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Kay

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #15 on: 31 October 2020, 02:33:34 am »
Quote from: Sophine88 on 30 October 2020, 10:32:05 pm
I think I’m just being irrational. I only brought it up as I just seen a documentary recently about a man who was imprisoned for purposely infecting people with HIV by stealthing them (ripping a hole in the condom when the other person wasn’t watching) and it scared the shit out of me. How could someone be so cruel.

I’m going to be extra cautious with condoms now. I’ve never let anyone bring their own condoms but I’ve felt I’ve not always paid enough attention to clients taking on and off the condoms. Especially with the increase in guys asking for bareback I definitely feel I should be monitoring clients actions more.

I never really even put a thought into the technique other girls use here such a checking with my hand if the condom is still on. I’ve always kind of just wanted to get things over and done with as fast as possible so I could see the next punter and once I seen him put the condom on I was sure everything was fine and I never even gave a second thought to these kind of extra precautions.

It might be an idea to try and change your mindset? A punter has a certain amount of time booked, and so long as they come within that time, there's no rush, is there? Also, surely you allow yourself some time between bookings?

Moreover, I put the condom on myself 90 percent of the time, so I know it's on OK and that it's a good fit. I also usually take it off.
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English Green

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #16 on: 02 November 2020, 03:06:48 pm »
Quote from: Thoroughly Modern Millie on 30 October 2020, 05:54:28 am
Amy, and others, if you’ve not watched I May Destroy You, it covers stealthing. It’s on BBC iPlayer, and well worth watching as it deals with all matters sexual, particularly consent.

I know I’ve mentioned this on another thread, but will add it here too - I have a note on my profile that states that it is considered rape if man removes the condom during sex, and he can be prosecuted as a result, and I will prosecute. I cite Lee Hogben who was imprisoned for 12 years for doing exactly this with a sex worker.

Good for you more do need to know it's rape and they can be reported to police and possibly end up in prison. So many clients seem to think it's no big deal and they can do as they like.

You are more vulnerable on the doggy position so definately need to be on your guard more.
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BangerRacing

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #17 on: 03 November 2020, 08:29:50 am »
Quote from: English Green on 02 November 2020, 03:06:48 pm
Good for you more do need to know it's rape and they can be reported to police and possibly end up in prison. So many clients seem to think it's no big deal and they can do as they like.

You are more vulnerable on the doggy position so definately need to be on your guard more.

I'd not heard of "stealthing" either, although I usually say it to my kid when I creep up on him in the kitchen to monitor his snacking, "stealth mummy".

Moreso now with concerns over lack of support from the police & potential fines, if they go into this second lockdown. This is my biggest fear at the moment, lack of police protection & what I would do to someone who tries anything aggressive.

I'd have something on the profile like "all consumables are provided, just bring yourself along".

Yes as EG says, always have your hand at the ready in doggy.
 
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Miffy

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #18 on: 03 November 2020, 09:55:54 am »
Quote from: English Green on 02 November 2020, 03:06:48 pm
Good for you more do need to know it's rape and they can be reported to police and possibly end up in prison. So many clients seem to think it's no big deal and they can do as they like.

You are more vulnerable on the doggy position so definately need to be on your guard more.

One of the men I used to see a lot has recently had numerous warnings on CE about attempted bareback and stealthing. He’s never tried it with me, I think because I am very clear that I will prosecute. Since discovering his appalling behaviour, I’ve stopped seeing him.

There are enough SPs who offer unprotected sex, so if it’s important to the man, they can go elsewhere. However, I do understand that for some men, it’s stamping over boundaries and doing what they want that’s the real thrill. This needs to be nipped in the bud at the outset and made clear such behaviour will not be tolerated.

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English Green

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #19 on: 03 November 2020, 10:12:30 am »
I agree they do not always want to book ladies that offer unprotected intercourse they want ones that do not because they get off on the thrill and getting away with it.
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