy .
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Well, yes I might have sounded judgmental. She is my best friend and it was hard for me to see how much she suffered. Of course it was not all bad, there were also good things in the relationship. Personally I don't have bad opinion about punters, as I don't even know them. Sometimes couples who are married for years still don't know each other. Simply I don't look at clients as possible boyfriend options. :)
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I'm seeing one now. The sex is great. He's kick started my libido after years of it having been naff, and he's made me absolutely love sex again because it's now in a personal setting and not work which has made a huge difference. Just early days right now and so I can't profess to know what will happen but if nothing else it's what I've needed for a long time and proves I can still get wet and excited with the right guy! And for once I'm the one getting all the attention rather than me just focused on getting the guy off.
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There is a guy who comes to see me for overnights once a month —he told me recently he got into a relationship with an escort he showed me pics they took together on holiday and her profile ..I asked him if she’s aware he still sees other escorts, he replied No she doesn’t...he claimed or thinks she’s falling in love him.
I didn’t want to press further as it’s none of my business
Smh...
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Obviously not all clients are like that, but they put on as much of an acting show as we do, and we don't know what they are really like because they came to us for one thing and one thing only.
Somewhere down the line, whether its a month or 8 years down the line, they'll show their true colours.
I have to say that this isn't just punters who "show their true colours down the line". It happens in 'everyday' life with men who have never seen SW's before. Also this works for both genders, women also "show true colours".
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I have to say that this isn't just punters who "show their true colours down the line". It happens in 'everyday' life with men who have never seen SW's before. Also this works for both genders, women also "show true colours".
Yes of course. I was being specific to punters as thats what the post was aimed at. :)
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These situations occasionally happen but they are exceedingly rare. As to whether they work out or not it will depend on other reasons and not just solely because of the escort's job.
There is no guarantee a relationship will work out even between two civvie individuals.
Even with a non client sooner or later the client may get fed up with it and unless the escort is prepared to give up her job it is quite likely that it won't work out in the long run.
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So you're not a sex worker then?
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For ladies, who found love, enjoy the fruits of your love so long as your energy level is high enough to maintain and enjoy it.
For others, enjoy whatever you enjoy doing e.g. hobbies, sw, parenting, DIY, any other pursuits you love participating in.
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For ladies, who found love, enjoy the fruits of your love so long as your energy level is high enough to maintain and enjoy it.
For others, enjoy whatever you enjoy doing e.g. hobbies, sw, parenting, DIY, any other pursuits you love participating in.
Or maybe chuck a few commas in there and just hope for the best?
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Is like they can say a Escort is always a Escort. Is not like that, first of all we are all humans.
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Is like they can say a Escort is always a Escort. Is not like that, first of all we are all humans.
Ugh, humans. They're all the same.
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I have developed good friendships with clients over the years but they understand boundaries and are still paying clients.
I would not recommend having intimate relationships with clients (ie non paying meet ups)
but each to your own.
Am sure there are happy relationships that progress and end well, but many that do not end well.
We make our choices in life and learn from it, whether good or bad.
A good punter, will always expect to pay for our services.
I would however say, I have been tempted with the super nice gorgeous guys but I really value my independence and am content with that! :)
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When I first started escorting I met a guy who became a good friend we didn't have any relationship. There was no physical attraction for me whatsoever but he was a great guy. He after 4years wanted to sleep with me and pay the trouble was I didn't feel comfortable with him like that again. The Sex was dreadful on the 3 booking he did visit I just laughed it off as a joke .. I never heard from him it's been almost a year now
Guess he was disappointed by me.
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Hi everyone
I have been escorting for a few years now, but made the mistake of falling in love with a client a year ago. I work alone, don't have many friends and am deeply upset, I don't have anyone to talk to so I wanted to put a post on here. I just need to get my feelings out.
A year ago I met a client, X. He visited me at my flat, and immediately we had a connection. He was very good looking, in his mid 50s, a big property player in London and a gentleman. He bought me a book with a letter (I love books), and the next few visits he would buy me a book each with a hand written letter.
