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Annexian

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Dinner dates
« on: 03 May 2008, 10:43:04 pm »
Hi everyone. I'm a male escort but I a lot of the principles here are universal, so I hope you don't mind my posting.

I'm fairly new to sex work and some of my johns want to take me to dinner. That seems alright. Except that I have no idea how to behave as an escort escort in a restaurant or what to *say* or most importantly, what to charge. Any advice will be very appreciated.

They give me nonsense about knowing each other, so I suppose what you do is concoct a whole fake identity and let it out upon request? On the other hand, being sympathetic and charming and looking pretty while he tells me all about his own lonely life should be straightforward. That and the rates are about all I'm nervous about.

I live in a big city in Canada; although this is a British forum I think that anything will help to narrow down my impression at this point.
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amy

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #1 on: 04 May 2008, 11:31:24 am »
Hi there and welcome! I hope I can help - although I don't know the 'going rates' for Canada (or indeed for male escorts I'm afraid!) I do get fairly regular 'dinner date' bookings which are either a four-hour booking (usually 2 hours dinner/2 hours 'private time', although obviously this is flexible depending largely on the dinner venue, whether you eat before or after, etc). I charge these at ?400, which is 75% of my four hour rate (I have also done a couple of three hour 'lunch' ones both with the same client at ?300). The other occasions have been when the dinner has formed part of an overnight booking, again, check the going rates in your area (although be aware that some people really take the p*ss with the price of these; you will generally find that not many men are superhuman and you will be asleep for at least some of the time so take this into account!)

As for how to behave, it's really exactly what you said - smile and look interested; ask your client questions about himself (everybody likes talking about themselves and you might find some common ground or shared interests in unlikely places!) It's not a bad idea to be relatively well-informed about general news/current affairs/popular culture just in case there really is nothing else you can think of to talk about - it does get easier with practice!

Good luck and let us know how it goes!
AMY xxx
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Richard

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #2 on: 04 May 2008, 11:36:45 pm »
I'm sure there are people who want someone for the pleasure of their wit and company, but I think the three basic reasons for being booked for a dinner date are the 'let's pretend this isn't a purely financial thing' one, the 'someone to listen and sympathise (at a cheaper rate than usual)' one and the 'someone to shown off' one.

The latter two would mean going 'Oh I know...' a lot (if you ever saw Fawlty Towers, think Sybil on the phone) or making sure everyone can see how gorgeous you are.

This may just be overexposure to reading people on 'punting' message boards, one of whom charmingly said that they'd rather die than pay to watch a prostitute eat, and comes without the benefit of ever having been booked for one :)
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brandy@saafe

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #3 on: 05 May 2008, 10:39:26 am »
Welcome Annexian,
Isn't it lovely that we get so many visitors from Canada? There are already a couple of other ladies signed up from your neck of the woods.
Being from Canada this site may also be of use to you http://www.spoc.ca/ . It's similar to Saafe and was written by a collective of Canadian escorts. Hope you find it useful.
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brandy@saafe

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #4 on: 05 May 2008, 10:44:00 am »
Quote from: Richard on 04 May 2008, 11:36:45 pm
This may just be overexposure to reading people on 'punting' message boards, one of whom charmingly said that they'd rather die than pay to watch a prostitute eat, and comes without the benefit of ever having been booked for one :)


Ah yes! That sounds like the resident board grouch Jimmy RedCab. He's as cheap as they come and very proud of it. A lot of people don't like him but I think he's alright. He's been around for years so you get used to his sometimes ascerbic comments.
He's always said he'd rather die than pay to watch a prossie eat his food. But then again he's very much a 30min parlour visitor with the odd visit to the indie thrown in. I just count myself lucky that not all clients are of the same ilk.
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amy

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #5 on: 05 May 2008, 06:03:37 pm »
That was JRC all right - I think he said that paying to watch a prostitute eat would make the food stick in his own throat. Bless!  :)
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Annexian

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #6 on: 06 May 2008, 06:38:55 am »
Thank you for the link to SPOCA!

Yes, everyone loves to talk about themselves. I'm sure I don't need to tell you bunch that they often tell their life stories in the bedroom anyway...

I'll probably have to deal with some who aren't familiar with escorts and will balk at the rates, and the market for males being smaller I may have to make do. Ah well, I think I can manage something.
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Lucymay

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #7 on: 07 May 2008, 12:52:46 pm »
As people have always said - I just ask lots of questions and get the client talking and then make the odd comment.
I had a outcall to a guys house who made me listen to cliff richard pointing out the best bits "listen to this note now" lol
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SJ

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #8 on: 11 May 2008, 10:52:55 am »
Quote from: Annexian on 03 May 2008, 10:43:04 pm
Hi everyone. I'm a male escort but I a lot of the principles here are universal, so I hope you don't mind my posting.

I'm fairly new to sex work and some of my johns want to take me to dinner. That seems alright. Except that I have no idea how to behave as an escort escort in a restaurant or what to *say* or most importantly, what to charge. Any advice will be very appreciated.

They give me nonsense about knowing each other, so I suppose what you do is concoct a whole fake identity and let it out upon request? On the other hand, being sympathetic and charming and looking pretty while he tells me all about his own lonely life should be straightforward. That and the rates are about all I'm nervous about.

I live in a big city in Canada; although this is a British forum I think that anything will help to narrow down my impression at this point.

IME, most dinner dates clients just want a normal date. Some want you to pretend to be their partner and I'm not keen on that to be honest if every other sentence to the waiting staff is "my girlfriend this, my girlfriend that..."

Overall though, its fun.
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brandy@saafe

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Re: Dinner dates
« Reply #9 on: 12 May 2008, 09:57:21 am »
Quote from: Sarah Jane on 11 May 2008, 10:52:55 am

IME, most dinner dates clients just want a normal date. Some want you to pretend to be their partner and I'm not keen on that to be honest if every other sentence to the waiting staff is "my girlfriend this, my girlfriend that..."

Overall though, its fun.

Yeah, that's because your last dinner date didn't know about boundaries. THAT was scary.
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