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Hannaah

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Stopping vaginal sex.
« on: 02 May 2019, 01:51:01 pm »
Hi ladies.

Has anyone stopped vaginal intercourse and if so did it affect business much?

Whenever I offer vaginal I end up with a UTI and it is driving me mad! I stopped fingering for the same reason and thought it would reduce it, but nope. Vaginal is just as bad, even after making sure they are extremely clean, always using condoms and washing before and after every client. I'm thinking of stopping it altogether as it is becoming so common.

I would still be offering all other services and specalise in submissive services so I'm not concerned about the number of services I provide, only if stopping vaginal sex would mean my number of bookings would take a big hit. I also wondered how to phrase it on my ads if I do stop it in a way that wont have clients thinking I have stopped it because I am trying to hide something like an STI or think it's because I'm too sore after seeing too many before them etc.

Thank you in advance.



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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #1 on: 02 May 2019, 02:12:24 pm »
Obviously, it's the primary service for the large majority of female escorts but given you are offering submission too, you could be in an easier situation. Especially if you also offer anal.

Simply say that your Master / Mistress has decided that, while they will still offer you to be used by others, vaginal sex is just for them? Even if you don't have one.
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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #2 on: 02 May 2019, 03:06:12 pm »
Slightly OT, but it might be worth trying to find out why you keep getting infections? Does it happen even in gentle sex with a lesser-endowed man?
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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #3 on: 02 May 2019, 03:10:25 pm »
I doubt anal is everyone's cup of tea . . . :-[

I do get to read that some people get busy douching for up to 1 hr 30 min+ to prep.
Must be sooooo exhausting.  :o  :'(

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #4 on: 02 May 2019, 03:33:14 pm »
I do anal most days and never have to douche.
Its actually bad for you to wash away all the beneficial bacteria. Never had any "accidents".
I agree with what xw5 suggests. Have seen this type of thing on other profiles. Think you should still get plenty of work.

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #5 on: 02 May 2019, 04:19:07 pm »
Slightly OT, but it might be worth trying to find out why you keep getting infections? Does it happen even in gentle sex with a lesser-endowed man?

I agree, I had a time years ago when I would get recurring UTIs, it was triggered by going back to work too soon after the first one. If you are high volume I guess that could be a factor too.

If it was me I’d get checked out at the same time as getting screening to see if there was a reason for this.

As to stopping VS, you don’t actually have to give a reason, you could make up a physical injury, but that might just get complicated.

Or you could do as XW5 suggests.

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #6 on: 02 May 2019, 05:33:33 pm »
I do anal most days and never have to douche.
Its actually bad for you to wash away all the beneficial bacteria.
Sorry for going off tangent.
That was my whole point of my reply.  You put it far better than I did.  :)
I don't offer anal and will ever do.
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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #7 on: 02 May 2019, 06:00:27 pm »
xw- Yes, I offer anal as well. The majority of my bookings are sub bookings and I've had long term regs for sub bookings for many years (Well, except the handful who all decided to mysteriously vanish just before Christmas!) but I don't want to lose out on potential bookings when new clients see that vaginal isn't on offer or for the clients I already see to stop seeing me because of it. I think I will focus my ads solely on sub services and anal to counter that along with using your line about a Master forbidding vaginal. Thank you.

Kay & SS: It happens almost every time during vaginal even if it is really gentle and the client is small. I'm not high volume, I see at most 6-10 a week and usually not even that many.  About half of those are oral only or sub bookings without penetration too and I don't work on the weekend so a small break there too. I have gone back to SW as soon as I feel better, only to get another UTI and gone back over a week after finishing antibiotics and gotten it pretty soon again, so I don't think it is a case of returning too early. I don't know what it could be! I'm due for a screening though, so I will ask about that. Never thought about asking the GUM clinic about this issue before! Thank you.

regieeee & sultress: I douched once for anal when I first started. Far too much effort and faffing about and have never douched for it since. Not had an accident yet!

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #8 on: 02 May 2019, 08:18:02 pm »
I had stopped offering vaginal for similar reasons and it is working well for me.

I cut my rates and have fewer enquiries, but i definitely keep busy enough. Of course 'busy' is very subjective, but i am happy with the amount of work. I seem to have fewer long bookings (1.5 hours +) and much more half hours. A lot of regulars carried on seeing me, but they did say that they only did because they liked me but they wouldn't take a chance on a new girl who didn't offer PIV.

It is a bit disheartening when i think of all the money i used to be able to make in a day, but after comparing my income on a weekly and monthly basis, i am actually doing just as well (if not better) financially because i don't have to keep on cancelling bookings or taking breaks. Business is a lot more sustainable since i stopped offering penetration. If penetration is causing that much grief, i would definitely recommend cutting it out.

As for telling clients? I would just be honest and say that it causes UTIs. I know it isn't the sexiest of reasons, but it is straightforward and very plausable, and as others have said, you don't need to explain.

Feel free to message me if you have any questions. Good luck!

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #9 on: 02 May 2019, 08:23:45 pm »
As for telling clients? I would just be honest and say that it causes UTIs. I know it isn't the sexiest of reasons, but it is straightforward and very plausable, and as others have said, you don't need to explain.


 I stopped including/allowing ‘fingering’, and now I get a few annoying clients who will try and push the matter/try to finger during a session.
When I push their hands away and say no Thankyou. They smirk and ask why I ‘don’t like it’ ..
I simply reply : “thrush”.
They typically stop trying then and move onto something else. Hah. X

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #10 on: 02 May 2019, 08:24:36 pm »
Long shot but have you tried switching to non latex and banning fingering? Also consider changing lube and vaginal wash.
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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #11 on: 06 May 2019, 01:05:31 am »
Also try looking at D mannose powder on amazon.. Its extremely highly rated for recurrent cystitis/uti's

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Re: Stopping vaginal sex.
« Reply #12 on: 08 May 2019, 10:17:52 pm »
Quinn - It makes sense to do better after stopping it since it is so recurrent. Thankfully the last week I haven't had a single person ask for VS so I'm happy and may just say I don't offer it and lower my rate slightly if someone does ask for it/wants it during a booking to encourage them to still book.

Evewitheve - God yes, I get this so much. And it's always the ones with dirty hands or jagged nails!  :FF

VC - Yes I stopped fingering a long time ago, I only allow it with one semi regular as it has never caused an issue so far with him and I only see him when he is in the area every few months. It happens even with personal toys sometimes without condoms so I don't think condoms are the cause, it just happens more with work. Lube I have recently swapped so will see if that makes any difference!

Sultress - Thank you, will check that out!