He was incredibly rich and upper class- I am working class and trying my best :) He took me out to dinner the 4th time - It was the first time a client had ever taken me out to a restaurant. I was overawed and denied falling for him.
Anyway, he told me he loved me. He is married but has seen many sex workers so I can't deny responsibility on my part. So I told him that I wanted to see him, but didn't want to be paid. We had a long talk and agreed that we were in a relationship. He told me about abuse he suffered as a child in boarding school, I told him about my past, we could talk about anything despite our difference in background. We went to private member clubs, michellin star resteraunts and he made me feel like the bee's knees.
He then said he wanted my baby. I am in my late 30s, never had kids or been married. My father had just nearly died of cancer and I was in a vulnerable state. He told me on numerous occasions he wanted to have my baby, that he would look after me and I fell for it hook line and sinker.
He would occasionally give me money (at that time I was struggling financially) but it felt like I had to ask with a begging bowl, despite him being worth millions. I think he liked watching me struggle. He started making fun of my regional accent and would comment if I hadn't had many clients. It was a constant push and pull.
But I still loved him. This went on for nearly a year. One minute he would tell me he needed me then he would ignore my messages for days. He then ended it, saying that everything he told me he didn't mean and he got carried away. He completely used and manipulated me. He knew that I was vulnerable. He then sent me screenshot of a social media post that read
"She was broken, not completely but he saw her weakness. He saw her need to feel whole again and used it, slid into her heart with his lies. Built her up then let her down. You see he saw her broken but he wanted her shattered. Now she's left to piece herself back together "
He also said that he 'sought me out', like he had planned everything from the start. I'm very depressed, and I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the long post, but it's really fucked me up and I feel more vulnerable than ever. Has anyone else fallen in love with a client?
Pinky x
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Pinky - what that man did to you is utterly vile!
What a complete and utter narcissist!
It's scrotes like that which make my blood boil. Sending you a great big hug :-*
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Hi everyone
I have been escorting for a few years now, but made the mistake of falling in love with a client a year ago. I work alone, don't have many friends and am deeply upset, I don't have anyone to talk to so I wanted to put a post on here. I just need to get my feelings out.
A year ago I met a client, X. He visited me at my flat, and immediately we had a connection. He was very good looking, in his mid 50s, a big property player in London and a gentleman. He bought me a book with a letter (I love books), and the next few visits he would buy me a book each with a hand written letter.
He was incredibly rich and upper class- I am working class and trying my best :) He took me out to dinner the 4th time - It was the first time a client had ever taken me out to a restaurant. I was overawed and denied falling for him.
Anyway, he told me he loved me. He is married but has seen many sex workers so I can't deny responsibility on my part. So I told him that I wanted to see him, but didn't want to be paid. We had a long talk and agreed that we were in a relationship. He told me about abuse he suffered as a child in boarding school, I told him about my past, we could talk about anything despite our difference in background. We went to private member clubs, michellin star resteraunts and he made me feel like the bee's knees.
He then said he wanted my baby. I am in my late 30s, never had kids or been married. My father had just nearly died of cancer and I was in a vulnerable state. He told me on numerous occasions he wanted to have my baby, that he would look after me and I fell for it hook line and sinker.
He would occasionally give me money (at that time I was struggling financially) but it felt like I had to ask with a begging bowl, despite him being worth millions. I think he liked watching me struggle. He started making fun of my regional accent and would comment if I hadn't had many clients. It was a constant push and pull.
But I still loved him. This went on for nearly a year. One minute he would tell me he needed me then he would ignore my messages for days. He then ended it, saying that everything he told me he didn't mean and he got carried away. He completely used and manipulated me. He knew that I was vulnerable. He then sent me screenshot of a social media post that read
"She was broken, not completely but he saw her weakness. He saw her need to feel whole again and used it, slid into her heart with his lies. Built her up then let her down. You see he saw her broken but he wanted her shattered. Now she's left to piece herself back together "
He also said that he 'sought me out', like he had planned everything from the start. I'm very depressed, and I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the long post, but it's really fucked me up and I feel more vulnerable than ever. Has anyone else fallen in love with a client?
