Do you want to do this, or do you feel you have no choice?

Escorting is a fantastic job if you want to do it, but it can really mess with your head if you aren't happy.

Also, while it is well paid compared to most jobs, it isn't quite as profitable as often portrayed (have a look at the "Is is quiet?" thread in Blather & Babble, there are ladies who have gone weeks without work!).

There may be better ways for you to get on your feet and sort out your debts, www.moneysavingexpert.com is a good place to start.

If you have decided that escorting is for you then you are in the right place, but make sure you look at other options too 

I don't think wanting to escort to take care of your childs needs make you a horrible person at all (au contraire!) But remember that escorting is not an easy job AT ALL. It sounds like you want to get into this out of desperation which is the worst reason to become a WG because you will probably hate it.The job is already stressful and doing it behind your partner can add a whole new dimension of stress (and THAT plus  the lying WILL make you feel awful and it will take a toll on your relationship, believe me. To the point that eventually you'll have to choose between your boyfriend or the job like abigail said).  Leading a double life (specially with a partner) is a very stressful thing and that's the reason why most WG are single. In my personal opinion it's not fair to do that to a partner (think: how would you feel if he was sleeping with women in exchange of $$$?) What if you get a client who's a friend of your mate? Think of the consecuences.

I would say give it a try while he's on holiday just to "test the waters" and see "how you feel about it" . Just be careful not to loose your mind while leading a double life. And If you can't handle it  I would say find another job.  Despite what people say there's plenty of jobs out there and a lot of working  moms. You just need to be very pro-active about it.

good luck!  

Thanks for the replies. I have sought debt advice in the past and i am paying small amounts to all the creditors however i just don't want to live like this forever, i want to be debt free and i don't think bankruptcy is for me simply because i need the security of knowing should anything go wrong between me and my partner or just in general i would be able to at least rent us a house, something i couldn't even dream of at the min.
I suppose i am desperate in a way but its desperation for something better in my life. I love sex and its not the thought of sleeping with other men, i just worry about what could go wrong (my paranoid side IE getting murdered, catching an std etc)
The way i see it is if i don't get out this mess we'll probably split up anyway because we want to get a house together and that's just impossible, I'm so stressed about being broke!
I don't even have a great figure, I'm a size 6 (only 5ft) but i have a horrible mummy tummy from my pregnancy :-(

Thanks for the replies. I have sought debt advice in the past and i am paying small amounts to all the creditors however i just don't want to live like this forever, i want to be debt free and i don't think bankruptcy is for me simply because i need the security of knowing should anything go wrong between me and my partner or just in general i would be able to at least rent us a house, something i couldn't even dream of at the min.
I suppose i am desperate in a way but its desperation for something better in my life. I love sex and its not the thought of sleeping with other men, i just worry about what could go wrong (my paranoid side IE getting murdered, catching an std etc)
The way i see it is if i don't get out this mess we'll probably split up anyway because we want to get a house together and that's just impossible, I'm so stressed about being broke!
I don't even have a great figure, I'm a size 6 (only 5ft) but i have a horrible mummy tummy from my pregnancy :-(

Part of me wants to warn about the dangers of 'desperation' (in any form; it's not a bad word but you know what I'm getting at) with regards to this job, as there are dozens if not hundreds or thousands of unscrupulous people out there who have some sort of evil sixth sense when it comes to finding the vulnerable and the naive to target for their scams or worse plans. (Also, the Adultwork.com site makes it extra easy for them by sending out email notifications to signed-up punters whenever a new profile is made  .) But it seems to me that you show an awareness of these risks and at the end of the day, every newbie escort has to consider them and make their own choices - it's not like this job is or should be limited to millionaire women who fancy a bit of a saucy venture on the side! Almost all of us start this job because we need the money. There's nothing bad and no shame in that.

Please do read the main SAAFE site (you can find it at http://www.saafe.info, or click the Support And Advice For Escorts button in the top left of the forum page) thoroughly; probably read it all twice and then re-read the most pertinent stuff again. It's a goldmine of information aimed at making starting out in this industry as safe and simple as possible.

