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arield

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[Sex work as a] Single parent
« on: 08 September 2018, 11:52:00 am »
Hi everyone!

I'm looking at starting escorting and have been doing a lot of research, my son is 5 months and my best friend will be doing with with me so we can alternate days. Has anyone else done this solely as a single parent? I would probably put him into childcare after a while.

I really want to get some money behind me to go to uni and spend some more time with my son.


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LotusFlower

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #1 on: 08 September 2018, 01:42:38 pm »
Yes, I have and still am. What exactly is your question in regards to this? How to logistically do it? Or just if anyone is a single parent?

arield

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #2 on: 08 September 2018, 01:56:29 pm »
Yes, I have and still am. What exactly is your question in regards to this? How to logistically do it? Or just if anyone is a single parent?

Sorry I did realise after I posted it was a bit confusing.

Both really, is it doable? How old was your LO when you started

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #3 on: 08 September 2018, 03:54:33 pm »
My first child was 6 and then a few years later and a short break from work, I had another baby. My baby was 6 months when I returned to work. I wasnt a single mother when I returned, but did wind up as a single mother (again) around 6 months after I returned. So this is my second stint at being a single mother whilst escorting.

It's doable. Obviously. But comes with many more difficulties, especially if you are relying on friends and family for childcare as something can crop up. Just throwing my 2 cents in - from experience, it's probably a bit early to be thinking of nursery for your baby. My youngest is nearly 2 and still not in nursery. A nanny, maybe, but hold off on the nursery.

Feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions, I'd be happy to answer them!

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #4 on: 08 September 2018, 06:13:49 pm »
Lots of single mothers work civvy jobs and manage to get childcare, and so being a sex worker is no different and nor should it be treated as such.

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #5 on: 09 September 2018, 12:27:51 pm »
I'm a single parent and have been a sex worker for the last almost-three years.

Lots of single mothers work civvy jobs and manage to get childcare, and so being a sex worker is no different and nor should it be treated as such.

whilst this is true to a point, there is a different element to it in that you may need to lie to your childcarer about where you are, and also have a contingency plan in place should something go wrong at work.  My childminder knows what I do (she was my best pal before she was my childminder) and when I'm working I pass her number onto my buddy so that if anything goes wrong they can inform her.

But yes, the usual safety plans aside I have found this work the best and most flecible ive done since having kids. The whole point of starting it was so I could earn enough to support them without them having to be in childcare 24/7 and for the most part this works out really well for us :) 

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Re: [Sex work as a] Single parent
« Reply #6 on: 09 September 2018, 01:42:33 pm »
I'm a single parent and have been a sex worker for the last almost-three years.

whilst this is true to a point, there is a different element to it in that you may need to lie to your childcarer about where you are, and also have a contingency plan in place should something go wrong at work.  My childminder knows what I do (she was my best pal before she was my childminder) and when I'm working I pass her number onto my buddy so that if anything goes wrong they can inform her.

But yes, the usual safety plans aside I have found this work the best and most flecible ive done since having kids. The whole point of starting it was so I could earn enough to support them without them having to be in childcare 24/7 and for the most part this works out really well for us :)
Well if your an Indy then yes it’s different but I’m talking from a sauna POV.