Pinky x
What a nasty piece of shit! The man is vile... I personally would write him a poem back and call it 'when I tell your wife''
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Hi everyone
I have been escorting for a few years now, but made the mistake of falling in love with a client a year ago. I work alone, don't have many friends and am deeply upset, I don't have anyone to talk to so I wanted to put a post on here. I just need to get my feelings out.
A year ago I met a client, X. He visited me at my flat, and immediately we had a connection. He was very good looking, in his mid 50s, a big property player in London and a gentleman. He bought me a book with a letter (I love books), and the next few visits he would buy me a book each with a hand written letter.
He was incredibly rich and upper class- I am working class and trying my best :) He took me out to dinner the 4th time - It was the first time a client had ever taken me out to a restaurant. I was overawed and denied falling for him.
Anyway, he told me he loved me. He is married but has seen many sex workers so I can't deny responsibility on my part. So I told him that I wanted to see him, but didn't want to be paid. We had a long talk and agreed that we were in a relationship. He told me about abuse he suffered as a child in boarding school, I told him about my past, we could talk about anything despite our difference in background. We went to private member clubs, michellin star resteraunts and he made me feel like the bee's knees.
He then said he wanted my baby. I am in my late 30s, never had kids or been married. My father had just nearly died of cancer and I was in a vulnerable state. He told me on numerous occasions he wanted to have my baby, that he would look after me and I fell for it hook line and sinker.
He would occasionally give me money (at that time I was struggling financially) but it felt like I had to ask with a begging bowl, despite him being worth millions. I think he liked watching me struggle. He started making fun of my regional accent and would comment if I hadn't had many clients. It was a constant push and pull.
But I still loved him. This went on for nearly a year. One minute he would tell me he needed me then he would ignore my messages for days. He then ended it, saying that everything he told me he didn't mean and he got carried away. He completely used and manipulated me. He knew that I was vulnerable. He then sent me screenshot of a social media post that read
"She was broken, not completely but he saw her weakness. He saw her need to feel whole again and used it, slid into her heart with his lies. Built her up then let her down. You see he saw her broken but he wanted her shattered. Now she's left to piece herself back together "
He also said that he 'sought me out', like he had planned everything from the start. I'm very depressed, and I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the long post, but it's really fucked me up and I feel more vulnerable than ever. Has anyone else fallen in love with a client?
Pinky x
Hiya Pinkie and sorry that this happened to you, it sounds quite painful. On the brighter side you should be celebrating the fact you got to rid of this vile piece of shyte. Life will only get better after this awful experience, I would send him a screen shot from your social media in the lines of: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Putting my pieces back together and looking forward to all the good things awaiting for me around the corner. Advice to women out there: Never date a broken man, nothing good will come out of that. I only have gratitude to express for the lesson learnt today. "
Then block his ass.
Now repeat this like a mantra: Never ever ever stop charging a client (did I say never ever?). If he wants to take you to 5 star michelin restaurants that's fine, but charge him for your social time. Once he gets bored of you (and at some point they usually do) you will be 5000 pound richer. The break up will be less painful. Problem is that you gave him the priviledge of turning him into a real life boyfriend, then he lost all respect for you because you were giving him the goods for free when he clearly knew he didn't deserve them. He sounds like a total psycho by the way (getting his kicks from the fact he hurted you so bad, woa!).
Congratulations on getting rid of this dick.
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Hi everyone
I have been escorting for a few years now, but made the mistake of falling in love with a client a year ago. I work alone, don't have many friends and am deeply upset, I don't have anyone to talk to so I wanted to put a post on here. I just need to get my feelings out.
A year ago I met a client, X. He visited me at my flat, and immediately we had a connection. He was very good looking, in his mid 50s, a big property player in London and a gentleman. He bought me a book with a letter (I love books), and the next few visits he would buy me a book each with a hand written letter.
