I have just received this email :

"I believe you have been in contact with my father, ******* ********. I don't know how far this contact has gone or what kind of relationship you have but I would like it to stop now before I have to raise the issue and embarrass both him, my sisters and my mother.
 
Perhaps you could discreetly inform him that one of his daughters is aware of his activities, could easily explain an unusual $350 being removed from the bank and would like it if he remained committed to his marriage and family or was at least open about his need to leave the marriage. I don't think it is acceptable for him to discuss his daughter's lives with you via email.
 
I have sent this email because I cannot keep a secret like this. It is an extremely difficult and embarrassing situation for me to be in. So thank you for your assistance."

What do I do? Clearly I need to let him know, but we are scheduled to go away for 3 days together at this end of this week, he has already paid in full up front. If shit hits the fan at his home what do I do if he cancels? I advised him that it was non refundable if he canceled as it meant I would have no bookings for those days. But at $8900 it is alot to not give back!  He is a good fortnightly regular who always books several hours and cooks me dinner... i don't want to lose him!

I'm not worried about him declaring his love for me. He knows I am engaged and happy so.....

He hates his wife, he has stated he wants to leave her but can't be bothered dealing with the financial issues. He has a "If she finds out then so be it" type attitude and is the same towards divorce "either way I'm happy". He has stated that he has been 'sucking it up' with the marriage for the sake of his daughters, all of whom are now moving out of home in the next few months. So he now feels free to pursue what he wants (hence seeing me for sex and dating others). Based on all he has said getting divorced is what he wants, but I doubt any parent would want their raunchy secrets broadcast to their children.

I was tempted to send back a really nasty reply but common sense kicked in! Lucky!

I will call him tomorrow whilst he is at work and let him know, how he deals with it is his issue.

Poor girl. That must have been a horrible email to have to write. I would be very tactful if you did write back to her, I think she has shown great maturity in even writing to you.

Very common situation. If somebody finds out that a man is doing other woman then most of the time they blame the woman! What you have to do is to realize that it has nothing to do with you. If he would not sleep with you, he would with somebody else. His daughter does not understand this and she thinks if you leave then daddy will be back home again. And that is not true.

I can appreciate things from the standpoint of the daughter, but let's be honest, notice she approached you and is waiting for you to panic, and break it off with her dad. I seriously doubt she will confront him or for that matter spill the beans to her sister or mother about this. Stay the course, but do notify your client after the three day holiday is over, that he needs to take better security precautions; and needs to have a chat with his rather nosey offspring.

I agree with Violette, difficult though it is and sympathetic as I'm sure you are, you have a business arrangement with her father - he is the one paying you, not her and anything that occurs outside that arrangement is his problem, not yours. It sounds very much like he wants to be caught; that way he can avoid having to man up and be honest about his marriage (and if his wife throws him out he can feel more sorry for himself at how hard done by he is). Making sure you are caught doing something you shouldn't be means being able to offload the responsiblity of having to grow some balls and have the difficult conversation - it isn't that unusual.

Keep your money, go on your trip and have words after. And hard though it sounds, ignore the email - don't get involved. I would block the address too, to be honest.

I also have a sneaking suspicion that the email is from his wife, not one of his daughters.  I doubt his daughters have access to their banking information.

He has shown me email conversations between himself and his daughters about they understand their mum is a bitchy control freak and how if they split up, they all (3 girls) want to live with him.  

What Emily said.

This is why children should not get involved in their parents' sex lives.

I can see that side of things, but if I found out he was seeing a hooker (which i did and he was, good for him, my step mum was a cow) then I wouldn't have emailed her, bringing her into the situation.

There is nothing I can do about it, if we were having an affair then its a whole different scenario. But its a paid arrangement and she needs to understand that. His youngest is 19, hardly a child and she should be able to understand that it is non of my concern.