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TheNamelessGhuleh

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Facebook Friend Requests
« on: 23 November 2024, 11:42:01 pm »
Hi All!

This is my first post, so I apologise if I miss any positing etiquette.

I have a separate number for my SW (OF, AW, VS, WhatsApp) which is not linked to ANY social media except my work Instagram page. This IG page is not linked to a Facebook account.

I am extremely cautious with exposing my real name. I have long(ish) term clients who I see almost daily who STILL don't know my name, and even other porn stars I have worked with do not know. I have no punter site reports at all, so no risk of my name being leaked there.

My personal Facebook uses my real name and has location and contacts turned off (it is linked to my PERSONAL mobile number). Over the past 2 weeks, I have had 2 ex clients who I have had to block add and message me on Facebook. One is a local, one is from over an hour away from an old tour. HOW HAVE THEY FOUND ME? We don't have ANY mutual friends/pages/groups at all. Both said I came up in their "people you may know" and they recognised my face.

I have obviously blocked both after figuring out who they are, but not before ripping them a new one about invasion of privacy etc etc. Also updated their CE profiles for other SP's.

Does anyone have any clue how this can be prevented?
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One More Rodeo

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #1 on: 24 November 2024, 10:00:03 am »
I'm not on Facebook, so not sure but I think that Meta could potentially connect your and client's accounts just by physical proximity.
I'm not sure, but if your personal phone (with personal Facebook) is on during the booking, it could kind of connect with the client's phone?
Or maybe by logging in from the same IP to personal Facebook and work Instagram connects the two?
Facial recognition maybe??

That's from Chat GPT: "Facebook sometimes uses location data to suggest connections. Even if you have location services turned off, their app might still pick up occasional location pings."

Maybe removing your face photo from Facebook would at least prevent clients from recognising you?
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Lushblossom

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #2 on: 24 November 2024, 10:30:45 am »
You can amend the settings to not allow the public to add you as a friend.
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BBW Jayda

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #3 on: 24 November 2024, 02:10:20 pm »
Are you showing ur face on ur profile and pictures?
If yes, then they use those new phones with AI facial recognition software to find ur Facebook, they just circle ur face and all ur linked pages show up.
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Hazzard

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #4 on: 24 November 2024, 04:58:40 pm »
Sometimes it gives friends suggestions of people in close proximity. So u may have come up as a friend suggestion. Best way is to private your Facebook and remove ur face pic as a profile pic so even if you do come up as a friend suggestion they won't know who it is. Logging into the same wifi will do same. I never log into hotel wifi or clients home wifi for those reasons.
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RB1

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #5 on: 24 November 2024, 11:52:11 pm »
Quote from: One More Rodeo on 24 November 2024, 10:00:03 am
I'm not on Facebook, so not sure but I think that Meta could potentially connect your and client's accounts just by physical proximity.
I'm not sure, but if your personal phone (with personal Facebook) is on during the booking, it could kind of connect with the client's phone?
Or maybe by logging in from the same IP to personal Facebook and work Instagram connects the two?
Facial recognition maybe??

That's from Chat GPT: "Facebook sometimes uses location data to suggest connections. Even if you have location services turned off, their app might still pick up occasional location pings."

Maybe removing your face photo from Facebook would at least prevent clients from recognising you?

Yes i think it works by using bluetooth / location proximity
Maybe OP switch off Bluetooth / location

But for FB I would put up a pic of a  flower or something bland
Change your settings so that no one can see you - apart from friends (if you want )
Maybe change your user name slightly
Set so no one can add you
Don’t allow friends of friends to see your FB

Don’t allow friends to tag you
Don’t sport allow searches by mobile numbrr
Go to setting and reset all your private settings to the highest
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Mirror

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #6 on: 25 November 2024, 06:51:18 am »
Quote from: TheNamelessGhuleh on 23 November 2024, 11:42:01 pm
Hi All!

This is my first post, so I apologise if I miss any positing etiquette.

I have a separate number for my SW (OF, AW, VS, WhatsApp) which is not linked to ANY social media except my work Instagram page. This IG page is not linked to a Facebook account [...]


Do you have your sex work emails pushed to your personal phone?


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« Last Edit: 25 November 2024, 07:39:32 am by SAAFE »
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TheNamelessGhuleh

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #7 on: 30 November 2024, 08:29:42 pm »
Hi all!

Thank you for all your replies!

It must just be physical proximity!!

That is so sneaky of Meta to be able to do that despite location services being off  :-\
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Ella_Fitness

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #8 on: 08 December 2024, 03:52:56 pm »
Someone posted my instagram on that punting website.. I would make all social media private and don't log in or speak to any friends/family on the work phone.
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Mirror

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #9 on: 08 December 2024, 04:17:32 pm »
I've had clients not understand nor respect my decision to not connect them with my personal life social media, act as if im being unreasonable they just don't get it.
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sugar

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #10 on: 09 December 2024, 06:15:46 am »
Also be careful with tictok everyone.  My Google account is synced on both my private and work phone. On the suggested friends list, alot of people saved on my escort work phone, are now synced to my tiktok account. I have even had a few, view my personal tiktok account, which is scary because I'm a graphic designer and author in my civvy job, and now they are viewing my civvy work portfolio.  I can't change this either, apart from delete my tiktok account. I'm not doing that because I have alot of followers on tiktok. I just hope one of these guys don't come on one of my lives broadcast......I think I'm going to block them, never done that before, but better safe than sorry. 
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Mirror

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #11 on: 09 December 2024, 08:10:46 am »
Quote from: sugar on 09 December 2024, 06:15:46 am
Also be careful with tictok everyone.  My Google account is synced on both my private and work phone. On the suggested friends list, alot of people saved on my escort work phone, are now synced to my tiktok account. I have even had a few, view my personal tiktok account, which is scary because I'm a graphic designer and author in my civvy job, and now they are viewing my civvy work portfolio.  I can't change this either, apart from delete my tiktok account. I'm not doing that because I have alot of followers on tiktok. I just hope one of these guys don't come on one of my lives broadcast......I think I'm going to block them, never done that before, but better safe than sorry.

To stop this go deep into tiktok settings, remove permission to access contacts.
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sugar

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #12 on: 09 December 2024, 04:57:32 pm »
Quote from: Mirror on 09 December 2024, 08:10:46 am
To stop this go deep into tiktok settings, remove permission to access contacts.

Ok thanks Mirror, done it now. It was creeping me out seeing clients contacts from my escort phone, visiting my tiktok profile. Xx
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RB1

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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #13 on: 15 December 2024, 07:47:10 am »
For this not to happen my advice
Is have an android for work never put anything personal on it ever

And iPhone as a personal phone or if you have android
Dont  ever put your work email on personal phone

Google / gmail syncs contacts via gmail to whatever phone you put it on
So if you put your work email on android and then same email on another phone all the contacts will now be on your new phone

Then when you add tick tock / insta Twitter FB to personal phone all the contacts ( punters ) will be added

You can prevent this by refusing permission when asked

But it’s much easier to have two phones and never ever sync them
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Re: Facebook Friend Requests
« Reply #14 on: 05 January 2025, 05:28:45 pm »
If you give them your WhatsApp to share a video etc. it can make you come up in their people you may know. Happened to me befire, freaked me right out
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