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Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« on: 19 July 2011, 05:23:11 pm »
Hey everyone,

First off, sorry if there is already a topic on this, I searched and couldn't find one.

Ok so I saw a client for the second time today, who I used to work in a call center with. We got on really well and even got rather friendly after drinking far too much at a staff party, though I didn't end up going home with him as he would have liked.

So my buddy and I have a booking together, and who should walk through the door but my old friend, grinning like a Cheshire cat! I didn't know what to say or do, but he started talking about us working together and the awkwardness was gone. We had a great booking, he paid and promised to return.

Today I went to his place and had a fantastic half hour of (without going into too much detail!) sweaty passionate teenager-like-exciting sex, I had so much fun we went over time and in my rush I left my undies with him!

He lets another WG use his flat for the occasional in call and I'm tempted to ask if he would like to make the same arrangement with me, as I need somewhere to work from and he mentioned a messy custody battle for his kids and is worrying about his money situation for the foreseeable. 

The problem is that I'm in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy who doesn't know about my work, and it would destroy him if he ever found out, where as my client, who has asked me out, is so laid back about escorts, swingers, open relationships etc.

I can't help but imagine what if I had gone home with my client on that drunken night out? I could be open and honest about my job, have the added security of working from my own home and having a guy who would really know where I am when I go out on an evening.

It doesn't hurt that he's hit the gym since our staff party and is so energetic it's unbelievable! He also looks at me like I'm the last slice of chocolate cake, and kisses so sincerely...

Any advice would be appreciated, even if it's just a swift slap and a dose of reality pills!

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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #1 on: 19 July 2011, 07:24:38 pm »
Hey everyone,

First off, sorry if there is already a topic on this, I searched and couldn't find one.

Ok so I saw a client for the second time today, who I used to work in a call center with. We got on really well and even got rather friendly after drinking far too much at a staff party, though I didn't end up going home with him as he would have liked.

So my buddy and I have a booking together, and who should walk through the door but my old friend, grinning like a Cheshire cat! I didn't know what to say or do, but he started talking about us working together and the awkwardness was gone. We had a great booking, he paid and promised to return.

Today I went to his place and had a fantastic half hour of (without going into too much detail!) sweaty passionate teenager-like-exciting sex, I had so much fun we went over time and in my rush I left my undies with him!

He lets another WG use his flat for the occasional in call and I'm tempted to ask if he would like to make the same arrangement with me, as I need somewhere to work from and he mentioned a messy custody battle for his kids and is worrying about his money situation for the foreseeable. 

The problem is that I'm in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy who doesn't know about my work, and it would destroy him if he ever found out, where as my client, who has asked me out, is so laid back about escorts, swingers, open relationships etc.

I can't help but imagine what if I had gone home with my client on that drunken night out? I could be open and honest about my job, have the added security of working from my own home and having a guy who would really know where I am when I go out on an evening.

It doesn't hurt that he's hit the gym since our staff party and is so energetic it's unbelievable! He also looks at me like I'm the last slice of chocolate cake, and kisses so sincerely...

Any advice would be appreciated, even if it's just a swift slap and a dose of reality pills!

To me it sounds like a no go area... sorry!

He sounds like a perfectly charming guy who already has other "relationships" with other escorts. Keep an open mind here. You are also in a relationship and escorting behind your partners back, yes that's your choice but there is also the risk he will one day find out and on top of that he could find out you're escorting in another guys flat?! and a guy you have feelings for?

He booked you as an escort with another escort, not just yourself, knowing he knew you. This never sits well with me when guys do this with no prewarning. Sounds to me he was just getting what he didn't get before.

Sorry but i always pull a face when anyone mentions feelings for clients. Though I'm pretty open minded I always think the guys booked you as an escort, with a preconceived idea of what you're all about. It's easy to see this guy as being open minded but i'll assume he doesnt have a girlfriend now? Does he really know he'll be comfortable with his girlfriend escorting from your home? He seems like he's having a jolly time does he even want a girlfriend!

I appreciate this is slightly different as you knew him before but this guys sounds..hmmm you know..help me out here ladies lol

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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #2 on: 19 July 2011, 07:39:05 pm »
Sorry but i always pull a face when anyone mentions feelings for clients. Though I'm pretty open minded I always think the guys booked you as an escort, with a preconceived idea of what you're all about. It's easy to see this guy as being open minded but i'll assume he doesnt have a girlfriend now? Does he really know he'll be comfortable with his girlfriend escorting from your home? He seems like he's having a jolly time does he even want a girlfriend!

I appreciate this is slightly different as you knew him before but this guys sounds..hmmm you know..help me out here ladies lol

Thanks Friday, I know what you mean about pulling a face, I normally do too lol, which is why this surprised me so much when I'm normally very detached from my escort persona, maybe as you say it's because we knew each other before the prossie-punter relationship.

