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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: MsDee on 01 December 2012, 08:27:30 pm
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For me no, escorting has not tainted what I think of men etc but my personal relationships have yes.
I respect my clients for the reasons that they tend to see escorts, i.e too embarrassed to ask the wife to spank his bum, no sex at home etc. Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
I think the industry has helped me to wisen up to a lot of the bullshit we are told and it has made me very independent and confident.
So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?
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No I don't distrust men, generally.
Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
I don't agree. I can very easily separate love/sex, I often use sex as an extension of my love for someone (friends included) but I don't love someone cos I have sex with them, and I'm sure many/most of us ladies here are the same. We couldn't do this job if we were constantly falling in love with all the men we shagged! :D
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Distrust in what sense? I haven't ever been the possessive type or worried about a man cheating on me, if they're gonna do it then they'll do it, nothing I can do to change that, simples.
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I dont mistrust men because of the job. I just dont trust men period.
I never have and never will. I think the line, how do you know a man is lying ........ cos his lips are moving ........... covers it for me.
Im not really that bad. If a guy says something, I believe him, do I trust him? Hell, Noooooooooooooooo !!
Nothing to do with the job though.
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So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?
No while we see men, we see a sub-section of society, each with their own reasons. I wouldn't feel it very logical to think 'I can't trust any man because all of my clients are married and cheat'.
Men in my personal life are wholly and completely different, and I base my judgement on them based on their individual behaviour. However, I have found that I can lay boundaries out quicker than many females my age, and my escort spidey-sense can weed out the not so good guys really fast.
Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
Unsubstantiated claim. And also not very well thought out, as prostitutes we can clearly separate love and sex. IMO people should not be generalised based on gender.
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Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
I dont agree with that either. I can very easily separate love and sex, Ive NEVER had a problem doing that. Think that is why I find the job so easy and dont let guys affect me the same as others do.
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Unfortunately I have been so trusting and so many people have wrongly bad mouthed me, have taken me for a cunt and just told so many lies. I have to really watch what i'm saying to strangers these days because i'm such an open book and never put on an act in work and it has cost me before. I just don't let it happen anymore. I am a much stronger person but I refuse to become bitter and twisted and have a bad view if men because there are actually good honest men still out there and I will find one eventually.
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Not at all. I still love men and love being in a relationship outside of the business. Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
NB x
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Not at all. I still love men and love being in a relationship outside of the business. Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
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See I'm not really interested in 'boyfriends' I'm just too independent and definitely don't want someone living with me or as I've said loads of times need a man around. Although I am open ti a relationship if I really really like the person but it won't be with just anyone. Obviously I want to get married and settle down in the future but I want to do it properly and definitely won't be doing this.
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For me no, escorting has not tainted what I think of men etc but my personal relationships have yes.
I respect my clients for the reasons that they tend to see escorts, i.e too embarrassed to ask the wife to spank his bum, no sex at home etc. Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
I think the industry has helped me to wisen up to a lot of the bullshit we are told and it has made me very independent and confident.
So ladies do you distrust men in your private life due to the clients you see or are there other reasons?
I didn't really trust men before escorting but now have seen with my own eyes why. But clients the good ones gives me faith in men again until the rude ones over ride. Then am back to square one. I wouldn't like to get married. The thing is some men like the chase until it's over. Say they hit gold with the woman then lose interest. Men get bored easily and are to sly, so am more than happy only seeing men in this escorting circle.
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I dont trust guys at all so anything they say goes in one ear and comes out the other.
But they taught me not to trust by the continious lies they always tell.if one was telling the truth id never know!
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Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
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haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....' ;D
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Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
NB x
haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....' ;D
There seems to be a few of us around that are like this. Since I was in my twenties Ive always looked at a guy and thought, player or not.
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Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
NB x
haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....' ;D
There seems to be a few of us around that are like this. Since I was in my twenties Ive always looked at a guy and thought, player or not.
I like to look around my lecture theatre and play 'guess the future punter/ prossie' always passes the time in stats :P
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Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
Huh. Would you say you love your clients?
As for the question..no, not particularly. I grew up knowing that people cheat and lie in marriages all the time so I never idealized them.
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Men can separate love and sex whereby women can not we use it as a weapon to get love and then tie the two things together.
Huh. Would you say you love your clients?
As for the question..no, not particularly. I grew up knowing that people cheat and lie in marriages all the time so I never idealized them.
I have learned to separate the two now especially dealing with clients. It's an acquired survival skill in this game to prevent from getting heart involved. Reminding myself the reasons the client is with me for a service and no other reason.
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Just do tend to eye up new guys, or friends boyfriends, husbands and mentally tick off who I think could definitley be a punter behind girlfriends back
NB x
haha I do this all the time aswell, add friends dads to the list after one turned up at my door, it should be on 'you know your an escort when....' ;D
There seems to be a few of us around that are like this. Since I was in my twenties Ive always looked at a guy and thought, player or not.
