I have just found your website (not really thick, are u based in uk) and i have not read it all yet but find it very interesting.

Back to my question for you all,  I'm very new to escorting, but have been swinging for 3 years.

I would like to know if I have the right to ask for or at least see a face pic of a guy if they want to meet me.  I feel I am not able to just go ahead and play with the guy if i felt i was not able to. Do any of you ask for pics.

Or what is the normal etiquette on a client meeting you and you or them not wanting to proceed further with the meet. 

I do hope that I hear from you lovely people.

Dee xxxx

Asking for a face picture might put some people off, but it might not work out so badly. As extra security for hotel visits, I ask clients to tell me their full name in advance, and when we meet I check their ID. I've actually had very few people take issue with this, even in the early days before I mentioned it on my website. In terms of privacy and given that I have their phone numbers as well, this isn't that different to a face picture. I think a lot of people wouldn't be happy about sending a picture so you could accept or reject them, though. They're paying so they don't have to deal with that!

There are a few people who'll send an email telling me about themselves and attach a picture or two, as if they were replying to a personal ad. I don't like this, but it means that there are some men who are willing to fully introduce themselves before arranging a booking.

But I'd have to disagree when she says it might not be so bad. The last thing a client wants to do if he's married with 3 kids and has a high profile job is to send a facial pic to an escort.

This was also my first thought, but a lot of people don't understand how I'd get any clients with the way I do business and I'm doing ok regardless, so I always try to look at things from another angle.

I agree that being an escort isn't just about shagging people you fancy, though. I was never that bothered about the visuals, but this job has shown me how much fun you can have with all sorts of different body types. That's my lesson.

Being nice, normal (?) and decent is nothing to do with how people look. Likewise, swinging is nothing to do with escorting; one is a hobby, or some would say a lifestyle choice, the other is a serious and often challenging business where you will be expected to act and behave professionally. It is most definitely not just an easy way to make a few quid from shagging fit blokes, and the sooner you realise this, the better.

Are you seriously asking whether men will book you just on the off-chance that you would condescend to have sex with them? What exactly is it you think they are paying you for? Some of my clients travel for two hours or more to see me, take holiday time off work, make all sorts of excuses and save up their money, not to mention looking forward to the meeting. Are you going to send them packing simply because you don't fancy them? How are you planning to tell them this when they arrive? Obviously, if you really cannot go through with a booking, then there is no question of doing so - no-one should ever have sex with someone if they genuinely can't face it, but if you are not capable of looking past personal appearances then frankly I would quit it now; one of the main qualities a good escort needs is to be non-judgemental and openminded about their clients, and certainly not destroying what little confidence many of them have.

I'm sorry to be harsh but I really think you are belittling our profession by making ill-informed assumptions like this. You may think that all you need to be an escort is a fanny and a pair of tits but believe me, there's a lot more to it that. Like I said - what do you think you are getting paid for? (I'll give you a clue, 99 times out of a hundred, it ain't time and companionship).

Of course escorting is a learning curve like anything else but I think you are approaching it with a completely misguided idea of what the job involves - you really need to think about this harder and do a lot more research if you plan to make a serious go of it.

Well I have certainly put the cat amongst the pigeons, I really dint mean to .     I joined this forum to get some helpful advice but all I have had from you is reprisal and ?not being cut out for it? said to me. You have all taken the same approach that has been around for hundreds of years in my opinion.

Sorry if I have put anyones nose out of joint.  I wasn?t quite expecting all the hostility so I shall leave you guys to it and won?t ask for any more advice or information.

You have spoken on here about my boundaries, I have looked at other peoples profiles where they have boundaries in place that I don?t, so I suppose we should all respect each others boundaries.

I shall just muddle through and carry on like I have been, I have been very successful so far and its working out profitable for me and I have been told that I should go a long way with this job, I was told I was different to a lot of escorts they had seen because I genuinely enjoyed what I?m doing (unless your a bloody good actress), he knew I wasn?t acting tho.

The general feeling from guys is that I have a refreshing and unique selling point in my attitude towards escorting. Which is proving both profitable and enjoyable and if you?ve got those two things, whatever anyone else says doesn?t matter.

