Author Topic: Does School Outfit say Submissive? (Read 1828 times)

Gypsy · « **on:** 30 October 2017, 12:34:02 pm »

[suspicious]I recently bought a school girl outfit and it has generated interest. Great! But now I'm starting to wonder whether this interest is from people I want to see.

I advertise myself as dominant and I say I am not submissive, but I have seen someone who would have been better finding himself a sub. He wanted that outfit on me and I'm pretty certain that's why he phoned me as I have the outfit as my profile pic on Aw. He was fine in the screening process. Confident and polite but he slapped my boobs and held me against the wall by my wrists. The grip wasn't hard or aggressive but when he told me to get on my knees I refused and sat down instead. He didn't say anything and was fine. I don't think he was an aggressive person, but I wonder does this type of outfit bring out the worst?

I saw a man last week who also requested this outfit and he was wonderful, so I am really not sure what to think

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SimplySinful · « **Reply #1 on:** 30 October 2017, 12:46:03 pm »

The answer is it can do.

I think maybe have an additional note on your profile to say that you do a schoolgirl outfit, but this does not mean clients can assume they can be dominant or that you are submissive. Or say on the phone if it seems implied by a prospective client.

If I didn?t offer sub services and a guy acted like that, I would tell them this bluntly it was not on!

Just be as clear as you can be, if they still act out in this way then pull them up on it.

Or if you can?t be bothered with the hassle, just ditch the outfit...

BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #2 on:** 30 October 2017, 01:30:42 pm »

I think the whole schoolgirl outfit thing immediately conjours up the whole 'naughty schoolgirl' fantasy where she needs to go over someones knee for a spank or at the very least an innocent young lady that needs to be shown the ways of the world by a bloke leading the session.
Yes you may get guys who want you to be a bossy,demanding schoolgirl or may have a Harry Potter fantasy or even just an ordinary gfe but on the whole it is going to attract blokes that are going to assume a more dominant sort of role when you dress up like this.
If you are not submissive at all then maybe have several roleplays you are willing to offer in a school girl uniform written on your profile,so you can say so which scenario would you like when screening them.

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #3 on:** 30 October 2017, 05:05:56 pm »

Just sounds like he was a bit of a boundary pushing bum-fluff. I offer outfits as dressing up can be fun but I don't do role play due to my crappy acting skills so if anyone acted out of line they can't say 'oh I thought it was part of the role play

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English Green · « **Reply #4 on:** 30 October 2017, 05:11:06 pm »

It can encourage basically perverts imagining your a young school girl. I tried it years ago and regretted it i had a couple of pedos thinking because i offered the uniform i was open minded to them talking about sexually abusing underage girls... The booking turned sour with me getting angry so i never offered it again but thats my experience of it and i can only tell you why i would not do it again.

amy · « **Reply #5 on:** 30 October 2017, 05:20:46 pm »

Quote from: English Green on 30 October 2017, 05:11:06 pm

It can encourage basically perverts imagining your a young school girl. I tried it years ago and regretted it i had a couple of pedos thinking because i offered the uniform i was open minded to them talking about sexually abusing underage girls... The booking turned sour with me getting angry so i never offered it again but thats my experience of it and i can only tell you why i would not do it again.

Well if you don't offer age play or taboo roleplay and find it unpleasant to deal when punters try to introduce it then I think it's important to be ultra clear about it, not just on your ad but during the booking process if you're going to have photos in this sort of outfit. I had difficulty ages ago when I'd done some pics with PVC stuff on and no amount of text saying I didn't offer any roleplay or domme services got through to the real duckeggs, so if anybody asked about the clothing I always tried to make clear that it was just a dressing up outfit and that was all.

I don't think a schoolgirl outfit has much to do with being submissive, unless they want some sort of relevant roleplay (not necessarily submissive) to go with it. I offer sub services and I don't wear costumes of any kind

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English Green · « **Reply #6 on:** 30 October 2017, 05:28:28 pm »

Quote from: amy on 30 October 2017, 05:20:46 pm

Well if you don't offer age play or taboo roleplay and find it unpleasant to deal when punters try to introduce it then I think it's important to be ultra clear about it, not just on your ad but during the booking process if you're going to have photos in this sort of outfit. I had difficulty ages ago when I'd done some pics with PVC stuff on and no amount of text saying I didn't offer any roleplay or domme services got through to the real duckeggs, so if anybody asked about the clothing I always tried to make clear that it was just a dressing up outfit and that was all.

I don't think a schoolgirl outfit has much to do with being submissive, unless they want some sort of relevant roleplay (not necessarily submissive) to go with it. I offer sub services and I don't wear costumes of any kind .