I have to admit at the school fair yesterday a few of the dads were glaring at me as if they were thinking "where have i seen her before lol" and I stood there thinking hmmmm could so jump your bones...
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I was at my grandsons sports day in the summer before they broke up and saw one of my clients there with his wife and children. Didnt bother me in the slightest. We both knew we had a connection with the school and as we live in the same town there are chances we could bump into each other.
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I thin in this job we have to be careful not to generalise all men as the same BUT I would still never completely trust any man but then i would never put ocmplete trust in any woman anymore either.
Trust has to be earnt and is not something I give out freely any longer. Over the years I have learnt the hard way that even the nicest seeming people can break your trust so quickly.
I do not however trust a single word a client says to me, especially the ones who you know just want to date an escort for free sex on tap. I just laugh and find them incredibly boring as they all come out with the same old lines
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I dont mistrust men because of the job. I just dont trust men period.
I never have and never will. I think the line, how do you know a man is lying ........ cos his lips are moving ........... covers it for me.
Im not really that bad. If a guy says something, I believe him, do I trust him? Hell, Noooooooooooooooo !!
Nothing to do with the job though.
Yup, i'm totally with you on this one!!! x
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Nope but there have been a few disappointments. Some people(and men) are very open and confident, others not so.
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I do not however trust a single word a client says to me, especially the ones who you know just want to date an escort for free sex on tap. I just laugh and find them incredibly boring as they all come out with the same old lines
'you're really special to me'
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some women believe everything that is said to them by guys they are delusional when its so obvious to everyone whats happening , the guy screwing around etc and then you think glad im an escort and not putting my heart on my sleeve for any man !
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some women beleive everything that is said to them by guys they are delusional when its so obvious to eveyone whats happening , the guy screwing around etc and then you think glad im an escort and not putting my heart on my sleeve for any man !
I used to be so gullible growing up until now, a man needs to earn my trust before any thing happening. The likely hood of that is slim.
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some women believe everything that is said to them by guys they are delusional when its so obvious to everyone whats happening , the guy screwing around etc and then you think glad im an escort and not putting my heart on my sleeve for any man !
this reminds me of a thread on mumsnet where the woman had found aworks on her husbands bank statement and was trying to find out what it was, had searched it and was told from numerous sources he'd paid to adultwork, the woman made a complete fool of herself when she said 'i looked at that site and no way, DH would never go on a site like that'
are some women living in a fantasy land or something? they honestly believe even with the evidence staring them in the face that their darling OH would never look at or book an escort, many men are cheating bastards and hide it well! Being an escort made me open my eyes to this ;D
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some women believe everything that is said to them by guys they are delusional when its so obvious to everyone whats happening , the guy screwing around etc and then you think glad im an escort and not putting my heart on my sleeve for any man !
this reminds me of a thread on mumsnet where the woman had found aworks on her husbands bank statement and was trying to find out what it was, had searched it and was told from numerous sources he'd paid to adultwork, the woman made a complete fool of herself when she said 'i looked at that site and no way, DH would never go on a site like that'
are some women living in a fantasy land or something? they honestly believe even with the evidence staring them in the face that their darling OH would never look at or book an escort, many men are cheating bastards and hide it well! Being an escort made me open my eyes to this ;D
I would have thought that some woman just don't want to think about the whole cheating concept. Now back to distrusting men topic...
One guy told me a year ago all men are wankers, this was when I didn't believe in that. Escorting sure has made me wiser to be careful. But one day I might find Mr Right. Of course it doesn't help my judgment serving mainly cheaters. The faithful good hearted ones stay at home with their wives. A taxi driver was telling me he wouldn't know about flirting because his been married for 10 years. I could tell though that fun thought of flirting did enter his mind. This was after I said ''yes I'm single able to flirt when ever the opportunities there, because we don't always know when this will be.''
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some women believe everything that is said to them by guys they are delusional when its so obvious to everyone whats happening , the guy screwing around etc and then you think glad im an escort and not putting my heart on my sleeve for any man !
this reminds me of a thread on mumsnet where the woman had found aworks on her husbands bank statement and was trying to find out what it was, had searched it and was told from numerous sources he'd paid to adultwork, the woman made a complete fool of herself when she said 'i looked at that site and no way, DH would never go on a site like that'
are some women living in a fantasy land or something? they honestly believe even with the evidence staring them in the face that their darling OH would never look at or book an escort, many men are cheating bastards and hide it well! Being an escort made me open my eyes to this ;D
I would have thought that some woman just don't want to think about the whole cheating concept
Theres a difference between not wanting to think about it, and being in complete denial when somethings staring you in the face xx
as for me, i started the slow process of leaving my scrounging OH today, and can safely say after this I'm not going near men in a relationship setting ever again, I just cant be arsed with their constant bullshit, and this one hasnt even cheated as far as I know.
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