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Sophine88

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Does stealthing scare you?
« on: 26 October 2020, 03:37:17 pm »
As the title suggests. Stealthing has come up a lot in the news in the last two or three years. But lately with all these bareback lockdown requests I’m extremely scared that it’s going to happen to me.

I’ve had an awful lot more guys bugging me for bareback sex and it terrified me that some freak would pull a stunt like this. Anyone else feeling like this lately. It’s made me not want to work but right now I need the money. Trying to stay well clear of barebackers and trying to weed out the types to try and sneak their way past my screening efforts.

Have multiple guys contacting me asking to bring their own condoms lately and it’s pissing me off too. I know they’re up to something and I’m really scared someone won’t be as obvious and I’ll let them slip through the cracks and this will happen to me. Anyone else having these concerns?

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #1 on: 28 October 2020, 07:26:04 pm »
Those 'bring my own condom guys' are laughable take no notice.
I don't allow clients to touch condoms at all. It's a hygiene and safety issue.
I brush their hand off or tell them not to. As long as you track their paws-all good. :)
So it's pretty impossible to stealth manually.

If in doubt I'll stop and examine the condom and replace before we continue. I stop for many reasons, not necessarily stealthing, it could be over-wet or dried out or slipping with friction...whatever. Those are the most common, everyday dangers.

If you keep touching the peeny every few seconds, and hold the condom firm there's nothing to worry about. ;)
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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #2 on: 28 October 2020, 08:20:39 pm »
Never allow a client to bring own comdoms , he has something to gain whereas we don’t, I just have all sorts of condoms so they cannot complain that we don’t have enough!

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #3 on: 29 October 2020, 12:22:33 am »
Scared? Frightened? Absolutely not. The man that tries to stealth me is the 1 that needs to be scared, bc I can promise you guys I will be in jail for what I’ll end up doing to him *grim look*. I know pressure points & would start with those, then an elbow in the throat ....

I’ll shut up now. They need to be afraid😡. Very afraid.
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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #4 on: 29 October 2020, 12:27:47 pm »
I don't tend to worry too much about it as I am always keeping an eye on things and putting my hand down there regularly to check it's still in place.
In doggy I'll always make a point of grabbing their cock to guide it in so can check condom is still on and the tip is intact.
I don't allow them to bring their own condoms, they could easily have tampered with them. If you keep different sizes in they have no need to and if they don't mention allergies to certain types in advance so you can get a different type in then it's their tough luck, no booking.

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #5 on: 29 October 2020, 05:55:53 pm »
It's something that's always at the forefront of my mind. I always keep a slight hold of the condom during sex, especially during doggy. I play with their balls at the same time in order to not make it too obvious but it's essential for my peace of mind. Condoms can slip off or break even without dodgy dealings so I just like to be sure it's all present and correct  :angel:

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #6 on: 29 October 2020, 06:10:15 pm »
Am I the only person who had no idea what the OP was talking about and had to google it?

I don't worry about it any more than the usual hygiene/safety stuff, but then I can't honestly remember anybody ever trying it - I'm sure it must have happened at some point but I don't agree that it's common. As for bringing their own, I have a variety just like TT, so that's shut down right away without any need for discussion :).

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« Reply #7 on: 29 October 2020, 08:01:44 pm »
Am I the only person who had no idea what the OP was talking about and had to google it?

I don't worry about it any more than the usual hygiene/safety stuff, but then I can't honestly remember anybody ever trying it - I'm sure it must have happened at some point but I don't agree that it's common. As for bringing their own, I have a variety just like TT, so that's shut down right away without any need for discussion :).

I'd heard of it.

I agree with you though it's just the general safety and hygiene stuff that we all have to manage on a daily basis.

Likewise I've no one try it. They wouldn't dare!


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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #8 on: 29 October 2020, 09:08:23 pm »
The only stealth I worry about is the ones who I block getting through on another number. Once I'd arranged to meet someone called "Dave the rapist". Apparently he'd been reported somewhere. I quickly cancelled and blocked only for him to use another number and visit me. As he walked in, telling me he'd booked before it suddenly dawned on me, I'm in my room alone with Dave the Rapist. Talk about cold sweat running down my back. I saw the booking through as I didn't know what else to do? He was fine a bit I dunno not aggressive but forward but Jesus Christ talk about feel the fear..
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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #9 on: 30 October 2020, 02:52:45 am »
In 6 years it's never happened to me (though I have had one incident of 'surprise' penetration, unprotected). I'm very business-like with condoms and have several different types/sizes, so they can never complain they don't fit. I don't mind wasting one if I've guessed wrong (which is rare).
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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #10 on: 30 October 2020, 05:54:28 am »
Am I the only person who had no idea what the OP was talking about and had to google it?

