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MsDee

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Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« on: 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm »
For me no, escorting has not tainted what I think of men etc but my personal relationships have yes.

I respect my clients for the reasons that they tend to see escorts, i.e too embarrassed to ask the wife to spank his bum, no sex at home etc.  Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.

I think the industry has helped me to wisen up to a lot of the bullshit we are told and it has made me very independent and confident. 

So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #1 on: 01 December 2012, 08:36:26 pm »
No I don't distrust men, generally.

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Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.

I don't agree. I can very easily separate love/sex, I often use sex as an extension of my love for someone (friends included) but I don't love someone cos I have sex with them, and I'm sure many/most of us ladies here are the same. We couldn't do this job if we were constantly falling in love with all the men we shagged! :D

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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #2 on: 01 December 2012, 08:39:13 pm »
Distrust in what sense? I haven't ever been the possessive type or worried about a man cheating on me, if they're gonna do it then they'll do it, nothing I can do to change that, simples.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #3 on: 01 December 2012, 08:39:37 pm »
I dont mistrust men because of the job.  I just dont trust men period.

I never have and never will.  I think the line, how do you know a man is lying ........ cos his lips are moving ........... covers it for me. 

Im not really that bad.  If a guy says something, I believe him, do I trust him?  Hell, Noooooooooooooooo !!

Nothing to do with the job though.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #4 on: 01 December 2012, 08:40:30 pm »
Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm

So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?

No while we see men, we see a sub-section of society, each with their own reasons. I wouldn't feel it very logical to think 'I can't trust any man because all of my clients are married and cheat'.

Men in my personal life are wholly and completely different, and I base my judgement on them based on their individual behaviour. However, I have found that I can lay boundaries out quicker than many females my age, and my escort spidey-sense can weed out the not so good guys really fast.

Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm
Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.


Unsubstantiated claim. And also not very well thought out, as prostitutes we can clearly separate love and sex. IMO people should not be generalised based on gender.

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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #5 on: 01 December 2012, 08:42:40 pm »
Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm
Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.

I dont agree with that either.  I can very easily separate love and sex, Ive NEVER had a problem doing that.  Think that is why I find the job so easy and dont let guys affect me the same as others do.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #6 on: 01 December 2012, 08:55:10 pm »
Unfortunately I have been so trusting and so many people have wrongly bad mouthed me, have taken me for a cunt and just told so many lies. I have to really watch what i'm saying to strangers these days because i'm such an open book and never put on an act in work and it has cost me before. I just don't let it happen anymore. I am a much stronger person but I refuse to become bitter and twisted and have a bad view if men because there are actually good honest men still out there and I will find one eventually.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #7 on: 01 December 2012, 09:00:13 pm »
Not at all.  I still love men and love being in a relationship outside of the business.  Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back

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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #8 on: 01 December 2012, 09:09:12 pm »
Quote from: Newbabe on 01 December 2012, 09:00:13 pm
Not at all.  I still love men and love being in a relationship outside of the business.  Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back

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See I'm not really interested in 'boyfriends' I'm just too independent and definitely don't want someone living with me or as I've said loads of times need a man around. Although I am open ti a relationship if I really really like the person but it won't be with just anyone. Obviously I want to get married and settle down in the future but I want to do it properly and definitely won't be doing this.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #9 on: 01 December 2012, 09:13:10 pm »
Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm
For me no, escorting has not tainted what I think of men etc but my personal relationships have yes.

I respect my clients for the reasons that they tend to see escorts, i.e too embarrassed to ask the wife to spank his bum, no sex at home etc.  Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.

I think the industry has helped me to wisen up to a lot of the bullshit we are told and it has made me very independent and confident. 

So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?

I didn't really trust men before escorting but now have seen with my own eyes why. But clients the good ones gives me faith in men again until the rude ones over ride. Then am back to square one. I wouldn't like to get married. The thing is some men like the chase until it's over. Say they hit gold with the woman then lose interest. Men get bored easily and are to sly, so am more than happy only seeing men in this escorting circle.
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #10 on: 01 December 2012, 09:16:19 pm »
I dont trust guys at all so anything they say goes in one ear and comes out the other.
But they taught me not to trust by the continious lies they always tell.if one was telling the truth id never know!
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #11 on: 01 December 2012, 09:19:01 pm »
Quote from: Newbabe on 01 December 2012, 09:00:13 pm
Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back

NB x

haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....'  ;D
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #12 on: 01 December 2012, 09:25:21 pm »
Quote from: Kimmy on 01 December 2012, 09:19:01 pm
Quote from: Newbabe on 01 December 2012, 09:00:13 pm
Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back

NB x

haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....'  ;D

There seems to be a few of us around that are like this.  Since I was in my twenties Ive always looked at a guy and thought, player or not. 
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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #13 on: 01 December 2012, 09:31:59 pm »
Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 01 December 2012, 09:25:21 pm
Quote from: Kimmy on 01 December 2012, 09:19:01 pm
Quote from: Newbabe on 01 December 2012, 09:00:13 pm
Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back

NB x

haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....'  ;D

There seems to be a few of us around that are like this.  Since I was in my twenties Ive always looked at a guy and thought, player or not. 

I like to look around my lecture theatre and play 'guess the future punter/ prossie' always passes the time in stats :P

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Re: Does escorting make you disttrust men?
« Reply #14 on: 01 December 2012, 09:34:41 pm »
Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm
Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.

Huh. Would you say you love your clients?

As for the question..no, not particularly. I grew up knowing that people cheat and lie in marriages all the time so I never idealized them.
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