He was incredibly rich and upper class- I am working class and trying my best :) He took me out to dinner the 4th time - It was the first time a client had ever taken me out to a restaurant. I was overawed and denied falling for him.
Anyway, he told me he loved me. He is married but has seen many sex workers so I can't deny responsibility on my part. So I told him that I wanted to see him, but didn't want to be paid. We had a long talk and agreed that we were in a relationship. He told me about abuse he suffered as a child in boarding school, I told him about my past, we could talk about anything despite our difference in background. We went to private member clubs, michellin star resteraunts and he made me feel like the bee's knees.
He then said he wanted my baby. I am in my late 30s, never had kids or been married. My father had just nearly died of cancer and I was in a vulnerable state. He told me on numerous occasions he wanted to have my baby, that he would look after me and I fell for it hook line and sinker.
He would occasionally give me money (at that time I was struggling financially) but it felt like I had to ask with a begging bowl, despite him being worth millions. I think he liked watching me struggle. He started making fun of my regional accent and would comment if I hadn't had many clients. It was a constant push and pull.
But I still loved him. This went on for nearly a year. One minute he would tell me he needed me then he would ignore my messages for days. He then ended it, saying that everything he told me he didn't mean and he got carried away. He completely used and manipulated me. He knew that I was vulnerable. He then sent me screenshot of a social media post that read
"She was broken, not completely but he saw her weakness. He saw her need to feel whole again and used it, slid into her heart with his lies. Built her up then let her down. You see he saw her broken but he wanted her shattered. Now she's left to piece herself back together "
He also said that he 'sought me out', like he had planned everything from the start. I'm very depressed, and I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the long post, but it's really fucked me up and I feel more vulnerable than ever. Has anyone else fallen in love with a client?
Pinky x
Wow. What a crazy story.
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have been in somewhat similar situations. Being single and lonely, for sure, it adds and when some guy walks in like that it's kind of hard to not let it get the best of you.
When I first started escorting, I had a bit of a similar relationship. The guy was in his 40s, some trader, married (but tells me his marriage was the worst mistake of his life yeah, right). After seeing him for about a year and a half, it ended badly and it was even worse because I financially depended on him (or is that worse hmm..) I can relate.
Right now, i am seeing someone. He started seeing me in November and I've posted about him, we "got along" and of course we had crazy sex. I bet that he is also trying to manipulate me. We have talked about having kids or at least I have and i have pretty much confessed my undying love to him, and he doesn't say too much but he will drop hints saying that I would be a good mom. We have sex for free but yeah last time I saw him I paid for a ticket to visit him in California. I haven't seen him much since but I feel that we are slowly getting to know each other and that it's going to keep "getting better and better" LOL.
I want to thank you, I am devastated that this happened but it makes me realize how pathetic I really am LOL. The worst is that yeah because of these types of guys you change your behaviour so for example at least for me, I don't really talk to anyone in my classes or friends, I'm always kind of waiting for him. I ended up telling my mom that I went to California and I told her that I was visiting him (he is a doctor). I told her that, she was kind of concerned like "won't you get hurt"? But, I guess right now, I'm (disgustingly) ok with it? I mean, obviously I'm sure it's one day going to crash and burn and I'm probably going to have many regrets.
It's sad, and unless I'm crazy (which I already know that I am lol) but I just find in this industry like, how, can you have a boyfriend. But it's also very strange, because I'm seeing him I'm extremely cautious making sure condoms are being used properly, no condoms breaking, etc. And I wasn't like that when I was just by myself. Also, of course I confessed and I told him that I love him and want to quit escorting, and so it's almost like he's become some sort of motivation for me to do it. Maybe I'm just crazy, but anyway, it's all going to hit me in the face. Think I'm better off being single.
I don't get why guys do this! "Manipulate the whore then cut her off"?? (Not you but it seems in general many men love getting a kick out of it. It strokes their ego which is really sick). He made you think he really liked you! Fuck. People need to hear more of these stories to understand what we really go through.