I don't worry about it any more than the usual hygiene/safety stuff, but then I can't honestly remember anybody ever trying it - I'm sure it must have happened at some point but I don't agree that it's common. As for bringing their own, I have a variety just like TT, so that's shut down right away without any need for discussion :).

Amy, and others, if you’ve not watched I May Destroy You, it covers stealthing. It’s on BBC iPlayer, and well worth watching as it deals with all matters sexual, particularly consent.

I know I’ve mentioned this on another thread, but will add it here too - I have a note on my profile that states that it is considered rape if man removes the condom during sex, and he can be prosecuted as a result, and I will prosecute. I cite Lee Hogben who was imprisoned for 12 years for doing exactly this with a sex worker.


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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #11 on: 30 October 2020, 07:59:11 am »
Amy, and others, if you’ve not watched I May Destroy You, it covers stealthing. It’s on BBC iPlayer, and well worth watching as it deals with all matters sexual, particularly consent.

I know I’ve mentioned this on another thread, but will add it here too - I have a note on my profile that states that it is considered rape if man removes the condom during sex, and he can be prosecuted as a result, and I will prosecute. I cite Lee Hogben who was imprisoned for 12 years for doing exactly this with a sex worker.

I suspect it's the terminology, I'm the same with ghosting, gaslighting etc.


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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #12 on: 30 October 2020, 10:32:05 pm »
I think I’m just being irrational. I only brought it up as I just seen a documentary recently about a man who was imprisoned for purposely infecting people with HIV by stealthing them (ripping a hole in the condom when the other person wasn’t watching) and it scared the shit out of me. How could someone be so cruel.

I’m going to be extra cautious with condoms now. I’ve never let anyone bring their own condoms but I’ve felt I’ve not always paid enough attention to clients taking on and off the condoms. Especially with the increase in guys asking for bareback I definitely feel I should be monitoring clients actions more.

I never really even put a thought into the technique other girls use here such a checking with my hand if the condom is still on. I’ve always kind of just wanted to get things over and done with as fast as possible so I could see the next punter and once I seen him put the condom on I was sure everything was fine and I never even gave a second thought to these kind of extra precautions.

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« Reply #13 on: 30 October 2020, 11:43:25 pm »
I think I’m just being irrational. I only brought it up as I just seen a documentary recently about a man who was imprisoned for purposely infecting people with HIV by stealthing them (ripping a hole in the condom when the other person wasn’t watching) and it scared the shit out of me. How could someone be so cruel.

I’m going to be extra cautious with condoms now. I’ve never let anyone bring their own condoms but I’ve felt I’ve not always paid enough attention to clients taking on and off the condoms. Especially with the increase in guys asking for bareback I definitely feel I should be monitoring clients actions more.

I never really even put a thought into the technique other girls use here such a checking with my hand if the condom is still on. I’ve always kind of just wanted to get things over and done with as fast as possible so I could see the next punter and once I seen him put the condom on I was sure everything was fine and I never even gave a second thought to these kind of extra precautions.

You're not irrational for thinking of safety :)
When I first started working my hand check was just to make sure the condom hadn't slipped off. That was always my main concern. It's stood me in good stead I guess because no client has ever managed or tried to take it off. My hand is there (alternately touching their balls and checking the condom) so it's harder for them to try anything.
« Last Edit: 30 October 2020, 11:47:09 pm by LottieLuck »

saltysweet

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Re: Does stealthing scare you?
« Reply #14 on: 31 October 2020, 02:02:09 am »
I think I’m just being irrational. I only brought it up as I just seen a documentary recently about a man who was imprisoned for purposely infecting people with HIV by stealthing them (ripping a hole in the condom when the other person wasn’t watching) and it scared the shit out of me. How could someone be so cruel.

I’m going to be extra cautious with condoms now. I’ve never let anyone bring their own condoms but I’ve felt I’ve not always paid enough attention to clients taking on and off the condoms. Especially with the increase in guys asking for bareback I definitely feel I should be monitoring clients actions more.

I never really even put a thought into the technique other girls use here such a checking with my hand if the condom is still on. I’ve always kind of just wanted to get things over and done with as fast as possible so I could see the next punter and once I seen him put the condom on I was sure everything was fine and I never even gave a second thought to these kind of extra precautions.

I see where you're coming from.
I suggest you don't give clients control of your health-put the condom on and take it off yourself.

Yes, those civvies got abused as they weren't paying attention, that's how predators work.They select the weak, vulnerable and unprepared.
« Last Edit: 31 October 2020, 02:35:48 am by saltysweet »