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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Amandasussex on 04 April 2011, 12:04:33 am
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i would like to find a girl to work with but feel really nervous about how to approach it.
Having sex with men for money is not a problem but I'm dead nervous about the idea of doing it with a woman - if we are both doing it for money - can't get my head around it - is this unusual?
i have slept with women for pleasure in the past... maybe if i had a friend and we both knew the score but i have had a client ask me to find another girl and i'm just not sure of the etiquette - seems like a whole different ball game.
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It's not covered in most etiquette books either :) and first joint bookings can be.. interesting if you've never had at least a serious talk beforehand. Although from what I understand, M+two F escort bookings can involve very little real sexual contact between the two women, it helps greatly if you're on the same page.
How important is your attraction to them vs your combined acting ability? What are the no-nos that would rule someone out?
Once you've narrowed the search down a bit, asking in the seeking/offering section would be one way to start, as would saying hello to people you can find who match your criteria.
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Yeah, like xw5 said, I would imagine that there are totally different types of duo bookings. For example, a pair of lesbians could work together offering a limited-interaction but full-on show type of booking. Or a pair of straight girls could work together with limited interaction with each other but full services with the client. And probably everything in between!
Someone else posted here about only being able to do duos with other escorts that she didn't know well because they could make friends afterwards but there wouldn't be the awkwardness of being friends first and then suddenly getting naked and acting out some guy's fantasy - cos despite what dumb men's mags suggest, I don't find myself wanting to ever see my mates' ladybits! And if I ever did want to have an experience with a woman in the future, I reckon it would be with a specific/special one rather than just OMG ANY BOOBS WILL DO, ha. But yeah, it goes to show how completely different we all are and some of the complications that can arise when navigating the world of sex and sex work, especially when three or more people are involved!
I love the idea of doing duos sometimes because it sounds like there'd be two of you fielding the normal intensity of the booking - I mean, like if the guy starts gazing into your eyes and asking you whether you like Thai food, you could just get your friend to sit on his face. Alternatively, if he starts getting arsey, rude, sneaky or weird, you and your friend can watch out for each other and protect each other. Everybody wins!
Unfortunately, I'm getting the hair lasered off my bits at the moment and can barely look the technician in the eye after each treatment so I think working alone is the only way for me. ;D
Overall, I reckon it does really depend on your individual needs, plus the qualities in the potential other escort, and maybe a few other random factors that only experience would show up? So maybe just try contacting a few others who advertise as bisexual (or you can put an ad in the right section of this forum) and take it slowly (sort of interviewing 'em!) to see how it goes? This particular clients' demands might not be met but at least once you've found a friend or two that you can work with comfortably, it'll be easy to sell duo bookings and perhaps even make extra money together. :)
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Yes, there's loads of permutations of duo bookings. I once did a really weird duo WITH MY OLD AGENT (!) where we didn't touch each other at all. I was really nervous, since she was my boss, especially having sex in front of her, but the client was lovely and it was very lucrative, so it was fine. I also once did a booking with one of my friends, and a regular of mine, which was awesome. We are both absolutely bisexual (my partners are predominately female) but we hadn't had sex with each other before. Neither of us had particularly good sex with each other, although maybe we would in private, but the client LOVED it, and us. I personally like duo bookings, (although I hate calling it that, it's one of my top industry-jargon-blurghs) but it IS difficult to find the right person to do them with. I offer duos with a BBW friend of mine, but we haven't done any yet. And when it comes to clients saying "please can I seduce another girl off AW with you?" well?!! In terms of what Emily says about being nervous about changing a friendship relationship to working together, or being shy about being naked/having sex with/in front of another girl, I guess I just never have these problems as a)I couldn't be less shy about being naked in public, and I go to a reasonable amount of very naughty parties/do art modelling and I have a lot of experience doing that friends/sex boundary changing thing /shrug/ b) I have sex with mostly women in my private life, so I know what women's bodies are like, and am a bit less body-shy because of this [women's bodies are beautiful, and awesome]. And lastly, that ever-so-slight possibility that you might have awesome sex at work? That's doubled (or more, if you choose the right girl ;) ) Plus definately what Emily said about the security/working together aspect, even if you are doing "straight" duo-ing, rather than more erm... lesbian stylee. [we need new vocab for this, people!!]
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Thanks people
- yes it is as complicated (and also a good idea in many ways) as i thought. Thanks for the advice about researching and communicating first... you could almost come up with a kind of choreography for the whole booking. I haven't got any further with it yet as there is no hurry and I'm constantly in 'blue-arsed fly' mode these days.... however!! funnily enough I did do a MMF threesome for a client on impulse just after I wrote this. The client asked if it was something i could offer. I mentioned that i had done that kind of things with an ex (who now happens to be my driver)..... so quick phone call and everyone was up for it!
In this case, the guy i 'duo-ed/worked' with was a very good friend and an ex lover who is very open minded. The sex was not amazing for us, more of a show for the client, which is fine and just the same as most 1 to 1 bookings.
Having done this I can now see how it could work with a girl as well. I think I was worried that I would just get carried away with the working partner and forget about the poor client, but work is work!! Has anyone else worked with another guy? I also wondered if there was a market for that on webcam? The client from the other day is not the only guy I've met who has been very curious about what is akin to swinging I suppose. Most straight men like to watch porn involving men so it's obvious really I suppose.