As to pix, I am getting quite a good positive response to asking for pix, they feel they can trust me, if they don?t want to then thats fine by me.

I am really enjoying what I am doing and shall continue to keep having fun as I luv having sex and making guys happy and also meeting lots of different people from all walks of life.  Its not all about the sex tho, I know, I can make them laff and we chat about all sorts, they confide in me and know that whats sed in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

Have fun girls,      I am    Dee xxxx

Well, the problem with asking for advice is that you're bound to hear something you really don't want to. I do think the previous two posts were a little harsh when I read them last night. But like all the other posts in this thread, I thought they had a point. I get the impression that they feel a little insulted that you want to work as an escort but only for those you fancy. And in my opinion, and theirs, that's not what it's all about.
Being a good escort is hard work, no matter what anybody thinks. It's not just lying back and thinking of England. It's providing a good sexual service to people, regardless of their looks, and making sure they've got their money's worth to the point where they want to see you again.
Some gents that come to see us don't have much sexual experience because they don't have the courage in the "normal" world to pursue relationships, and sometimes we're seen as a last resort. And I would imagine to be rejected by an escort because she doesn't think he's good-looking enough has to be a bit of a blow.

But at the end of the day, you don't want to be unhappy doing what you do, so work the way you feel comfortable working.

Dee, I wasn't trying to be hostile or insult you - I was really just trying to make it as clear as possible what is likely to be expected of you from the men who book you; if you honestly have the bottle to insist that they send you a face picture first and are prepared to turn down their booking on purely that basis (and no matter how nice you are, risk really hurting someones feelings, which would bother me) then it's entirely up to you - I know I wouldn't last long doing that though!

As you said, everyone is entitled to their boundaries, some ladies will not see black/asian or middle eastern men, or men above or below a certain age limit - however unfair this may seem to them (and frankly to me as I find it genuinely hard to understand why anyone would discriminate in this way), then it goes without saying that if you are not comfortable, your service will be adversely affected and you are unlikely to get a repeat booking anyway. For what it's worth, I often get asked about seeing couples, which I will not do as I'm straight, a crap actress and cannot imagine having sex with a woman. However I do anal, OWO and CIM which other local ladies do not do - one of the best things about this work is you can decide to conduct your business in whatever way you like!

As Brandy said - the main thing is to be completely honest with your advertising - clients look at our sites, read what we have to say (well, if we're lucky lol) and make their decision; as long as you are clear then they can't moan about it afterwards! If you are happy and doing OK working the way you are that is by far the most important thing. From your last post it actually just sounds like good old-fashioned nerves about what will be there when you open the door and I'm sure we all get them - I certainly do when I meet a client for the first time!

Incidentally I have only turned a client away once and that was because he stunk of BO and cigarettes and his (remaining) teeth were just black and green stumps - he went to kiss me and I panicked completely and told him he had to leave straight away (it was so bad it made me heave and I was scared stiff I was going to faint!) That was the worst ever 

Hi all

Just to add that I apologise if my post came across as harsh - I think we just find it difficult to comprehend that someone would want to ask clients for face pics as this is generally unheard of.

I do want to add though that this is a tough business and whilst we are all here to help each other as much as we can here, out there you are totally alone.

Sure you could have the best looking guy in the world, but his personality might stink.  I have met some really good looking guys who are so full of themselves that they seriously don't do it for me at all.

Yet some of the ones who are no oil paintings on the other hand can have the best personalities and make me laugh which is halfway to a good experience.

Dee, apologies if we upset you initially, but like has been said your request is an odd one in this business and therefore as such one would expect conflicting views.

If, however, as you say, your clients are obliging then I wish you luck and well and if it works for you and them then that is good. 

In my own experience the guys who offer to send me pics are not usually genuine punters and complete timewasters.

On another point I  guess it must be an interesting transition - from swinging to escorting --------

I did swing at one stage but personally that was not for me - but good to try it (and get the t shirt).

In any case, apologies for offending you in any way and remember that we are here to wish you well. 

I guess being an escort means we are also confident and outspoken women as is required in the industry that we work in.  I therefore hope that you continue to enjoy it as you clearly are doing now.

All the best
Love
Nell xx