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My advice is to tighten up on your screening and also get bank transfers completed BEFORE they arrive.
I let my guard down last week and ended up in a very threatening situation and I've been escorting 8 years.
I'm very fussy about who I see and it keeps me safe (usually!)
You don't really want to get to the stage where you have to kick them out when stricter booking protocols could minimise the risk.
When I have had to put them out, they usually haven't paid and I've known pretty much instantly I don't want them to stay.
If the booking has started, it's better to offer half back and ask them to go. I've got a strict demeanour and I've put a few out over the years. Some of them have been more difficult than others but the one I had last week was the only time I felt threatened.
I'd rather give them a full refund than risk a full on confrontation though. The money is just not worth it. I'd then report them.

I only accept bank transfers from regulars and only a few actually do that. I stipulate cash on arrival. I wouldn't trust a bank transfer from a stranger.

On the other aspect I have only once kicked someone out mid way. He was rough, uncharasmatic, stank and creepy. I gave him his money back in full. I also asked one guy to leave on arrival as he was rude. There have been a few other times I've felt uncomfortable as soon as they've walked in, and in retrospect I should have kicked them out too. Luckily I have a panic button in my hallway and bedroom linked to police. Never had to use it though.

I stand up and tell them they have to go. Then i grab a dressing gown I have on hand and put it on and tell them they have to go straight away or I'll call the police.
I don't raise my voice I just speak firmly and remain so despite their protests and grumbling

Any decent alarm company will fit this for you. Growing up, we had this home as part of the alarm system. There was a panic button by the front door and another two, one on each side of my parent's bed.

I don't accept bank transfers from people that I've never seen before for incalls, for outcalls if the deposit doesn't get into my account I don't bother leaving the house.

If they intentionally rip the condom off or anything like that then that's a serious matter and it can be considered as rape attempt. You have every right to call the police in that case or in other serious situations. No, I wouldn't give any refunds if they made the booking impossible to continue. Be firm and categorical but not aggressive as they might become aggressive.

Then again there is no amount of money that's worth you getting hurt so if you feel like that they could be dangerous then give them a partial refund or a full refund if things are going south.

The problem with refunds it's that some of them had that plan before leaving the house as they never actually wanted to pay and if you give in they might target you in the future as being a push over and even try to rob you or send someone else to do the same. So my advice would be to stand your ground and not let them walk all over you as some get a kick out of it just because they can. It's not fair but it is what it is.

If I get a booking and they are extremely annoying or disrespectful I would give them a partial refund and say politely that we should cut this booking short as I don't feel we get along. That way I avoid a more unpleasant situation and they usually leave peacefully and I give a small refund as it's my choice to end the booking. But if for some reason they get up and start getting dressed because they "don't feel it" I almost never give refunds as it's their choice to leave.

There are no right answers here as some just try to scare you for their entertainment but they won't actually do anything and some are actually deranged and dangerous.