The overall advice that I'd emphasise the most is to always weigh up risks vs reward very carefully, especially if/when you are in a precarious financial position, as being blinded by offers of large amounts of cash is something that can affect anyone. It's especially so for newbies - I remember when I first started, the amount I made from my first booking was almost my entire rent for the month! I was absolutely floating on air and definitely wasn't thinking quite as calmly as I should've been; I'm lucky nothing went wrong but I don't intend to ever let money affect me like that again. But that's easy for me to say now that I'm used to being able to afford my rent - I'd be a hypocrite if I pretended that it was never a bit overwhelming for me, and even two years later I'm still incredibly grateful to be earning a decent living while studying etc.

Also, don't take security procedures lightly. When you put your checks and confirmations etc in place, do not make allowances for pushy clients or clients who are acting like they know more about the industry and "how things work" than you do, or clients who seem even remotely disrespectful. For reference, I consider a client who texts instead of calls at our prearranged confirmation time to be disrespectful; I need that phone call because I need to know he's serious enough about meeting me to follow my instructions properly. A "hi babe r we stil on 4 2pm thx" is NOT the same as a, "Hello, Emily - I'm calling to confirm our meeting at 2pm; are we still on?" and texts in general, as far as I'm concerned, are a dreadful sign all round (unless it's a regular who you've given permission to text to, of course). I'm only going on about this relatively small issue to highlight how important all the details are - when I talk about how strict I am with potential clients, I really mean what I'm saying. Never take your security lightly, and more importantly, never let clients take it lightly either.

And finally, definitely get yourself a security buddy and never see a client without someone that you trust knowing where you are and who you're with. Make check-in calls within earshot of the client - most criminals are opportunists, so if God forbid you end up alone in a room with one, if he finds out that somebody else (who could be a big burly evil pimp with a fondness for stabbing people for all he knows!) knows where you are, he'll probably make an excuse to get out of there rather than try whatever bad stuff he was planning.

Starting this job can be nerve-wracking enough without all of these extra concerns, I know, so I'm sorry if I sound like I'm trying to frighten you! I'm honestly not, I just think it helps to have thought through all of this before rather than after your first job. Have you considered looking for a reputable local parlour and applying to do a shift or two there? As long as it's a decent establishment, it can be one of the safest ways to get started in this industry as obviously you won't be working from home, or visiting clients alone in their homes/hotels, or in fact being totally alone with any strange men at all. There will likely be a receptionist and at least one other working girl on the premises at all times, and the punters will be fully aware of this, too. You can then focus on practice your technique and confidence etc without constantly checking to make sure the exits are clear and that you have an escape route if necessary, etc! Parlours/brothels have a bad reputation but some of them are very posh and fancy, and you can expect to make a few hundred pounds per shift if you work at a decently popular one, so it's still much better than Tesco or an office job - but the money is a little more unpredictable. But if you don't like it, just explain to the manager and leave - nobody should have your personal information, so there's nothing for you to worry about if you decide this job's not the one for you.

Whatever you decide, good luck and make sure to let us know here on this forum if you have any further questions! There are always threads around covering topics like if/how to work while on your period, or whether clients mind about you not being a 5ft 9 size four supermodel/pornstar (most of them don't mind at all, but do advertise yourself honestly so that they can decide for themselves) or whether OWO is a good idea (probably not, but the risks are relatively small so do the research and decide what feels right for you) etc etc - use the search form here to get started!

There are some safer "from home options" to help "dip your toes in the water" so too speak. I started in the industry working on the sex chat lines then moved into webcams. Both done from the comfort of your home. I introduced a friend to webcams (at the time I didnt know she too had debt problems and was already in a debt consolidation agreement) she pretty much paid off her debts and hasnt cammed since.

Oh, good point! If you're happy doing escorting then camming/phonesex etc almost don't make sense in comparison, but either of those two options are still far more lucrative, usually, than a min-wage job and they are both far safer than meeting clients. Zero STD risk, too!

(Friday - if you have a lot of information about camming and/or sex chat lines, would you consider writing it up in bullet points for the Articles section of this forum? Don't worry if it's time-consuming, or if the information you have is stuff you'd prefer not to share publicly, but it could be really useful for referring newbies to at times like this so please do consider it! )