Author Topic: Does work effect sex with your partner? (Read 4874 times)

mssa · « **on:** 15 April 2014, 11:43:15 am »

For those in relationships in which you're able to see your partner fairly often or otherwise, do you find a busy day at works puts you off wanting to have sex with your partner when you get home? Are you still in the mood?

Mine is currently living away and I've only just joined an agency but I wonder how it will be in a few months time when he's back, and whether i'll still be as much up for it all the time with him as I currently am.

amylondon · « **Reply #1 on:** 15 April 2014, 11:58:15 am »

Hi I escort full time for 2 years and live with my boyfriend.yes it did affect me and I m not up for it like I was before..after a busy day I just want to relax and cuddle but no sex...some others days I feel really horny and I have amazing sex with him...
Overall it does affect me and I hope that when I ll stop escorting it will be back to normal but who knows...

happyhappyjoyjoy · « **Reply #2 on:** 15 April 2014, 01:51:22 pm »

opposite for me. Its like perpetual foreplay seeing other blokes and then I have to dive on the bf. Unless I've seen a horrid client.

RR · « **Reply #3 on:** 15 April 2014, 02:05:07 pm »

It never bothered me when I tried to date around work. But I date women. So I associate men/heterosexuality with work and only work. I did have a MFF threesome and it was just too close to the bone for me; legalities and not mixing with other escorts aside, its a big reason that I won't do duos. I like to have that complete separation.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #4 on:** 15 April 2014, 02:20:37 pm »

I try to make the effort to keep a personal sex life alive a partner, is difficult though sometimes, I have resented my boyfriend expecting sex sometimes, wrong I know, would rather be paid to do it in all honesty x

Dani · « **Reply #5 on:** 15 April 2014, 02:56:45 pm »

I did try to keep our sex life as active but it is impossible. Some days just the thought of seeing yet another cock is enough to put me off or I may be too sore to bother or just plain tired and want a nice bath my huge bathrobe and a warm drink and just read a book.
Even civvie girls don't feel horny or p for it all the time so I don't feel guilty as no one can feel sexy 24/7. Life gets in the way of it.

We talked about it and he said he would prefer I was honest and didn't just go through with it to save his feelings. So now we have different nos. If I say its a sore no he knows I am up for most of it just not penetrative sex. A tired no means sorry not tonight and illness no means don't even try and come near me as the pain is too high.
That way he knows I am not rejecting him but have a reason for not wanting to go through with it.
A get off no means I am rejecting him as he has either pissed me off some way or I just don't fancy it without any reason

It sounds like a silly system but it works out well as anyone who gets turned down is going to start feeling rejected so we have a way of stopping that

carachameleon · « **Reply #6 on:** 15 April 2014, 04:25:37 pm »

I don't have a partner but if I do, I'd be worry he would think, "oh, she has time/tolerance to have sex with other dudes but not me?"

Do you think partners of escort think that way?

Wife4rent · « **Reply #7 on:** 15 April 2014, 05:40:16 pm »

Yes, he is a perv and gets very excited....

Sarah x x x

Nia Hope · « **Reply #8 on:** 15 April 2014, 05:42:45 pm »

I think they do if you're not giving them any sex, I had a regular client whose girlfriend was an escort! He complained she wasn't giving him enough sex x

roseanna · « **Reply #9 on:** 15 April 2014, 05:51:35 pm »

Quote from: carasg on 15 April 2014, 04:25:37 pm

I don't have a partner but if I do, I'd be worry he would think, "oh, she has time/tolerance to have sex with other dudes but not me?"

Do you think partners of escort think that way?

All the ones I've had do.

The difficulty is that it's for the most part true. Most of the time I find it so much easier and straightforward having sex with clients than a partner, and very often more enjoyable too.

zoe · « **Reply #10 on:** 15 April 2014, 06:29:20 pm »

Yes and no, if I have a busy day. All I want is my pjs on and chill.

kinkyboots · « **Reply #11 on:** 15 April 2014, 09:47:56 pm »

It did with me. But some of my friends would tell you that it's actually improved things at home.

With me, i paid him less attention in the bedroom purely because i was having sex and seeing cock that often it was nice to have a break from it. Unfortunately this resulted in him feeling un-loved and un-wanted and this caused a lot of friction because he couldn't understand why i'd wanna fuck all the people all of the time and not so much him. I completely see where he was coming from, but he couldn't see it from my perspective.

I didn't love or want him any less, but he got the impression that i did because of the effect my job had on our sex life. I guess it's one of those occupational hazards that affects some people more than others, and some not at all. It all depends on the individual

Cheryl87 · « **Reply #12 on:** 15 April 2014, 10:51:13 pm »

Quote from: Dani on 15 April 2014, 02:56:45 pm

I did try to keep our sex life as active but it is impossible. Some days just the thought of seeing yet another cock is enough to put me off or I may be too sore to bother or just plain tired and want a nice bath my huge bathrobe and a warm drink and just read a book.
Even civvie girls don't feel horny or p for it all the time so I don't feel guilty as no one can feel sexy 24/7. Life gets in the way of it.

We talked about it and he said he would prefer I was honest and didn't just go through with it to save his feelings. So now we have different nos. If I say its a sore no he knows I am up for most of it just not penetrative sex. A tired no means sorry not tonight and illness no means don't even try and come near me as the pain is too high.
That way he knows I am not rejecting him but have a reason for not wanting to go through with it.
A get off no means I am rejecting him as he has either pissed me off some way or I just don't fancy it without any reason

It sounds like a silly system but it works out well as anyone who gets turned down is going to start feeling rejected so we have a way of stopping that

I think that is an excellent system! Not silly at all x

As for me, I find that working doesn't put me off actually starting the sex, but it can put me off during it because at any time I can start feeling like it's work and timing it etc

StawberryFields · « **Reply #13 on:** 15 May 2014, 05:16:49 pm »

My boyfriend is asexual and I'm a nymphomaniac. Work just means that I'm not pestering him for sex as much any more

And he likes hearing my stories as he likes knowing I'm having fun

It works

x

rosaley · « **Reply #14 on:** 16 May 2014, 12:27:25 pm »

hi

my hubby get peed off because i'm thinking of getting some outfits for work and he feesl i dress for clients but not for him.

anyone else have that problem

xxx

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