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Love this
Life will only get better after this awful experience, I would send him a screen shot from your social media in the lines of: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Putting my pieces back together and looking forward to all the good things awaiting for me around the corner. Advice to women out there: Never date a broken man, nothing good will come out of that. I only have gratitude to express for the lesson learnt today. "
I also love this...
Now repeat this like a mantra: Never ever ever stop charging a client (did I say never ever?). If he wants to take you to 5 star michelin restaurants that's fine, but charge him for your social time. Once he gets bored of you (and at some point they usually do) you will be 5000 pound richer. "Break up" will be less painful. Problem with this guy is that you gave him the huge priviledge of turning him into a real life boyfriend, then he lost all respect for you because you were giving him the goods for free when he clearly knew he didn't deserve it. He sounds like a total psycho by the way (getting his kicks from the fact he hurted you so bad, woa!).
Congratulations on getting rid of this dick.
Pinky, here’s some solidarity.x
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Yeah! Do you have his personal information? Sounds terrible, but a man like that deserves to be thrown into the spotlight. If there is a way so he can maybe get a divorce. But this, this is just, not cool. Did he offer to give you money?
I can't imagine how many girls he must have already done this to!
He needs to be stopped.
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Hiya,
Does he always pay you when you meet up? x
Good question Client always paying when meeting you?
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Yeah! Do you have his personal information? Sounds terrible, but a man like that deserves to be thrown into the spotlight. If there is a way so he can maybe get a divorce. But this, this is just, not cool. Did he offer to give you money?
I can't imagine how many girls he must have already done this to!
He needs to be stopped.
I agree with you, I'm sure he's doing this with other sex workers. There should be a warning for this man un the warnings section. He's a danger for other escorts.
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I used to get involved with clients until it went wrong a few times.
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Thank you so much for all your positive responses, all your comments. You're right, he is a piece of shit and psychologically messed up in the head.
He is a very powerful man in London, he knows very powerful people including cabinet ministers and ex prime ministers. This isn't bullshit - he really does.
He told me that an ex had blackmailed him to extort money and he hired a private investigator to spy on her. This ex, he told me was an travel agent but I suspect she was also an escort. Long story short - he had an affair with her for tears, she left her husband and house for him and then he dumped her. She was blackmailing him for hundreds of thousands of pounds for in her words 'compensation'. Which is wrong BUT she gave up everything for him. His wife knows about his cheating but not to the extreme details.
Another problem is that I'm very submissive in my personal life, I used to have a few sir's outside of escorting so it's even more of a mind game for me.
Ana30- I know I was an idiot and I've learnt my lesson (albeit the hard way) but I'm really struggling to block his number. I haven't contacted him and don't intend to. Here the kicker - he gas very bad depression and has alluded to suicide on more than one occasion. When I last saw him I jokingly asked, like in a job interview 'where do you see yourself in 5 years time' - he said six feet under. I am NOT going to fall for this but in the back of my head I keep thinking what if he needs to call me to talk. I'm sorry, I know I'm pathetic and it's all bullshit but I worry about him. Fuck.
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Pinky - what that man did to you is utterly vile!
What a complete and utter narcissist!
It's scrotes like that which make my blood boil. Sending you a great big hug :-*
Sending you hugs and kisses back xxx
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I really don't think he's suicidal AT ALL. It's just another one of his sick games. And after what he's done to you why should you care if it's true (which it most certainly isn't) :)
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I'm sorry, I know I'm pathetic and it's all bullshit but I worry about him. Fuck.
And why do you care about someone who gives a toss about you? The guy is a narcisistic who only cares about himself. The suicide claim is another attempt of keeping you "hangin". If this man cared for you he would do the decent thing which is: let you go, but it's all about him so he's obviously not going to do that. You may (as you say) have a submissive side, and there's nothing wrong with that when done in a safe environment and boundaries are established, but unfortunately this is not your case. He's going to carry you along to those six feet under where he plans to be in five years if you let him, and he obviously can't care less about it because he's a narcisist, and "it's all about him". Your mental health is at stake here. Save yourself a few thousand pounds in therapy and block this dude asap.