I agree you need to be clear with it i remember 1 man saying to me why are you offerong school uniform if you have a problem with men liking the idea of going with a girl of school age... It just was not for me i did 4 bookings with people wanting uniform 3 of them were basically pedos and the other one not sure but i didnt like what i got with offering it. I also used to offer maid outfit and nurse and that was ok.

But i think if you offer school girl outfit you need clear boundaries to be set on the phone so they know what your limits are.

Gypsy · « **Reply #7 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:08:30 pm »

Quote from: English Green on 30 October 2017, 05:28:28 pm

I agree you need to be clear with it i remember 1 man saying to me why are you offerong school uniform if you have a problem with men liking the idea of going with a girl of school age... It just was not for me i did 4 bookings with people wanting uniform 3 of them were basically pedos and the other one not sure but i didnt like what i got with offering it. I also used to offer maid outfit and nurse and that was ok.

But i think if you offer school girl outfit you need clear boundaries to be set on the phone so they know what your limits are.

Yes, I think this is the problem. The first guy who was lovely wanted roleplay and he emailed me to make sure I was okay with it which I was and it was fine. The second one just wanted me to dress up in it without any roleplay at all. I think I am going to say in future that unless they want a roleplay booking then I'm not going to be dressing up in anything at all

Nice guys who just want sex don't normally care what you're wearing. A few ask for holdups etc, but if they just want sex then they won't ask for certain outfits. I think this guy wanted me to be submissive and asked for the school girl outfit so he could use that as his excuse.

Gypsy · « **Reply #8 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:13:35 pm »

In fact, now I think about it, every man who has requested an outfit without the roleplay has turned out to be an arsehole. The roleplay guys are fine. The guys who think they can dictate what you are wearing, are not.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #9 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:17:04 pm »

Along the idea of schoolgirl roleplays, maybe say that you will be happy to roleplay a horny teenager who's had her eye on the shy teacher since she was 15 and now she's 18 she's gonna shag his brains out. Or another idea would be that you're a schoolgirl and he's a schoolboy and you're discovering sex together for the first time. Basically go for the St Trinians vibe (if you're old enough to remember that!)

I'd also probably start asking customers who ask for the uniform exactly what they want out of the booking, maybe even ask them "Are you dominant?" and if they say yes just tell them "We may not be suited as I am naturally dominant as well, but if you're happy with regular GFE then that's fine."

SimplySinful · « **Reply #10 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:29:04 pm »

Quote from: Gypsy on 30 October 2017, 06:13:35 pm

In fact, now I think about it, every man who has requested an outfit without the roleplay has turned out to be an arsehole. The roleplay guys are fine. The guys who think they can dictate what you are wearing, are not.

Yes I just don?t do just outfits for that very reason

If someone request something for role-play Or Sub/Dom play then I am happy to do so

sweetmilf · « **Reply #11 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:36:03 pm »

Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 30 October 2017, 06:17:04 pm

I'd also probably start asking customers who ask for the uniform exactly what they want out of the booking, maybe even ask them "Are you dominant?" and if they say yes just tell them "We may not be suited as I am naturally dominant as well, but if you're happy with regular GFE then that's fine."

That's a very good suggestion. I always disliked the dreaded schoolgirl outfit, not for any underage stuff (I'm too old for that), but attracting so many potential TWs that I am very wary of. This thread is very helpful. Thank you, Gypsy and others who added helpful suggestions/insights.

Wailing Banshee · « **Reply #12 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:44:32 pm »

Honestly, I think there are planks out there that will try on sub things with anyone and even if he assumed you were offering sub services in a school uniform he should have discussed in advance. Proper dominants will talk through boundaries and safe words, dickheads are just aggressive without any consent.

I have done the odd schoolgirl booking, but that fact I am now in my 40's probably doesn't mean they have had paedo tendencies, just have a bit of a fantasy they want fulfilling. I have also done roleplay in uniform where I am the schoolgirl doing the seducing so it definitely doesn't always indicate sub services. Maybe those who are younger and more youthful looking than me do get those men who do have creepy fetishes, I can only say my experience here!

If you don't want the outfit to go to waste and are happy doing it you could always bill it as a feisty schoolgirl out to seduce and get pleasure from men sort of thing.

Erotic Masseuse · « **Reply #13 on:** 30 October 2017, 06:59:01 pm »

Maybe you should title the schoolgirl outfit, school bully if your dominant, I am sure loads of men crush on the girls that picked on them at school anyway

SimplySinful · « **Reply #14 on:** 30 October 2017, 07:06:16 pm »

Quote from: Erotic Masseuse on 30 October 2017, 06:59:01 pm

Maybe you should title the schoolgirl outfit, school bully if your dominant, I am sure loads of men crush on the girls that picked on them at school anyway

Oh my word cracked me up that did! Great idea

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