He says he wasn't sure it was me when he booked the duo, but he loves my hair and anyone with a similar colour and style turns him on.

He sent me a message on AW just after the first meet asking is I was single and that he was ok with my career, which I had a good laugh at and thought "very gracious of you, considering you just paid me!"

It's just since the booking today, the chemistry was so good!

If I was single I wouldn't hesitate to say yes to a date (well maybe a little at the thought of giving it away lol!) but I do love my bloke and don't want to leave him. And I think if I worked from Mr Punters flat and saw him everyday then it would feel too much like a relationship. Mr P and I are both of the opinion that sex is meaningless unless there is emotion involved, which is how I justify my work.

I know it's stupid and I am 100% sure I'm not going to go sailing of into the sunset with him, but I can't stop thinking about him... 

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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #3 on: 19 July 2011, 07:54:01 pm »
I do love my bloke and don't want to leave him.

 but I can't stop thinking about him... 

I think given these two statements I would put it down as 2 very fun sessions you enjoyed very much and never speak to him again. Cut contact and move on. Tough it will be yes but if you keeping seeing him as an escort when you have feelings for him then things are going to get complicated and people will get hurt. This way you're in control x

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« Reply #4 on: 20 July 2011, 05:54:35 pm »
The problem is that I'm in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy

Says it all, really.

One advantage, you say, with starting a relationship with this other guy is that you could be open about your work.  But is that worth giving up your 'wonderful guy' for?  Plus, how would you feel about the other guy seeing other escorts, swinging etc, whilst he was in a relationship with you?  Would you, hand on heart, be happy with that?

He sounds like a charmer, and there's nothing wrong with that (we've all known them!)  But would he ever be just YOUR charmer?

Good luck with whatever you choose to do  :-*

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« Reply #5 on: 20 July 2011, 08:03:12 pm »
  But is that worth giving up your 'wonderful guy' for? 

Thanks Angela

No I could never end it with my guy, but it feels like I'm betraying him because I can't get the punter off my mind.

He is a charming thing and so different from my bf... who has low self esteem and is abit sexually repressed.

But Mr P is the first person to call my name out during sex, and afterwards he stroked my face, pushed my hair back and kissed me in a way that I just cannot imagine being anything other than natural to him.

I've never felt the slightest bit guilty about my work, but I feel like I'm having an affair with Mr P, it's wrong and it's exciting and it's wonderful. And that makes me feel guilty...

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« Reply #6 on: 21 July 2011, 04:38:52 am »
Been there, difficult   :(
To the point where I was waiting for texts from him etc and fantasised about him leaving his wife for me. We got on so well, he turned me on and was understanding and SUCH A RELIEF to be able to be honest with someone, when I was in a serious relationship with someone whom I could never tell what I did.
I got over it, we are still friends and he is still a regular and has been a really positive influence in my life and great source of advice, paid for my time on many occasions even when we just sat up all night talking - I love him to bits as a person but got over the infatuation.
You have to separate work from personal even though it may be more personal with some clients than others, they are still clients. The only time it has worked out that I know of was in Pretty Woman. "Cindaf***ingrella"!!!
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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #7 on: 21 July 2011, 09:35:38 am »
But Mr P is the first person to call my name out during sex, and afterwards he stroked my face, pushed my hair back and kissed me in a way that I just cannot imagine being anything other than natural to him.

If the positions were reversed in this situation, I'd say he was doing his job brilliantly. ;D
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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #8 on: 21 July 2011, 09:58:01 am »
But Mr P is the first person to call my name out during sex, and afterwards he stroked my face, pushed my hair back and kissed me in a way that I just cannot imagine being anything other than natural to him.

If the positions were reversed in this situation, I'd say he was doing his job brilliantly. ;D

lol yeah if I put aside my ego (which wonders if he's been carrying a torch for me since our drunken encounter) I will admit he'd make a mint working as a straight male escort lol!

I got over it, we are still friends and he is still a regular and has been a really positive influence in my life and great source of advice, paid for my time on many occasions even when we just sat up all night talking - I love him to bits as a person but got over the infatuation.

Thanks Ella,

it's good to know it can work out, I think I'll keep him on the books, and hope the attraction fizzles out, if not I will take Friday's advice and stop seeing him

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Re: Feelings for a client... Oh dear!
« Reply #9 on: 21 July 2011, 09:05:19 pm »
But Mr P is the first person to call my name out during sex, and afterwards he stroked my face, pushed my hair back and kissed me in a way that I just cannot imagine being anything other than natural to him.

If the positions were reversed in this situation, I'd say he was doing his job brilliantly. ;D

Yes, I smiled at that too. They work.