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Thank you so much for all your positive responses, all your comments. You're right, he is a piece of shit and psychologically messed up in the head.
He is a very powerful man in London, he knows very powerful people including cabinet ministers and ex prime ministers. This isn't bullshit - he really does.
He told me that an ex had blackmailed him to extort money and he hired a private investigator to spy on her. This ex, he told me was an travel agent but I suspect she was also an escort. Long story short - he had an affair with her for tears, she left her husband and house for him and then he dumped her. She was blackmailing him for hundreds of thousands of pounds for in her words 'compensation'. Which is wrong BUT she gave up everything for him. His wife knows about his cheating but not to the extreme details.
Another problem is that I'm very submissive in my personal life, I used to have a few sir's outside of escorting so it's even more of a mind game for me.
Ana30- I know I was an idiot and I've learnt my lesson (albeit the hard way) but I'm really struggling to block his number. I haven't contacted him and don't intend to. Here the kicker - he gas very bad depression and has alluded to suicide on more than one occasion. When I last saw him I jokingly asked, like in a job interview 'where do you see yourself in 5 years time' - he said six feet under. I am NOT going to fall for this but in the back of my head I keep thinking what if he needs to call me to talk. I'm sorry, I know I'm pathetic and it's all bullshit but I worry about him. Fuck.
When you mean sir's, as in, you used to have previous relationships of guys that you met outside of escorting?
I found this link:
http://www.beginnerescortguide.com/how-to-get-escort-discounts/
I could see if he was seeking out escorts because of lack of sex or "passion" in his marriage, but the fact that he "sought you out" is just SO messed up. Hearing stories like this, or even being involved in similar situations, it just really makes you question the integrity of a man. "But not all men are like that" I mean, how can you be so sure? Also, when they come in and you guys really think you have a good thing going on, but if you were to say no and keep it all business I mean, then, there is always that "what if" pounding at the back of your head. And if you end up saying no, will he keep coming back and be really needy, only making emotions and matters worse? Escorting is so hard! It all is such a mind game.
I agree with Ana30, and I think that you need to cut him off! Of course though, I can understand, this part also becomes a bit of a process. It takes me a while but I'm messed and I have attachment issues lol which makes it hurt even worse! And I hate the whole escorting thing like just how they like know your number, and they can reach out. I mean, no, motherfucker, don't talk to me hahahahahaha. But, in all seriousness, I hope you're doing okay, hang in there, it will get better! Time will go by and before you know it will become something that has faded. The worst part though is that for some reason guys know when this happens, and then that's when they start messaging you all over again!
I don't want to think that all men are like this but geez, it would be so nice to not have to deal with that type of stuff. To have more independence, without having to rely on a man. The gender pay gap is a real thing! So there is that.
"He found her broken but he wanted her shattered." - Like, that's fucking so messed up! Who goes around with the intention to mess with other people's feelings like that, and think that there is no consequences? It's always the "good guys" like him too. Must be nice to be so high and mighty.
I guess if I were his wife I wouldn't mind. At least she's got it good because she gets half the assets lol!!
Men make way more money than we do! Anyway, I know every situation is so unique, but, damn, it's hard not to let certain situations make you a bitter person. I feel it's these types of situations that keep us in escorting, and then, the cycle continues.
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Thank you jellib33 and Ana30
I've deleted all his messages and will delete his number tomorrow. Escorting IS hard, especially when trying to forn new relationships because you don't know who you can trust. Either the man wants your money, or as a barbie doll o on your arm. Fuck them, we're here to make money, wear nice shoes and shove our independence in their faces :)
Thank you for all your help, I'm sending you kisses and bear hugs and high fives! xxx
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Thank you for all your help, I'm sending you kisses and bear hugs and high fives! xxx
good for you! Keep yourself happy end get rid of the people who make you feel miserable because life is too short ;D